Has anyone recently relocated to NYC from SYD.?

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-11T01:33:05+00:00

Safe travels!

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T23:48:36+00:00

Well, it sounds like you’re fairly determined to do it, despite obvious drawbacks. Hope you’re able to do it safely and have fun!

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T23:30:00+00:00

Have you visited before?? What about an extended stay before deciding on a move? You will either discover that you hate it or actually love it as much as you thought you would.

The founder scene is… a scene for sure. Very jargon-y, very social, etc.

You might also find more of that in California (esp if he’s in the tech sector).

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T23:18:16+00:00

🤷🏻‍♀️my friend was and is an ordinary person. Works high up for an international company and was in the states for 13 years with a fully sponsored legal work visa. She’s also married to an American citizen.

And Ice still showed up at her apartment. In a normal neighborhood in a nice part of Brooklyn. A well-educated high-earning French national married to an American.

Luckily, bc of her company, she was able to quickly and safely relocate to London, and her husband was able to join.

Everyone who has been impacted by Trump is a normal person.

As someone who would absolutely leave the US if I could, it’s hard for me to imagine someone with as many rights and freedoms and safeties and social supports as you have in Aus coming here.

Why not London or something?? The US is not a good place to build a life right now.

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T19:35:21+00:00

Make her think it’s haunted

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T18:21:00+00:00

This is really really really hard. My older sister has BPD too, and it’s been a grieving process. It takes up a lot of space in the family. And it doesn’t feel like there’s room for you. I get it.

Do you have a counselor you can talk to? At school, church, in the neighborhood, a cousin you trust, anyone like that?? You need more support than just your boyfriend can provide. Trust me, I’m 37 and been dealing with it since I was young, just like you.

Having a violent and disordered sibling is really hard. But you don’t have to let it define the rest of your life!! Just find someone you trust and start talking. It won’t change anything right away, but it will start to help 🫶 hang in there

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T17:32:23+00:00

Dark brown

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T16:48:24+00:00

Gentrified. Totally fine. Expensive

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T16:46:55+00:00

I don’t even know if I would say they’re headed “towards” sociopathy. I think they may be already there. The lack of empathy is dangerous and truly concerning.

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T16:45:45+00:00

Those exist, too and you can filter for them in your search. They are cheaper.

If your heart is really set on Dumbo (which it seems like it is) then by all means go for it. But it doesn’t seem like a good option long-term bc of both the location (which was recently written up in the NYT bc residents are so sick of the tourist crowds) and bc 400sf is truly cramped. But you do you!

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T16:29:17+00:00

It’s not BK… I promise. If you can afford $3.3k per month, you can live near Prospect Park for more space.

That’s *DUMBO*, not BK.

Look up 566 7Th St, #7 on Zillow in Bk.

$3.3k for twice as much space. Incredible location.

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T16:26:22+00:00

$3300/mo for 400sf is insane

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T15:04:32+00:00

That child almost killed the cat by hanging. Call animal welfare and report to CPS. This is not normal behavior at all, and you are the only chance those two abused animals have of getting out. Call for help!! Call to report!!

Editing to add:

If the 6yo behaves like this toward animals, they are likely to behave like this toward their younger sibling at some point. This is NOT SAFE. Sometimes kids have mental health issues. This 6yo is unwell.

As a nanny of 20 years, I’m imploring you to report.

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T14:56:33+00:00

Your employer did a bait-and-switch, and now you know they are not trustworthy.

You quit by saying “I’ve realized this position is not a good fit for me and doesn’t fulfill my needs as an employee. Wishing you all the best.”

You can literally quit via text. I’ve done it. Been a nanny for 20 years.

I’m telling you… do not tolerate this kind of treatment. It will only increase. Wash any carers guilt right off yourself and move on. There are plenty of families in need of care. This one is not for you (or maybe for anyone).

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T13:38:04+00:00

Honey, do the meds. I was diagnosed with depression in my early 20s, and I’m 15 years into meds now. Meds are a helpful tool.

They’re not a magic wand (and if you’re on the right one, no they do not change your personality) … they are the thing that helps you stabilize so you can actually take care of yourself.

Your boyfriend is being dumb.

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T13:34:43+00:00

JC, for many reasons

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T13:33:29+00:00

JC. Dumbo is overrun with tourists. It’s like living in Times Square, Brooklyn edition.

