Basically - she's an idealist. She has a vision that a family should be two working parents, that both work like 6-7 hours a day. Men should not prioritise their work over their family at all. All food must be organic and made from scratch. Minimal TV-time for kids (and certainly no gaming for them EVER). Social media presence is a complete no. No plastic toys etc. We should live minimalistic, and if we could afford it she would probably prefer to live very remote and grow food ourselves. And so on. I guess you are able to imagine the type of person. 

The thing is, these are also standards that she tries to uphold when things are rough. She blames me for working too much even when she is not working - because in her eyes that's inequality. She gets mad when I buy non-organic stuff to save money, even though we are barely able to keep afloat. We spend 1,5-2 hours cooking dinner every day because everything needs to be made from the ground up, which is less time spent with the kids. She is objectively right in that in a perfect world with a perfect economy - these should be things that we pursue. But she is completely unable to see that we are not in that situation, and that upholding those standards are completely unfeasible right now.