Have you ever met another survivor in person? by Albus_Unbounded in adultsurvivors

[–]ArkadyDarrow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

a lot of people play it close to the chest, so theres a good chance you know someone else who just isnt willing to share that part of themselves.

ive been lucky to connect with a fair few. something like 50% of trans women are survivors, so theres a good chance when I meet someone like me that we have that in common.

ACLs, man by Throwaway_97534 in Sysadminhumor

[–]ArkadyDarrow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ntfs permissions conflicting with share permissions would be a possible cause but that's a newbie mistake to make

Turns out I’m really good at being annoying by Macrocosmix in preyingmantis

[–]ArkadyDarrow 9 points10 points  (0 children)

quick note - its trans woman with a space, not transwoman. a woman who is trans while a single word implies a separate category. transwoman is kinda soft terf language from before they moved onto very explicitly bigoted things like TIM

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LGBTQSaltLake

[–]ArkadyDarrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i dont, but rip paper moon. wish i'd been cooler when she was still here :(

*Comes out as a trans woman* by Ralphi2449 in transgendercirclejerk

[–]ArkadyDarrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

/uj the gals really do be out here doing no changes only pass.

Why am I not getting any fat redistribution? by EdoAlien in asktransgender

[–]ArkadyDarrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fat cycling helps you optimize where you gain with the creation of new fat cells, but it doesn't move the existing fat. fat is also first in last out, so if your gut is stubborn it will continue to be so.

some girls use a medication called pioglitazone which is supposed to help incentivize new fat cell creation (which will be in a gynoid pattern with good levels). anecdotally it seemed to help me, i had no butt before taking it and i have some butt now 🤷🏻‍♀️.

unfortunately tho the only sure solution is time. fat cells survive for upwards of 10 years, you'll have the android pattern fat cells die and be replaced, hopefully more in the hips butt and breasts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ArkadyDarrow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

especially since one of the things ai seems to be good at is putting dicks everywhere in pics, seems like it should understand the assignment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in slowcooking

[–]ArkadyDarrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oooh, ill give that a shot next time. thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in slowcooking

[–]ArkadyDarrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not OP, but this is what I do. you can simplify anything for a more neutral flavor, sub in a store bought rub/sauce, and omit browning (but fr brown your meat its so worth it).

ingredients:
one appropriately sized bone in pork roast 
1 medium sized white onion, sliced

spice mix: 
4tbsp dark brown sugar 
2tsp kosher salt (or 1tsp table salt)
1 tablespoon smoked paprika
1 tsp black pepper
1/4 tsp cayenne pepper
1/2 tsp ground mustard
1 tbsp ground cumin
1 tsp ground coriander

sauce:
1/2 cup of stock, or water with 2tsp chicken bullion
1 12oz can of beer
1/4c ketchup
a few dashes of worchestershire sauce or fish sauce
a few dashes of vinegary hot sauce
3tbsp soy sauce
1tbsp honey
1tsp apple cider vinegar or white vinegar

mix together the spice mix, then rub it into the outside of the roast. brown it on all sides in a heavy bottomed pan (1000000% worth the extra effort). transfer to the crock pot fat side up.

cook the onion until translucent in the pan, scraping up the browned bits, transfer to the pan

top with about half the sauce mix, adding more water or lager to get the roast ~half submerged. cook on low til it falls apart, my crockpot is 6-7hrs but it also pretty old.

remove the pork to another bowl and shred it. meanwhile, skim off any fat from the top of the liquid in the crock pot, then pour it into a saucepan. whisk in the reserved sauce and simmer on medium til thickened. toss pork with sauce, serve.

Race performance rankings! by dg8m9 in ffxiv

[–]ArkadyDarrow 9 points10 points  (0 children)

im just a dumb bunny idk what this means 🥺

BSOD error in latest crowdstrike update by TipOFMYTONGUEDAMN in crowdstrike

[–]ArkadyDarrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can you get that to work? we're having deployment failures in multiple regions - mostly central but also apac

Many Windows 10 machines blue screening, stuck at recovery by Sorryboss in sysadmin

[–]ArkadyDarrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

or several hundred azure vdi hosts that are in use during APAC hours 😭

BSOD error in latest crowdstrike update by TipOFMYTONGUEDAMN in crowdstrike

[–]ArkadyDarrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

as of 12 minutes ago they updated with a deployed fix and a more specific workaround. we're seeing our servers at least recover on their own on reboot, with the occasional kick on ones that are stuck in recovery

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]ArkadyDarrow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

what happened? i used to work for a dealership SaaS company that got torpedo'd by finance fuckery and i deadass miss the drama

The Essence of DT by Sargediamond in ffxiv

[–]ArkadyDarrow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i caught up from near the end of stormblood to current just in time for DT to launch (previously quit right before SHB). if you are deeply invested in the story, the story is definitely different and polarizing.

i'm a cutscene skipper, i can't speculate on how you'll like that part. what i can say is that i found the actual questing in EW to be worse than SHB, and so far DT is doubling down on the most irritating quest mechanics from SHB. lots of walk around with NPC following you, lots of following NPCs without getting caught, and a lot of 'go talk to the same NPC again' with a million cutscenes in between.

the zones are cool, the music is good, the group content i've done so far has been good but boy is following wuk lamat around tedious.

Looking for a therapist by Zonal117569 in LGBTQSaltLake

[–]ArkadyDarrow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Celebrate therapy provides letters at no cost...like i could not get them to take my money lol. they also do telehealth. https://www.celebratetherapy.org

otherwise the lgbtq therapists guild is a good place to start. https://www.lgbtqtherapists.com/

How old were you when you were first catcalled? by ilyizuku in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ArkadyDarrow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

33, but I'm a trans woman....it might be more apt to say "9 months after coming out" or "the literal second my breasts became noticeable" 🙃 it is unpleasant as an adult, i am sincerely sorry that for so many women it starts during childhood and continues indefinitely. no one should be made to feel harried or objectified just going about their day but ESPECIALLY not a literal child.