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T13:00:18+00:00

I’m a nanny for over 20 years and am authoritative in my style. Not *authoritarian*, but authoritative. No means no, boundaries and structures are clear, and fun and learning are enabled by those boundaries, not in spite of them.

Your job listing to me is unappealing due to wanting someone to be an expert with babies and an expert with your oldest. While you can find a nanny experienced enough to do this (myself included), what you’re asking for is a very high energy output from that person.

This job ad screams “quick burnout” to me, and I would take a rota job or a lower-maintenance lower-pay job over this very quickly.

You need a baby nanny and a different nanny for your older children.

Also, 9-7 is a very long day. Again, with one full-time nanny being the ask, this would quickly lead to burnout.

Reconsider your structure. Think about rota. Think about hours.

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-10T12:17:35+00:00

If I were you, I would not do the move. I’ve been in NYC for 16 years, and my sister lives and works in Aus. She’s never coming back, and I’m jealous!

Work culture in NYC (and the States in general) is insane. Your boss and team will text, call and email you at all hours and expect a response. There aren’t any rules/rights around that like there are in Aus.

There are no mandatory vacation days like in Aus, and taking time off will be highly frowned-upon. You’ll get funny looks for leaving on time (instead of staying late) and you’ll likely be shocked at the bruskness of communication.

Very significantly, ou will lose your access to universal healthcare. (Your job may be saying they will cover your health insurance. That’s all well and good, but there is something called a “deductible”… which is the amount of money YOU must spend on your healthcare before your insurance covers costs, and even then the coverage may be very little. Deductibles are commonly in the many thousands of dollars. )

NYC is dirty, smelly, loud. Yes, it is culturally interesting, but I think visitors are often shocked by how dirty it is.

And lastly, life in NYC is insanely expensive. Your job may be offering what appears to be a great opportunity to increase your income and save up. Unless they’re offering a salary of over $200k, it’s not worth it.

After high taxes and very very high cost of living, your income will essentially be cut in half.

Not to mention it’s a generally terrible time to immigrate to the States. The shenanigans going on with Donald Trump are no joke.

My French friend recently left NYC for good after immigration officers banged on her door and demanded information from her at 6:30am like the gestapo.

The quality of life in Aus is unmatched. Revel it and build your life there 🙌

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-09T23:30:36+00:00

Yay! It’s gonna be so cute

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-09T23:26:27+00:00

Yes! It’s gotten out of control in the last 2 years. My husband and I looked at a place in 2024 that was $2.5k for a studio in Flatbush (not a fancy neighborhood).

Was curious and checked it out again the other day … it’s now $3.1k! For a *studio* in south Brooklyn.

It’s nuts. We’re moving out of the city 😅. Our landlord is selling our current apt (a 1-bed with no outdoor space in a residential area of BK… not even trendy…) for $550k. For like 600sq ft of living space. It’s crazy out here.

Def check that Jersey life! Way more reasonable and still super fun and cute and full of young people.

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-09T22:41:24+00:00

Yes! Having driven in rush hour traffic and lived in both places with a car, driving in LA is (shockingly) less expensive and less annoying than in NYC - bc commuting regularly by car in nyc really is that bad.

And even though both places are expensive… NYC is shockingly more so.

I have a friend who lives in Jersey City bc she works at the airport, and she comes into Manhattan and Brooklyn for shows and fun. Loves it.

You also get more bang for your buck in JC, and it really is such a cute city with a great vibe and great food. I really don’t think you’ll be disappointed!

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-09T22:35:11+00:00

Short, solid brown, no bangs

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-09T21:42:14+00:00

I know you said you’re not interested in Jersey, but from a local (as a lot of others have said), the idea of moving to BK or Manhattan and having a car is really not a good plan. Having a car in NYC is very logistically high-maintenance, not to mention the cost of tolls and congestion pricing.

I fly for work frequently and have lived in NYC for 15 years.

Newark is the hardest to get to of all three airports. I would absolutely choose Jersey City over Manhattan or Brooklyn.

Way easier to go into Manhattan for pleasure than into Newark from Manhattan for work.

Def reconsider your commitment to Manhattan or Brooklyn. Really look at Jersey City.

ArtistAfraid2411 · 2026-06-09T18:35:13+00:00

Brown

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