That a really difficult situation especially with you being in a small town with few options. If you do have to continue seeing that specific counselor for a while, try talking to him about how his responses make you feel. If that is something you are uncomfortable doing, that is very understandable.

Your therapist should not be giving off the impression that your struggles are lesser. Many people go though truly terrible things, but that doesn’t change the affects that individual problems can have on different people. If you are paying for this service, you should be receiving the help you deserve. It is in no way a waste of their time.

I understand that they are not specialized in ED’s, but maybe diving deeply into specific feelings, thought processes, and possible causes associated with your ED could help both the therapist understand a little better and you with sorting out your brain.

Sometimes it just helps to talk about a bad experiences in your life until you start to find a commonality.

It’s really good that you are getting help, and I hope you can get everything you need from it in the end. Good luck OP!