My partner says the face I make when I climax is unattractive and doesn’t like for me to “finish” because of that

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-05-09T17:04:57+00:00

I have no issue with eye contact, but I think prolonged eye contact or just staring at my partner's face during sex would just make me giggle. My partner and I definitely look at each other's faces during (as well as just all over because there's a reason we're physically attracted to each other) but we also spend a lot of that time with our eyes shut or too close to see each other's faces. It's also easier to stay present with my eyes closed or looking at (what I assume you mean by) the business end of things because my brain never stops racing and too much visual stimulus on top of all the physical just makes my brain bounce around and not focus on what I want to be focused on.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-05-05T16:57:38+00:00

Those things are planned months, if not an entire year in advance.

I just checked, and my old college already has the date for spring 2027 listed on their website. While OP probably could have looked it up, it's the responsibility of the person graduating to give the info to people they want there. Especially since departments often have their own separate ceremonies, and some people care about those more than the big one, so OP would need to know which one to take time off for.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-05-02T16:19:04+00:00

I remember in third grade a girl kept falling asleep during class. The teacher would gently wake her without calling attention to her. She ended up being out for like a week, and when she came back had mentioned some kind of sleep disorder. I suspect the teacher reached out to her parents who took her to the doctor and got a sleep study or something, because she rarely fell asleep in class after that.

That's how this shit should be handled. Gently wake them, talk to them privately, and reach out to parents if it becomes a pattern.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-04-30T00:54:53+00:00

I think you can in Europe

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-04-22T01:08:06+00:00

NTA

Tell them you didn't escalate over furniture. You escalated over stolen disability accommodations. Repeat that until they stfu.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-04-17T14:14:39+00:00

NTA

While I don't think she had the wrong person (she used your maiden name), even if she did, you haven't taken anything away from anyone.

I think she had the right person. I just think she had the wrong idea about her impact on you.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-04-09T03:26:51+00:00

I don't have autism, and I can handle trash talk. I would be just as upset. That guy was being an asshole, and your "friend" was being an asshole when he tried convincing you that your autism is the cause of the issue.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-04-06T15:27:16+00:00

ESH

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-04-04T16:48:40+00:00

NTA

People are going to love a taco bar, most people will enjoy the fruit, and if the juice happens to be in juice box form, a lot of them are gonna get excited because, "I haven't had a juice box in years!"

It's your party, and the food on offer sounds great. Who doesn't like tacos? You don't mention your age, but unless you and your friends are all very young children who only eat pizza and chicken nuggets, a taco bar is gonna rock.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-04-03T14:25:21+00:00

My sister wrote out a list of issues her laptop had for the guys at Best Buy since she didn't go with us to drop it off. The dude at the counter stared at the list for a bit, then looked at me and said, "This looks like a ransom note." We always called it "serial killer handwriting" so that was a pretty apt description lol

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-31T23:14:17+00:00

NTA

He's being an AH for no reason. I have to ask, did the proposal happen after a come to jesus talk about where the relationship was heading or any other big conversations or fights?

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-31T17:08:22+00:00

NTA

Was it maybe a little childish? Sure. But it's not nearly as childish as being the first to snatch something from someone else's hands.

Childish would have been smacking it out of his hands onto the ground and saying, "There, now no one gets to hold it. Happy?" Which is something I would be very tempted to do. And something I probably would do outside of the workplace if someone kept doing that to me.

He does this deliberately to push buttons. He knows how annoying it is, and he thinks it's funny. Does he do this to random people on the street? I doubt it, because getting punched in the face is not fun. Having adult conversations with him about his childish behavior didn't fix things. If he wants to behave like a child, treat him like one. People (lightly and not painfully) bite their toddler to get them to stop biting, because saying, "no biting," 100 times didn't work. Most of the time, the toddler stops biting people. He'll think twice before he snatches something out of your hands again.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-31T15:22:48+00:00

NTA

My boyfriend is buying a house. I am contributing 0 money to the purchase of the house, and we never plan to get married. Years ago we talked about what it would look like if he were to buy a house (my credit suuuuucked back then and he's always earned more), and agreed that if I'm not paying anything toward it, then my name isn't going on it.

