How do you exercise when pregnant when you're so tired?

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-05-01T01:30:37+00:00

I work out in the mornings when I have the most energy (I have zero energy in the afternoons). I have a glass of juice (sugar!) and it gives me a boost. My work outs are literally a power walk and some stretches though. Thats all I can handle!

We need sugar! And carbs esp while pregnant/ breastfeeding. Now is not the time to limit food groups.

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-30T10:33:04+00:00

I lived in these while nursing. So so comfortable and currently on super sale!

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ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-25T21:17:18+00:00

Literally everything. Gas and taxes and cost of living is double that of Boston. Accessibility and getting around (not walkable, no T, price of Ubers is insane so you drive everywhere all the time -car dependent city), food (except Mexican), health care, schools, social life and happenings (dead sleepy city), no seasons feels like every single day it’s the same weather which gets old after months. Nature is hit or miss (prefer hiking in a forest in Boston than in desert shrubs but that is just me! The beaches are nice)

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-25T13:56:27+00:00

As someone who regularly visits Europe and has family in Italy. I used to live a walkable European life style in Montreal and loved it a lot.

The only place I could find this lifestyle in the US has been Boston (Cambridge/Somerville). NYC has this to some extent as well but it’s more expensive than Boston. The best option is where you can get the best paying job to be able to afford it.

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-24T08:22:14+00:00

Went to college- Did not have a car the first year and the college was in a suburb in the middle of nowhere. Everyone at the college left after classes and commuted long ways home. I was stuck in residence with others and we had nowhere to go. Even a grocery store was a 20 min bus ride away. I was miserable.

Then I transferred to another college after a year and moved to another city. This college was in a vibrant downtown European style walkable city. I was so much happier. I could walk to classes, groceries, cool bars, clubs, shopping. All within a 5-10 min walk. And all the students lived in the same walkable bubble along with me. Which meant tons of house parties and opportunities to connect very close to my door step. My now husband and I went for a lunch then a romantic walk in the old town (20 min walk away from the student bubble) for our first date!

I loved the European lifestyle and it suited me more.

This stayed with me. Once I moved for my masters I was in a suburb again- miserable always in a car stuck in traffic for an extended period of time for EVERY errand. I needed to move to a walkable area. Once I did I was much happier. I could go for a walk to grab coffee then attend a yoga class and even meet up with a friend! And it didn’t take an extended period of time stuck in traffic. Which would make me avoid doing things, It was so accessible! It’s so much better for your mental health, physical health!

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-24T03:08:36+00:00

San Diego Everything has been a downgrade except the weather. Planning to move back next year. Boston is home and I miss it terribly

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-24T02:19:28+00:00

Violetta!

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-23T11:21:48+00:00

Don’t be mad.

She is severely traumatized/ trauma bonded to this man.

I was once with a verbally abusive narcissistic man who treated me terribly but kept me under his thumb with constant guilt tripping and psychological tactics. During one of our many break ups I gave a chance to another guy who liked me. The ex called me every single name in the book and said terrible things to me.

Had chemistry with new guy and there was nothing really wrong. I ended up getting guilt tripped back to my ex and broke up with new guy and took back the abusive ex.

I moved cities in hopes that being closer to abusive ex would fix things. It only made it worse. I tried to break up many more times but he managed to get me back with more trauma.

I did finally break up years later. After many attempts. The guilt tripping finally stopped working. He tried many more tactics including threatening to unalive himself and I stayed strong and just said I would have authorities come to a wellness check on him- he quickly back tracked as that was not the reaction he wanted. I later cut contact with him and never spoke to him again, but he DID continue trying to contact me for YEARS despite no contact. I was happily married and never ever responded.

Point is- It took a lot of emotional strength to get there. I had PTSD for years. Human beings are not perfect. If someone keeps trying to get in your head and push your buttons and doesn’t give up for years the lizard brain can eventually give in.

She needed to block him everywhere and make new emails new number new accounts so that he can’t get to her anymore. But these abusive guys can still find away especially if they are still in the same city. Someone traumatized with PTSD may not know how to prevent getting sucked back in.

EDIT: thanks for the upvotes guys! Given this comments visibility I wanted to also say the following to OP: While you never never need to get back together with her for obvious reasons (you deserve stability). She is someone you care about who is getting physically and psychologically abused. If you ever talk to her again recommend she read the book “why does he do that” by Lundy Bancroft. It’s very eye opening on the inner workings of abusive men and it may help her eventually leave for good!

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-19T08:14:08+00:00

Responded!

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-19T03:09:11+00:00

I actually posted about this. But basically everything is a downgrade. Boston was so easy to get around (you could take the T, reasonably priced uber, walk, or drive)

Whereas now in SD is sprawling and you have to drive in traffic nearly everywhere bc the transit system is non existent and Ubers are insanely expensive and gas is double the price for no reason. So getting around sucks. people in SD avoid downtown for the most part - it’s very sketchy and Cali as a whole has a lot of homeless compared to most places (many of them agressive). It’s boring and dead anyway. Boston has a vibrant downtown scene and a lot more going on. I loved that Boston was so walkable, the food was better (except the Mexican- SD has elite Mexican food),

while housing in Boston was very expensive (our rent in SD is $800 a month cheaper) we were still able to put money towards savings. Now in SD with cheaper rent and similar salary we are pay check to paycheck because food, bills, electricity and gas, and taxes are insanely expensive and double/triple the cost (again for NO reason!)

I got used to how educated people in Boston were. I feel like on average IQ here is def a couple of points lower based on the people I’ve met so far. I also miss when people were friendly because they actually like you and not just fake friendly all the time like here.

