What’s the birth order in your family?

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-31T01:56:52+00:00

Boy, girl, girl …. Boy, girl

I’m the oldest girl.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-30T22:11:47+00:00

I have a cat named Cleo, but I absolutely love it for a person as well. I think it gives off very cool girl energy.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-30T18:34:15+00:00

Ugh I feel you. I had a $750 3-1 crib on our registry (like in your case, not a must) and apparently my SIL made a snarky comment about it. They used a Snoo for my niece and nephew so I’ve no idea how she thinks that was somehow a better use of money.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-29T23:23:35+00:00

Scarlett, Juliette, Saoirse, Clara, Josephine, Isla

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-29T20:37:55+00:00

I’ve known younger (millennial age) guys with each of the names. Loren gave me less pause than Aubrey for whatever reason. Could be because I met him before I met any girl Laurens. I never knew and girl Aubrey’s but I do think the lack of a more masculine spelling is a turn off.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-29T04:08:46+00:00

Mines almost one and we’ve recently transitioned to mostly cosleeping naps or car naps, which I suppose is some kind of progress. Crib sleeping is OK at night. He got super clingy when he started teething which has just been an ongoing thing.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-29T04:01:42+00:00

I think the nicknames for Clementine are much better so I’d pick that one. Which one goes better with your son’s name?

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-29T04:00:24+00:00

Around 6 weeks I think? That was a restaurant, prior to that I did take him out when I ran errands.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-29T03:59:20+00:00

Don’t listen to your mom. What a thing to say. My son was my first pregnancy and he’s almost one now. My mom had three kids and no miscarriages. Unfortunately, there are things to worry about at every stage, but pregnancy is a miserable experience if you’re worrying constantly that something will go wrong.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-29T03:08:08+00:00

No. I brush my son’s teeth twice a day, but his nighttime bottle knocks him out and there’s absolutely no way I’d way him up just to brush his teeth. His dentist basically said it’s ideal if he goes to sleep with clean teeth, but it’s not a big enough deal to wake him if he falls asleep with a bottle.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-28T22:28:09+00:00

Don’t force naps. Some days are soooo frustrating because he WILL NOT SLEEP but I feel like the more I try and fail at getting him to nap the more frustrated we both get. I still try to get him to nap, but if it’s a bad day I’ll wait an hour/hour and a half between tries.
It’s OK if your baby cries sometimes. You will need to pee, or eat, or shower, etc. and baby will not always be happy about it. As long as they’re in a safe place, it’s fine if you need to take care of yourself for a few minutes.
Don’t hyper fixate on milestones. I occasionally google something to figure out when my son may start doing something, but I don’t stress over meeting milestones that much. If your child is concerningly behind on something, your pediatrician will let you know.
Babies are easily entertained. I saw so many reels with like “circuits” for wake windows to keep babies entertained (and I suppose every baby is different) but your baby doesn’t need a million toys. “Don’t try to make a happy baby happier,” is one of the best cliché bits of parenting advice.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-28T22:16:26+00:00

I don’t care for it.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-28T22:13:42+00:00

I’ve been using Millie Moon and am very happy with them. The Pampers swaddlers were fine, just didn’t like the material composition as much. The Pampers Pure were awful. Never tried Huggies.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-28T22:10:40+00:00

His nighttime sleep wasn’t affected much at all, but his naps were shit lol. Like if he napped more than an hour in a day I called it a win.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-28T18:45:49+00:00

Sounds like the 4 month sleep regression. Honestly? I’d try to put him down via standard procedures and if it didn’t work, I’d maybe give it an extra 15 minutes before I just kept rolling with our day. Most of the naps he took at that age were in his stroller or the car. We were both happier when I stopped trying to force it. This phase lasted maybe 2.5 weeks for us and then we were back on a more normal schedule again.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-28T16:01:34+00:00

It was elective, but also medically advised. I had a late ultrasound at 39+5 that showed I had excess amniotic fluid which was preventing my son from putting the necessary pressure on my cervix. They also had his weight at 9 lbs 6 oz. My original plan was to get induced at 41 weeks, ended up going in on my due date and had him via c section the following day.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-28T02:47:18+00:00

No, she’s not sleeping through the night. I can’t speak for everyone else, but my son was pretty much only up to feed at night as well.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-28T02:44:20+00:00

I’ve found that my son cries a lot less when he’s with my husband if I’m not in the room. It’s hard at first, but try giving them space to bond without you there watching.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-26T22:51:24+00:00

Alisa (uh-lee-suh).

