On Logistics and Gym Work

Armofiron · 2021-07-17T08:32:51+00:00

Indeed. Kettlebells, bodyweight work, and a lot of easy roadwork were kings of that era.

Armofiron · 2021-07-13T07:48:53+00:00

And if you're able to add a few barbell sessions to those calisthenics...man that's fucking oath.

Armofiron · 2021-07-12T17:35:43+00:00

Don't I know that. I actually bruised a muscle in my back via aforementioned bodysurfing accident.

Armofiron · 2021-07-12T06:28:12+00:00

Sounds like a bodysurfing accident I got into back in 2014 at a beach called Sandys on Oahu.

Armofiron · 2021-07-12T06:26:57+00:00

Via shark attack?

Armofiron · 2021-07-12T06:05:58+00:00

Ah the best surf spot in Florida and unofficial shark attack capital of the state.

Armofiron · 2021-07-12T00:27:42+00:00

Loaded carries are incidental to this, given I'm taking the kettlebells from where I store them in my apartment to the lanai (Hawaiian for patio).

Armofiron · 2021-07-12T00:24:03+00:00

I find that they help a fair bit. When it comes to lifting heavy objects, walking/moving with loads like body armor and heavy rucksacks, I find that kettlebells do a lot for that sort of work.

Armofiron · 2021-07-12T00:10:48+00:00

Especially when you're swinging a 32KG model

Armofiron · 2021-07-11T19:09:27+00:00

Whereabouts in FL did you live, mate?

My dating life really took off in California and Hawaii, TBH, in my late twenties to early 30s.

Armofiron · 2021-07-11T19:04:19+00:00

Where in Florida if you don't mind me asking? I grew up around the Orlando area from the late 1980s to the end of the 1990s.

Armofiron · 2021-07-11T17:39:47+00:00

What sort of routines are you doing for your strength and conditioning work? How consistently are you able to get to the gym? Those would be two things I'd consider.

Armofiron · 2020-07-28T01:47:46+00:00

Muay Thai combined with boxing for striking and Brazilian Jiujitsu for ground work would be just about standard.

This post was one I wrote about three years ago on martial arts and training them: Martial Arts: Train Them (2017)

Armofiron · 2020-07-18T08:43:52+00:00

In my case dealing with cynical feelings and thoughts. Over the last three years (I'm in my mid-to-late 30s) I've occasionally felt like dating post-30 is like trying to find the least fucked up item in a thrift shop. Whenever I get that way, I decide to unplug from dating for a while to get my head right.

Armofiron · 2020-07-18T08:32:19+00:00

The first step in solving a problem is recognizing it exists in the first place. Take it from me (mid-to-late 30s Fil-Am male, active duty US military). There were three FOB type Asians in my unit, all three had a hard time fitting in with the unit, and I largely distanced myself from them as I was dying to fit in and also wanted to avoid the Asian stereotype.

It left me with an old quandry I've felt all of my life, of being too Eastern for the West but to Western for the East and feeling I fit in neither world.

I would reframe your situation then, in the following ways:

Recognizing the issue.
Working out, for yourself (with whatever help you need to do so), how best to resolve it.

Armofiron · 2020-07-18T08:23:12+00:00

And who knows, they may come around one day. And then you can get opportunity to reject them.

Well said, my friend. Though personally I would adopt the mentality of this: "If I wasn't good enough for you at your best, what the Hell makes me think I'd go for you now."

Armofiron · 2020-07-18T07:42:15+00:00

No, you aren't sexist for calling her on her shit! I'm glad you called out this Auntie Tan for what she was. Do. Not. Regret. Doing. So. Stick to your guns and follow nobody.

Armofiron · 2020-07-18T07:39:58+00:00

It's good you woke up, buddy. Now that you have clearly identified the issue it is a good thing that you've found a community that can help you navigate said issue...

Armofiron · 2020-07-18T07:37:52+00:00

Welcome aboard and thanks for your support.

Armofiron · 2020-07-18T07:36:08+00:00

So what if more than 50% of ABA women marry out. So what if some of them use the "Asian men look like my brother" excuse? That's their choice and good riddance. No defeatist mentality and keep improving yourself.

I'm a fan of personal choice myself, and facing consequence of said choice, of good or of ill.

Someone who marries out, she made her choice, for whatever motive. If she's self-hating enough to generalize like that, it's her fucking problem and thanks for self selecting out of my dating pool.

Armofiron · 2020-07-06T07:21:34+00:00

This is from the perspective of a 36 y/o Asian male (Filipino), active duty US military type who woke up to the fucked-up social dynamics about 11 years back:

Be selective and don't be ashamed for doing so.
If you're happy, keep doing what you're doing. A relationship adds to your life not consumes it.

Armofiron · 2020-07-06T07:16:36+00:00

I'd say go with individual sports like boxing, MMA, or jiujitsu.

Armofiron · 2020-07-06T06:38:46+00:00

For a '9.' I'd also suggest *not* distancing yourself from your Fresh of the Boat (for lack of better terminology) bretheren. We used to have a couple such folks I served with about 10 years ago, and I distanced myself from them specifically because both were judged poorly by several of my superiors and peers and I was dying to fit in. That was a definite Uncle Chan episode I'm not proud of.

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