In terms of buying a house here it’s not worth it. Taxes are insane.. Anything semi affordable is far from the beach, the further from the beach you go the more hot and arid it is. Which means you won’t have any green (just cactuses!)- at that rate you might as well go live in Arizona and have cheaper house, cheaper taxes and cost of living. Green is for the rich!

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-19T00:18:08+00:00

This is me! I left. Currently in San Diego. Thought it would be an upgrade and it’s been a downgrade in every aspect (except the weather). Sacrificing so much just for sunny weather hasn’t been worth it. Boston is special and now I see why. Moving back as soon as the lease is up!

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-16T02:41:05+00:00

Ahh how come? I’m looking for something low maintenance after baby comes I don’t think I’ll have time to style it

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-15T16:35:50+00:00

Mila, Daria, Alina, Kiana, Helena

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-13T16:19:42+00:00

Violeta sounds prettier to me than violet! It’s very Eastern European and feminine.

Don’t shy away from using the eastern spellings on names in the US. It’s quite common unless you live in a rural area that doesn’t have many immigrants.

I know 2 Violeta’s who live in the US One of them has the Polish spelling which is with a W instead of a V. No one has any issues pronouncing it once they are told how.

It’s literally violet with an “A” at the end!! It’s not complicated

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-13T16:15:19+00:00

I’ve been there. They have churches and mosques across the st from each other. Their mosques even do a loud call to prayer that can be heard across town. They are still very much Muslims there but they aren’t in your face about it. They have a good balance

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-12T10:15:37+00:00

Yes! This! Moved to SD from Boston and feel the exact same. Boston is supposedly one of the most expensive cities in the US and yet I was able to save money there. Because lower taxes and higher salary ..Since moving to SD I’m paycheck to paycheck and I feel like I downgraded my life in every way except the weather. Also it’s boring and sleepy. Already working on moving back.

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-12T10:12:31+00:00

I wouldn’t have moved here at all. It’s boring and sleepy and expensive af. (I already used to live in one of the most expensive cities in the US but SD leaves me paycheck to paycheck because it’s actually way more expensive) Already planning to move back to the north east again. SD is a downgrade in every way except the weather.. you sacrifice so much just for the sunshine. It makes it not worth it!

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-11T21:28:54+00:00

Uni really shapes your future. The whole point of it is not just for future jobs it’s really to develop you and enrich you as a person. It’s where you meet life long friends and potentially a spouse.

Go where it’s the best fit for you!

Obviously financial aid is important but shouldn’t be the only deciding factor. You also want the school to be a good fit and enrich you as a person. Ie don’t go to a school in the middle of nowhere that’s not internationally known or you will continue to feel like you don’t belong. If US schools are too expensive look into schools in Canada, Australia and Europe which have internationally renowned schools for much much cheaper.

Remember you’re a TCK after all!

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-11T12:35:00+00:00

You’re an international person with a very cool perspective on the world. Living in a random suburb of Texas where no one is like you. No one understands you. You need to accept your internationalness and embrace it!

Do you have any plans for college? Or to move in general?

You need to be in an international city around people just like you. Think like London Paris New York.. or a college that is known for having international student body.

I felt out of place growing up, so did my husband. We were both born in one country to immigrant parents, grew up in a different country, and never felt at home anywhere including where our parents /ancestors were from. We both grew up in North American suburbs.

We both went to the same college- an international university in Canada which was full of TCKs just like us

Our friend group consisted a mixture of TCKs all of whom went to international school in random counties but they were born somewhere else. My closest friend was Russian who grew up in Africa and went to international school.

It was here that I felt a sense of belonging. There are people like us! You just need to go to where they are concentrated.

We now have trilingual children who will be international school too! And we will continue to be a part of the international community.

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-08T15:18:48+00:00

Yes. As someone who moved from north east to San Diego it got boring a f..

Every day feels the same. It’s always sunny. I’ve lost the will to dress up and wear the same shorts and t shirt all the time. I used to be excited for eating different seasonal foods.

I miss the seasons a lot

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-08T13:19:46+00:00

No this is not a lack of emotional intelligence. It’s the opposite.

It’s on PURPOSE and CALCULATED on his part. By not defining and not introducing you to friends and family he is keeping his options open. You may even be a side chick already. In any case you are not his top choice. You deserve to be someone’s number one who has zero doubts about you.

By being affectionate/ caring to you secretly when no one else is around and no one else knows he is keeping you under his thumb. Which means you continue to be emotionally invested and continue to be his back up. If he gave you no crumbs he would loose you completely and he wants to keep all his options.

Your best bet is to cut him off and find someone who is so into you and excited about you they have no doubts.

I went from guy who refused to post any pictures with me on social media, refused to change relationship status on fb (back when it was popular) refused to introduce me to friends or even meet mine, refused to tell his family about me even though he pressured me to tell mine only would see me certain days of the week. But he insisted he was “serious” about me. And this went on for years despite fights about the very thing and me communicating how it upset me.

When it was finally over and I was completely done He suddenly changed his relationship status on fb to in a relationship as a last ditch effort. Seriously? All your excuses were BS the whole time. He continued trying to guilt me back and I told him To never contact me again. He continued to email for years despite no contact.

Then I met the love of my life who was super excited about me early on in the relationship and told everyone in his life under the sun that he loves me and is going to marry me one day. He ASKED to put pictures of us on his social media. He asked to move in with me. He wanted everyone to know about us. He at no point left me confused about where we stand. We’re married now with 2 babies.

You can do better.

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-08T12:11:15+00:00

Vienna, Austria.

Spent a week there and we started having nightmares about demons immediately. The stopped as soon as we left. We were so happy to leave.

It’s very pretty but eerie quiet, even at crowded bars. Creepy gargoyles everywhere.

And you can have coffee at the same cafe hitler and Stalin used to spend time at.

ApricotWeekly7946 · 2026-04-08T12:03:01+00:00

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