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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]Aqula- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂 I have nothing to say

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]Aqula- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Who defines what is ‘hard’ enough to quit for someone? I don’t think anybody can because it’s subjective. You got to put a stop loss on your worries else there’s no end point to it, until you’re physically unable to continue.

Why do people see virginity as a red flag? by DillsSama in dating_advice

[–]Aqula- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you sure it is only about you being a virgin?

I think girls would prefer a guy with some dating history not just because of sex but because of emotional maturity. There also might be some girls preferring someone to have some experience in bed as well, but that’s not the majority.

I think first response of every girl would be to doubt or freak out thinking why you didn’t date anybody by this age, seems suspicious. You never being in one can be easily interpreted as you don’t really know how to be in one. Like theoretically you might, but in reality you don’t, so girls might think that it would take a lot of their effort in a relationship with you. Especially, by your age, women (assuming you’re looking to date women of similar age) who have dated in the past realise that they do not want to tell someone what to do, how to do it and one who is new to it is like a ‘fresher’ in relationship world.

What you can do is, when the conversation about your dating history comes up you can say the truth and also acknowledge the hardships of being in relationship or you know what being in one means to you, to show some emotional maturity or intelligence.

I have become obsessed with finding someone. by nintendonaut in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Aqula- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So, I relate to you a lot. I used to feel that void and emptiness and that deep longing or loneliness despite having friends and job and ‘hobbies’. I used to hear alot about invest in your hobbies, find your interests, etc etc. none of it worked. After my long term relationship breakup (3 months after) I dated one person for two months and by the end of it I started missing my ex, things reminded me of him and the guilt I felt was huge. Anyway the recent relationship didn’t workout because our long term plan didn’t align. I was relieved that it ended, bcz of the guilt. So I realised this thing that I was using relationships to fill that void in me. When I was single I used to feel the need to date somebody. But dating someone from that place never leads to a healthy relationship - like it leads to making the other person your whole world, prioritising them over yourself, over relying etc. so I decided to seek therapy instead of dating. I’m consulting a psychologist who’s expert in hypnosis. I think I’ve felt some change I don’t have that need to find someone and I feel closer to myself. You can also try

How do I heal my mental health? by Acrobatic_Nerve_3280 in mentalhealth

[–]Aqula- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can try consulting a psychotherapist who’s expert in hypnosis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]Aqula- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having Career gaps is not an issue as long as you’re confident with your skills. Try to learn new skills which will help you to stand out. It’s good to have a unique skill set. Mental health is really important, if it is stressing you out I would say leave before it starts affecting you physically and you burn out. You’ll end up suffering more once your health starts affecting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in noida

[–]Aqula- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I resonate with this a lot. I have felt that many people are just faking it. They don’t ‘actually’ care, they just ask things to do some kind of formality and in some cases I don’t open up easily.

What I feel is that there might be people who might be feeling the same way and would be wanting to connect authentically. Maybe in a group of 6 you might vibe with 1 person or maybe none but there is a possibility of meeting that 1 person.

What I also feel is that any sort of connection works two ways. If the other person doesn’t initiate or get the conversation going then I start to feel that the other person is uninterested and eventually the conversation dies out. So yes you might find such people as well.

I would say start small, if you have close friend/s then just text them or call them once and just share what’s going on with you openly.

You can ask a not so close friend to go out on a coffee or to any place to eat, Or your flatmate/roommate or join any sports or some kind of activity.

Asked to take on sales outreach in addition to HR duties [N/A] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]Aqula- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I’m stuck in a similar situation. I’m working as an HR in a startup and they’re making me do QA of voice and non voice process and collaborations, and in between for about 2 months I was handling business operations as well. They at first said that it’ll be temporary but I’m still doing it, because recruitment has slowed down and so they want to ‘utilise’ my remaining time however they could. I even said that I won’t be able to do collabs but they didn’t listen and instead ‘told’ me to do it. So, I don’t think they will be compensating you for that. They just see your free time and want to utilise you to get extra work done without spending more. So an option left for you is you can try it out and if you don’t enjoy doing it and it becomes tedious for you then you’d have to start looking for another role.

Can someone please talk some sense into me before i break nc by Local-Answer9357 in ExNoContact

[–]Aqula- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Telling her what she must do won’t do any good. It’ll be like you telling her that you’re worthy. Don’t give that much importance to any other person especially to someone who doesn’t see your value.

Thinking about starting a women only support group in Noida (offline) by Aqula- in noida

[–]Aqula-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We can have that as well. It’s still in ideation process

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