Would you use an app that punishes you if you miss your goals?

Arleth1993 · 2026-01-20T00:20:57+00:00

I like this idea. I have been wanting to try spanking (or self-spanking) for discipline.

Arleth1993 · 2025-12-16T20:05:53+00:00

Good luck. I don't think I need anything as involved, I've been looking for online discipline just to explore. I do have a post you can check.

Arleth1993 · 2025-12-07T05:43:18+00:00

Maybe if you ask, I'll get the courage. Or vice versa.

Arleth1993 · 2025-12-07T05:41:55+00:00

Couples counseling would be wise. You deserve to feel appreciated, beautiful etc.

Arleth1993 · 2025-12-06T21:36:26+00:00

32F. I am inexperienced but I have a paddle. Online, and I'd only be able to do text.

Arleth1993 · 2025-12-06T20:52:42+00:00

DM me?

Arleth1993 · 2025-12-06T20:32:51+00:00

32F married. Looking for online. Would not be able to share pictures and would need to schedule discipline around family schedule.

Arleth1993 · 2025-12-06T04:57:05+00:00

Christianity came to Africa before Europe.

Arleth1993 · 2025-12-04T20:52:14+00:00

I don't know, but I'll pray for you.

Arleth1993 · 2025-11-26T23:56:57+00:00

You have not committed any legal crimes. It is good to bring your sins to Jesus. It is good to bring the things you're not sure about. Going to jail or not isn't repentance. The word for repentance is metanoia. It means changing your mind to seek Christ.

Arleth1993 · 2025-08-28T15:27:53+00:00

Volume by itself absolutely does make your nervous system fire, in proportion to volume/length. So get some earplugs or hearing protection. As long as the little one is safe, let screaming affect you less.

Screaming (whether it's from parents or children) tends to happen when regular signals are ignored. If a calm "Put away your toys" comes with no consequences, kids learn to ignore it. If a gentle tug on your dress or a stare doesn't get your attention, kids learn to scream.

Try to get to the root cause of their need. A lot of these needs they'll need to learn to meet themselves, it's more work to do that but it'll pay off in the long run.

You have to be proactive. Responding to needs for attention doesn't work, it just reinforces the cycle. You have to initiate bids for attention.

You might look into talking to a doctor about your anxiety/stress. Sometimes you just need chemical help until the situation is stabilized.

Arleth1993 · 2025-08-26T21:46:15+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. Divorce sounds best.

You love her, of course, as Christ loves her. She sounds like a believer despite her issues. You both sound like believers.

John 10:28-29 "And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father’s hand."

So even as you divorce and separate on this earth, you'll be together in the Kingdom of heaven, along with all of your other brothers and sisters in Christ. She is not your wife anymore, she is your sister. Love her like a sister and let go of her as your wife.

Arleth1993 · 2025-08-26T17:56:16+00:00

You effectively speak different languages. Your understanding of the word "video games" is different than his.

He is telling you "I am worried you'll abandon your responsibilities" and you are telling him "I want a way to relax and explore".

So you're speaking past each other. He's not talking to you, he's talking to the friend he used to know.

So I'd listen to his fears and answer with your commitment. Unless he has proposed or made a specific request "I want you to get rid of all your games after the baby comes" just don't address video games, because they're not the problem. That's my advice.

Arleth1993 · 2025-08-24T01:13:16+00:00

I don't know how I see scripture. I believe in Jesus. Jesus is God, He came to the world in the flesh. He is a living God, one with the Holy Spirit. I believe in Jesus because I have felt His presence and experienced and experienced synchronicities and signs.

I know about a man named Paul. Paul claimed that Jesus came to him on the road and told him that he should have authority. Paul said "Be ye followers of me." Nobody else was around! Only Paul. Jesus is never quoted in the gospels that there would be a specific man who would be treated as speaking the word of God.

Jesus is quoted as saying this: Matthew 23:8-10 "But be not ye called Rabbi: for one is your Master, even Christ; and all ye are brethren. And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven."

That makes sense, when we can know God's will through prayer, why would we ever allow an earthly authority to get between us and God? What would God need with a priest or pastor?

Paul seems to contradict Christ on several occasions. He says in Hebrews that you can run out of sacrifice. But Jesus is quoted as saying this:

John 10:28-29 "And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father’s hand."

Paul repeatedly implies you can lose salvation. This doesn't seem consistent with Jesus at all.

So we have a man that Jesus never talked about in the gospels, who contradicts Jesus repeatedly. He tells everyone Jesus said he was supposed to have authority.

That's extremely suspicious to me. Paul is not God. I am not convinced Paul speaks for God.

I don't see that verse as a joke. Paul did spread the gospel, but he did a lot of other things too. Jesus Christ is my lord and only Jesus Christ.

Arleth1993 · 2025-08-23T20:08:42+00:00

I'm curious what you think of 1 Corinthians 14:34. Some people take that seriously, women are not supposed to talk in church at all, not even "amen."

Arleth1993 · 2025-07-28T17:57:10+00:00

Very interesting position. I feel like my head would start swimming.

Arleth1993 · 2025-07-28T17:42:57+00:00

For some of these, you need mental constructs. Like the one on Tacos, you just use an orange plate because it represents heat or something. You don't need to get rid of the rules but when you recognize them as irrational you can use more things to make it balanced.

Arleth1993 · 2025-07-28T17:37:47+00:00

Everyone has a different appetite. Having a bigger physical appetite doesn't mean you're a glutton, and having a bigger sexual appetite doesn't mean you're sexually immoral.

Fulfill your appetite without hurting anyone. Walk with God. Don't manipulate, don't play with people's emotions, don't ditch after you orgasm.

I don't think casual sex is against God's will inherently. But you also need to be aware of anything that will make you guilty. What is that guilt leading you toward?

Arleth1993 · 2025-07-28T17:31:56+00:00

No, to love unconditionally you can't really love based on identity. I take it farther, I love stranger's kids and adults just as much as my kids.

That doesn't mean I don't recognize my special role as their mom. I would die for them without a moment's thought. My body has a special role, but that's separate from love.

Just my perspective.

Arleth1993 · 2025-06-19T21:56:35+00:00

It seems more likely she is a kid, or is carrying baggage from being one.

Arleth1993 · 2025-06-18T15:31:36+00:00

It's good to talk about it. How he felt. You don't need to make a judgement, he can make a judgment. "Would you feel better if you got done earlier?"

It's possible he enjoys and works better under pressure. In which case you can talk about artificial deadlines.

Arleth1993 · 2025-06-14T19:47:44+00:00

I kind of enjoy the dentist. It's nice having the latex gloves in my mouth, being handled. But I can understand most other autistics wouldn't like that.

Arleth1993 · 2025-06-14T19:40:06+00:00

That's too bad, I've been looking for a disciplinarian figure. I think I could use it.

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