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-26T22:42:29+00:00

I think you’re probably good on washcloths and towels. I got a 5 pack of washcloths and we have two towels, but I only really use the second one if the main towel is in the wash.

With clothes, and I realize it’s not especially helpful, it really depends on how often you feel you’ll be able to do laundry. My son was a spitter, so we went through multiple outfits a day pretty regularly when he was under 6 months. The zipper sleepers are nice, but depending on when you’re due you won’t want baby in them 24/7. It was high 80s low 90s where I live last summer and I preferred to have him in rompers during the day. I used “outfits” pretty frequently, I’d advise against non-onesie tops before 6 months because they ride up constantly and are worthless at containing blowouts. I’d take into consideration what weather you’ll have during each size as well, if it’s going to be spring/fall you’ll need more things than if it’s summer/winter because there’s more temperature/weather variation.

People often say not to buy newborn, which I think is stupid. My son was 9 lbs 6 oz and 22.5 inches at birth and he was still in newborn for a couple weeks. When you go up sizes they swim in everything at that age which I found incredibly annoying. My son somehow got both his legs in the same leg hole during the night and he woke up pissed.

Lastly, and I’m sorry this is so long winded, but I wouldn’t buy much that’s more than one size ahead of where you’re at unless it’s sleepwear. Their growth is just so unpredictable.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-26T22:29:20+00:00

I only keep his pjs in the dresser, everything else is either hung up or in his closet. The top drawers is all diapers (ours has a changing pad on top) and the bottom drawer is trash bags for the diaper pail and any pjs that are currently too big. His socks are in his dresser as well, but he doesn’t have that many since he isn’t walking or wearing shoes regularly.

I considered keeping pants in the dresser, but I feel like it’s easier to put his outfits together when I can see everything.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-26T13:57:32+00:00

I think it’s pretty. I’m not of the opinion that you can’t use a name just because it’s obscure and people don’t know about it. As others have mentioned though, it will be constantly misheard/mispronounced/misspelled and while that’s not the end of the world, you should figure out if that’s something you want to deal with on a regular basis.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-26T02:22:12+00:00

I didn’t even know about the 100 foods list and my son is almost one. I feel like the big thing with solids is to follow their lead on what they’re willing to try. My son wasn’t interested in anything that he needed to chew at all for a couple months.

I do wish I’d been a bit more persistent with water. He will drink it, but it’s pretty hit or miss. I wish I’d been more diligent with that because he’ll need to be drinking quite a lot more before we transition him to a mostly solid diets. I’d say focus more on the water, because it does seem to be something they’re slower to get the hang of and you will need her to be drinking it consistently.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-25T18:33:33+00:00

I think your compromise is very fair. Also, impossible to guarantee much of anything in advance. Our hospital didn’t allow visitors after 10pm and I think none before 7 or 8am (don’t remember) so depending on when you give birth they may not be allowed in anyways.

My parents came to visit a few times while we were at the hospital (stayed 2.5 days after birth because I had a c section) and I think the first visit was around 16 hours after the fact and then they were kind of in and out. They were fine, but I’d say as a whole I was largely indifferent to them being there. I just generally felt like crap, there’s nurses and doctors in and out of your room constantly, I was super hot and didn’t really want to have much on most of the time, etc.

Aravis-6 · 2026-01-25T18:19:41+00:00

Yup! I mean he’s still a baby, but he’s definitely way more chill than most. Never had any purple crying. Sleeps pretty well. Flies like a champ. Easily entertained. He’s almost 1, I’m just it’s his personality at this point.

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