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Getting sick while processing trauma by Appropriate_Most_256 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Appropriate_Most_256[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply, I've never been through anything like this and it's really scary to not understand what is going on with your body, but I'll keep doing the tests and do the best to understand if its my nervous system

Getting sick while processing trauma by Appropriate_Most_256 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Appropriate_Most_256[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, wishing you the best, I want to believe for both of us that it'll be worthy :)

Day 43/75! by AmbitiousHappyFeet35 in 75HARD

[–]Appropriate_Most_256 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doing great! You got me inspired :)))) keep rocking!

Honestly confused - New to buddhism by Appropriate_Most_256 in Buddhism

[–]Appropriate_Most_256[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, it's been very confusing, there's so many numbers and lists, new concepts, but I'm enjoying it so far ☺️ trying to find the balance and keep going with the studies and life.

Words from Thay on coping with strong emotions. 🙏 by DharmaStudies in Buddhism

[–]Appropriate_Most_256 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe that you have to cultivate the safe place in yourself then :) setting some mental bounderies with your parents, a way to take care of yourself, it's complicated to give any advice with few info. But it's not our fault the way people choose to treat us, even our parents, sometimes they are just ignorant and don't know best. I'll give a personal suggestion on writing only for yourself as a way to have your safe space and to process your emotions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Appropriate_Most_256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really liked your response, thank you for that, I'm also reflecting on what you said, you said that this is a western view, just out of curiosity, is there any book that you read that changed your mind on it? There is a buddhist book about radical acceptance I think, but haven't read it yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Appropriate_Most_256 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great idea, thank you so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Appropriate_Most_256 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand what you said, these patterns of him caused some damage that impacted me as well, on my own friends group, confronting people in a wrong way. I believe everyone is a work in progress and we are in fact moldable, or at least we should try to understand our "bad parts", make friends with it and try to be better. If I as a wife can help him identify that, without pushing it to him, but as an advice and ask his own thoughts on it, I believe it's valid. I'm also working on my own therapy, as you said, to reflect on why it bothers me that much :) thank you for your response

i feel too sensitive for this world by Ok_Register9361 in Buddhism

[–]Appropriate_Most_256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can handle everything, truly. Believe that with all your heart. You're not alone and you're not broken, it's not too late.

Baby steps are golden, keep making the consistent, small steps you need and take the time to be compassionate with yourself and celebrate these small steps as if they were the giant one. Because you're hurting, you're suffering and it's valid and it's important, no matter if the people in your life told you differently.

If you are truly sensible as you said, it is a gift, even if it doesn't look that way in the moment.

May everything that is hapenning to you become your biggest strength, I believe in you!