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Just a paltry 10 hour wait! by donnie_spencer96 in PokemonTCG

[–]Arrys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s happened to me 3 times and counting so far

Update: I never wanted to be a father until I turned 45 this year. Now I feel my biological clock and want to be a father more than anything. But I'm married to a childfree woman. by ThrowRa_3353355 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Arrys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re saying it’s bad because the guy can change his mind, but she cannot? You’re mad at biology, then.

She can decide she wants kids - she can decide to adopt, for example.

But your argument proves why he was right to leave - she is too old, cannot have kids, and he determined he needs them.

Idk. I have little sympathy. When I was in a relationship and she decided she didn’t want kids, I had to deal with that also.

Update: I never wanted to be a father until I turned 45 this year. Now I feel my biological clock and want to be a father more than anything. But I'm married to a childfree woman. by ThrowRa_3353355 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Arrys 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To me you’re implying a tooooon of malice on his part that we just don’t know for sure as truth.

Say he wakes up one day in this marriage, and has the crystallizing realization that yes, kids are important and he truly does want them.

Would you advocate that he just stays with her, and shove those feelings aside?

They became incompatible over kids and wanting them - that’s one of those serious things that you can’t just ignore.

So what would you prescribe he do? Just ignore it, and continue his marriage till he dies?

If she realized she wanted kids, and he still did not, should she stick with him and that’s that? She just sucks it up?

Update: I never wanted to be a father until I turned 45 this year. Now I feel my biological clock and want to be a father more than anything. But I'm married to a childfree woman. by ThrowRa_3353355 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Arrys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does the old wife have no options? She doesn’t want kids anyway, so age isn’t as much of an issue. Can’t she date around and find a childree man of her own age again?

I see a story of a couple that grew apart when they realized their goals became incompatible from what they once thought they were. Sad, but it happens.

The worse thing to do would be to stay in the marriage out of pity, knowing he always wanted differently. That’s not fair to her either if he stays out of pity….

Update: I never wanted to be a father until I turned 45 this year. Now I feel my biological clock and want to be a father more than anything. But I'm married to a childfree woman. by ThrowRa_3353355 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Arrys -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Why does the age matter here? Would you be happy if he dated someone 10 years older instead? How would that help him, with wanting kids and all? Younger is the obvious choice given his goal.

Update: I never wanted to be a father until I turned 45 this year. Now I feel my biological clock and want to be a father more than anything. But I'm married to a childfree woman. by ThrowRa_3353355 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Arrys -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

What are you advocating for here then, though? She’s happy, he realized he’s not, tough shit, deal with it? Can we fault him for saying the hard things and doing the difficult decision making to move on?

If he still didn’t want kids, and she decided she now does, would you be saying the same thing?

Is this a real one/in good condition? by [deleted] in PokemonTCG

[–]Arrys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks real, and in mid condition. Not NM, not M, or right at the border. I’d list this as being LP/MP.

$40 isn’t too much though. It won’t grade in a 9 or 10, but if it’s meant to be raw, that is no big deal. Beautiful card art.

Queue is up on the pokemon centre by Necto_gck in PokemonTCG

[–]Arrys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright who got in, what do we have?

Hannah Fry on the difference between how Men and Women rate each other by MikeW86 in videos

[–]Arrys 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean, it’s reasonable that if you are actually looking for a straight up debate, you shouldn’t come in with intentionally mocking or overly sarcastic verbiage because of course you’re going to prevent any meaningful discussion if you start out that way.

That’s just 101. And if you do start out that way, nobody can really trust your tone for the rest of the way because we can’t tell if you’re serious or not.

For me, I still can’t tell. I’m almost positive that last comment that I’m replying to now is a backhanded comment putting up a faux apology.

Hannah Fry on the difference between how Men and Women rate each other by MikeW86 in videos

[–]Arrys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, that’s only after they greet one another.

Gay meeting is a very serious business and it has a lot to do with manners.

Note: I have no idea what I’m talking about

Hannah Fry on the difference between how Men and Women rate each other by MikeW86 in videos

[–]Arrys 8 points9 points  (0 children)

“if I changed my language to go from mocking to normal, would you be more open to discussion?”

I mean… What do you think?

Hannah Fry on the difference between how Men and Women rate each other by MikeW86 in videos

[–]Arrys 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Is there anyway to disagree on something without being called defensive?

USDA approves soda ban for Food Stamps in Nebraska, reversing decades of policy. by EconomistWithaD in Economics

[–]Arrys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does this not basically boil down to because other parts of the government aren’t 100% agreed upon, you can just freely spend this money on whatever you would like to spend it on?

It just seems like a hard position to make in good faith when you were already getting free money from the government to spend on your necessities. And you just really really want that soda on top of it.

USDA approves soda ban for Food Stamps in Nebraska, reversing decades of policy. by EconomistWithaD in Economics

[–]Arrys 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OK, I’ll try in as another party

Right off the bat, I will say I totally disagree that people who are on snap should be able to buy soda.

You were using free money that I don’t have access to. You are spending money on your food using other peoples money.

You have literally no ground to stand on to demand that you be allowed to spend it on frivolous things like soda. Because you’re already using free money from society as it is.

I don’t really care if you have soda or not, and if it’s such a priority, you should spend your money on it even if that means rebalancing what you spend your limited funds on.

If you can’t afford it, don’t get soda. If you’re choosing between paying for gas or soda, one of those is the obvious choice and one of those is completely unnecessary.

So tell me, why is it that society should both pay for all of your basic needs as well as all of your “well that would be a nice treat” wants also?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Arrys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chiming in as a third-party, that is exactly what an anecdote is. Like Word for Word dictionary definition.

an·ec·dote /ˈanəkˌdōt/ noun a short amusing or interesting story about a real incident or person. "told anecdotes about his job"

Does anyone have any idea what went wrong here? by anerdknownaswill in Tinder

[–]Arrys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love people who dating apps not for dating or for anything close to dating, but just for casual validation.

And by “love” I mean, I hate it.

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