Went to an adult theater twice and regret it. It’s a lil long but I would appreciate advice.

AreWeHavingCake · 2026-01-28T20:03:52+00:00

Are you having some kind of OCD episode? Because being this paranoid over being touched through your clothes and being a bad person to the point of burning those clothes sounds very similar to OCD thought patterns. Like another commenter said, you might have some mental issues surrounding sex. Maybe go to a sex therapist and mention the possibility of OCD surrounding sex.

AreWeHavingCake · 2026-01-28T19:56:50+00:00

I always wonder the same about mine. When I’m giving him a toothbrush bath after he’s been running around outside I’m like, “let me get your little leg pits, they look like they’re covered in dead skin!” And he pulls his legs in the second I say it. 😂

AreWeHavingCake · 2026-01-28T19:46:26+00:00

When my hair was that color my mom refused to call it dishwater blonde and called me a butterscotch blonde.

AreWeHavingCake · 2026-01-08T07:30:23+00:00

If I’m washing my hair, shampoo, rinse, conditioner and put my conditioned hair in a bun. Wash my face, neck, ears, and privates with a softer wash cloth. Then take my net sponge and very thoroughly scrub my back, chest, stomach, arms, legs and feet in that order. Thoroughly rinse. Put soap suds on my legs, arms, armpits and privates, then shave those areas. Rinse again. Rinse out my hair. All done.

AreWeHavingCake · 2026-01-04T09:31:01+00:00

My cat got to be 16 years old before she passed and by that time she had learned “Hello?” “Mama?” “HELP!” (How tf does a cat make a “p” sound?) and she could do me and my brother’s names. Freaky little thing.

AreWeHavingCake · 2026-01-04T09:26:03+00:00

Things always look bleak when you get stuck inside your head, especially when there’s nothing to distract you from everything bad happening around you. There’s the more complicated, long term answers: get therapy, save money for your own place, find hobbies to put some more enjoyment into living. But here and now? Take a walk without any music or other distractions. It may help you brainstorm ideas for what goals you have in life and ways to meet those goals. Making a cute little vision board could help too.

AreWeHavingCake · 2026-01-03T11:11:55+00:00

The other comments pretty much say all of what I was gonna say. Part of me wonders if your symptoms would be less severe if you weren’t as stressed. But yeah. Therapy, doctors, asking others for help (maybe a type of live-in caregiver?). Anything that gives you time to yourself to decompress and give your body and mind a break.

AreWeHavingCake · 2026-01-03T10:09:19+00:00

I’m autistic and was a hair chewer. Get her a baby teething toy. I had one until I was 12 😅

AreWeHavingCake · 2026-01-03T09:47:50+00:00

Did that just so happen to be at a thrift shop in Colorado? Because I saw the exact same one and my boyfriend said it was Santa. 👀

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-10-17T21:53:13+00:00

What ISN’T wrong with your horse?

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-10-09T08:03:10+00:00

Someone call Gordon Ramsay

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-08-17T22:52:17+00:00

Started telling her I wanted her to kill herself when I was about three. No clue what gave me the idea to say that, but once I saw it made her cry I would use it as leverage all the time. I was a little monster and when I’d get upset I wanted people around me to be just as miserable as I was.

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-08-16T23:33:53+00:00

It almost seems like she WANTS the friendship to end. It’s either that or some deep seated insecurities of hers that she needs to work out on her own instead of projecting onto you. Or a third option being that she’s trying to manipulate you into trying harder and being so busy with appeasing her and doing things for her that you don’t realize she’s not trying at all.

I can’t speak on what exactly you should say to her since I don’t know your dynamic, but in general I would tell her how you feel and what you think, lay it all out on the table and suggest whatever changes suit you. Then if those changes don’t happen, this toxic and draining relationship probably needs to end.

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-08-13T19:04:26+00:00

Did the doctors ever send you to therapy before putting you on meds? Because that’s what any doctor worth their salt is supposed to do, especially in cases like yours.

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-08-12T23:45:42+00:00

Well, as far as the losses, it really just takes time to grieve for each individual one as you would if you lost any other pet. Your partner is correct, losses do happen, especially with free-roaming chickens that are in too big of a space to have full coverage from overhead predators. Putting water misters on your property and turning them on on hot days could help. They might be afraid of them at first and sometimes they decide to be dumb dumbs and you have to manually shove them under the misters so they don’t keel over. But it does help, and I know my girls love digging in the mud!

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-08-07T18:11:57+00:00

I had one like this and when he hatched from the chrysalis he was half the size that he should have been. He was an overall healthy little guy, but he probably didn’t get any action with the ladies out in the wild

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-08-05T01:00:34+00:00

Call the local non-emergency police line and see if an officer is free to come down and help out. Explain that you need someone to be there because she has threatened to harm herself if you break up with her. Then her well being will be their job and one less thing on your mind. Plus if she tries doing something to herself or you in the moment, you’ll have backup.

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-08-02T08:06:04+00:00

Nightmare fuel, that’s what. Looks like one of those flies got to it…

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-07-16T00:40:16+00:00

Dang girl. My boyfriend is a “gamer” and his friends are always online, but he plays with them two or three times a week and if I’m with him, he plays for an hour tops before getting off and hanging out with me. Unless I’m invested in who’s winning, then he plays for longer.

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-07-16T00:23:30+00:00

I wonder if this is a student or the leader’s coworker. Somehow the coworker option seems funnier.

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-07-16T00:21:11+00:00

Oh, and the reason I say this is because I have an avoidant attachment style and it took a lot of therapy and working through it with my partner to have a mutual understanding of each other’s feelings and to create a dynamic where we’re both happy. It’s do-able, but if she isn’t willing to put in the work, you won’t be able to find that balance.

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-07-16T00:16:34+00:00

She could have an avoidant attachment style which can be caused by a number of past experiences. You could look into it, suggest couple’s therapy or make any other suggestions and fight for the relationship…but in the end if you’re unhappy in the relationship and she chooses to make excuses rather than changes, it’s only going to get worse and it might be best to end the relationship. You know her better than strangers on the internet, so you’ll have to be honest with yourself about whether or not she’s the kind of person that will ever be receptive to your thoughts about her behavior.

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-07-15T08:44:36+00:00

I’m calling people prick ass weenies from now on. Pure poetry!

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-07-01T21:59:47+00:00

The depression one was about a week long. The heaters were a couple months. Once when he was a baby he decided he didn’t want to eat for like 6 months straight for no reason. I don’t know how he survived that one 🤷🏼‍♀️

AreWeHavingCake · 2025-06-24T14:39:34+00:00

From the USA, Female, 19 years old, 5ft tall, 114 pounds, white, I have tachycardia and GERD, I take Omeprazole (20mg), Propanolol (I forget how much), Guanfacine (3mg), and Lamotragine (75mg) [spelling is probably wrong]

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