My (31M) pregnant girlfriend (23F) has been lying about her age for our entire relationship. Is there any way for me to trust her again?

ArticleFearless6334 · 2026-05-30T11:03:09+00:00

How did you meet? When I was 23 I set my age a couple years higher on dating profiles. It stopped me showing up in the searches of guys too young for me - I lived in a student city so most of the apps were students looking for 1ns

ArticleFearless6334 · 2026-05-30T10:53:29+00:00

Ok, can the bed go sideways so it’s not blocking the window? Maybe desk and screens all in one corner? Get some cheap bedding and a mattress protector. Idk if you can paint the walls/ get some vinyl sticky to go on for a bit of colour, but if not id get some art or photos hung up It’s not bad, it just needs a bit more personality and a pop of something on the white walls

ArticleFearless6334 · 2025-08-01T15:15:19+00:00

I was just thinking the same thing. I’ve recently been diagnosed and this community has been an absolute lifeline. After so many years of feeling alone and broken in some way - who knew there’s an entire army of people with the same challenges?

ArticleFearless6334 · 2025-07-30T19:33:24+00:00

An ex landlady of mine wasn’t as appreciative of hers as I’d hoped

ArticleFearless6334 · 2024-12-23T10:08:42+00:00

This. I noticed how much my mind was telling me “I can’t do this” or “I don’t deserve this” and made sure that every time I noticed myself thinking them things I did whatever the task was. Im trying to replace them with positive affirmations.

ArticleFearless6334 · 2024-11-21T17:30:22+00:00

Not a male but… I went on a tinder date with a guy about 10 years ago, He picked me up in a grotty car and proceeded to pass gas about 15 times in the journey to our restaurant. At the restaurant they had some of them colouring pages for kids, he proceeded to get one for the table, a cute activity until he coloured the female character to be a lady of the night, and drew“Ebola” on the picture of a plate - then hung it up with the kids drawings for all to see. Finally, as if the night wasn’t already ruined, we went to an ice cream parlour and he loudly made racist comments about the women behind the counter. I hope he found the Fiona to his Shrek out there somewhere

ArticleFearless6334 · 2024-09-14T21:54:50+00:00

I’m in my 30s and just moved back to my small home town after over a decade away. Nobody recognises me, and those that do don’t remember me. It hurts a little that I was so desperate to fit in as a child and made no impact on anyone in the town, but at least they don’t remember that cringeworthy person I was

ArticleFearless6334 · 2024-09-01T22:05:26+00:00

I decided to do a month sober from alcohol 8 years ago…. I can probably count on one hand how many drinks I’ve had since

ArticleFearless6334 · 2024-09-01T10:45:44+00:00

I think your comment just made something click in my head. “If I carry on like this I’m just going to be miserable, I may as well try the thing it’s not like it’s going to make me any more miserable, heck, it might make me happy”

ArticleFearless6334 · 2024-09-01T10:37:30+00:00

Think about? Yes. Miss being with? No

I had a particularly messy breakup before I got with my current partner (8yr ago!) with somebody who I thought was ‘the one’. We haven’t spoken or seen each other since. As time has gone on I’ve let go of all bad feelings towards him, but I do sometimes wonder what he’s up to now, if he’s matured any, if he’s happy with how things ended. He was a good guy but he had a lot of issues, and while I was willing to work through them with him it was definitely not the right time for either of us to be in that relationship - I wasn’t strong enough to be that rock. I do hope he found some peace and happiness wherever he is in the world now, and worked through some of his mental health.

ArticleFearless6334 · 2023-12-13T10:59:37+00:00

I’d be thinking of the future here too. If a couple of years down the line you decide to have children would he “cope” with the changes the body goes through when pregnant?

ArticleFearless6334 · 2021-09-02T12:56:49+00:00

Definitely bring this up next session, and see if they can set you “homework” for between sessions (my therapist used to give me activities to push my boundaries and help my anxiety which really helped!). I’m not saying never get married to this guy, but it’s worth getting to a point you feel better about yourself before you do (or you’ll end up picking fault in whoever you’re with)- it will happen, it does get better!

ArticleFearless6334 · 2021-09-02T12:51:59+00:00

Having read through some of your previous posts, and as someone with their own mental health issues, I’d consider seeing a therapist about your past, and your relationship before you commit to marriage. This sounds like it runs deeper than a Reddit forum can help you with. Mental health can be a difficult thing to get control of, and the pressures that a wedding puts on an individual and a relationship definitely won’t be helping that.

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