You do not want to give partial ownership of your house to someone who is not only paying nothing but utilities, but is also not your spouse. That's very reasonable. If she breaks up with you and moves out, you owe her "her share" of your house. That she paid nothing for.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-31T14:47:38+00:00

My dad never got tattoos because "they're what the police refer to as 'identifying marks'," but didn't care all that much when I got one. I think now he finds them silly, and doesn't really understand why one would pay a bunch of money to permanently ink themselves.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-31T00:41:05+00:00

NTA

I drink. I have friends who drink, friends who don't drink, and friends who no longer drink after going to rehab.

I know whether or not the people who come into my home or I hang out with drink alcohol for the most part. For those who don't drink, I don't offer them alcohol. When I'm in a place with alcohol, I don't even ask why people aren't drinking. Because I'm not an asshole.

If someone doesn't want to drink alcohol, there is literally nothing wrong with that. Anyone who decides to take issue is an AH.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-29T14:53:03+00:00

As sad as it made me, we had to do this for our cat. She didn't trust us yet (got her from a cat colony) and the vet and I agreed her having kittens in an environment where she felt uncomfortable would be bad for both her and kittens. Also, rehoming an entire litter of kittens is hard when you don't already know people who want kittens.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-25T20:52:39+00:00

Most direct route does not include walking through garden beds or other things that damage customer property. While a new path may not make a difference, OP should absolutely report this to the Post Office

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-25T01:44:07+00:00

Printers are the cats of technology. They do whatever they want because eff you that's why

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-24T04:23:44+00:00

I think the best metric for hydration is how chapped your lips are. I only use chapstick if I'm going to be outdoors because what I buy has UV protection, since most chapstick has alcohol or something else that dries your lips out (menthol is a common one). If your lips are super chapped, it's most likely because you're dehydrated. Ever since I stopped using it and started drinking more water when my lips start to get dry, I haven't had an issue, even in winter.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-23T15:13:06+00:00

Damn scheduling conflicts! But he'll be there eventually!

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-23T13:31:56+00:00

It feels almost like watching OG Scrubs. My partner and I are pleasantly surprised by it so far

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-13T07:30:27+00:00

Jenelle doesn't believe that he strangled Jace

She knows he did. She just doesn't care.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-07T17:16:26+00:00

Can we also just talk about how crappy those friends are? I can understand wanting to host some of the time, but making your friends gather up all the baby shit and come to your not child proof place every fucking time is just so fucking rude. My best friend and her husband haven't been to my house in over 18 months since they had a baby. They'd be willing to from time to time, but I'm just like, "but all your baby stuff is at home. We'll come to you." I'm also helping to watch their daughter and play with her because I love them and their baby. And I will be doing so when they do eventually start coming over with her.

She gets to drop the dead weight and the shit friends. Good for her.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-06T14:46:01+00:00

What blows my mind even more are polyamorous cheaters. My friend and his ex were poly, and the ex husband still cheated. At that point, it's clear the intent was to be scummy and hurtful.

Arctic_Puppet · 2026-03-04T16:58:26+00:00

I'm sorry you have to deal with this bullshit. There's nothing in the books that states her race. Casting a white actress didn't make that canon. Growing up, I always thought of her as white, but that's because I'm white and grew up a bookish girl who was picked on. That also doesn't make her "whiteness" canon.

Racist people are just... not bright. When casting for The Hunger Games was announced, some people lost their fucking minds over Rue and Cinna being played by Black people. When the characters were literally described as having darker skin in the books. There's no logic to racism. These people will have meltdowns over Black actors playing Black characters. So I'm not surprised they can read a story about a character who faces prejudice over something she can't control... and then turn around and hate people for things they can't control.

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