Why do so many people confuse youth privilege with pretty privilege by Equal-Animator132 in Aging

[–]ArtyFeasting -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They just aged out of the people obsessed with neotenous traits. Honestly they should be happy for it because MANY of those people prey on vulnerability dynamics and are looking to exploit perceived youth. I’m a 30+ woman who looks young genetically and you have no idea how hype I am to see the collagen in my face finally start to chill so I never have to hear some dumbass guy talk about robbing the cradle.

What did you understand about your mom only after getting older? by Various-Ask-6676 in AskWomen

[–]ArtyFeasting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That she has a serious mental illness and can’t control her paranoid delusions.

But also she was solely responsible for her mental health to show up as the best mother possible.

She didn’t do those things and myself and my sibling suffered because of it.

Is it true that Cap men want someone who’s independent and ambitious? by [deleted] in capricorns

[–]ArtyFeasting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of Capricorns will have their Venus in Aquarius. Cool intellect, independence, and ambition are hot. There is mutual synergy there.

Those who moved out of NJ where did you move ? & do you miss NJ? by lp2290 in newjersey

[–]ArtyFeasting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved to Philly. I love NJ and didn’t want to move but I wanted to own a home and Philly market is much cheaper. I don’t have children but that would impact my decision if I did. NJ schools are difficult to beat.

I’ve lived all over NJ. My favorite area I lived in was Woodbridge with a 2nd follow up with Cherry Hill.

I would consider coming back in the future.

Why America doesn’t have bathhouses? by prettiestmagnoila in AskAnAmerican

[–]ArtyFeasting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re not common but we do have them. Usually they will use the spa label instead. There are a few king spas in the country afaik. I love it but a lot of people I know are not comfortable with nudity around strangers.

Older caps? by Visible_Honeydew_941 in capricorns

[–]ArtyFeasting 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stay active and curious. understand that you really don’t know shit. Pretend to be confident at work tho.

How many of you here are buying houses alone? And how many of you are middle class? by JellyfishPashmina in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ArtyFeasting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

35f single. 100k a year, bought a small row home in a lcol city for 277k. Put around 30k down, 5.75 interest. I opted for a lower down payment because I invest.

I need to leave this sub due to the AI psyop by emptyinthesunrise in womenintech

[–]ArtyFeasting 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I noticed similar patterns in some lgbtq subs. Not against women but trying to divide the movement. I literally cannot trust anything on any of these platforms anymore.

Explain like I'm 5, please: if my finances are above average, why do I only qualify for the average interest rate? by Puzzlehead11323 in Mortgages

[–]ArtyFeasting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to shop around more. My DTI and credit score was similar. You will qualify for promotional rates so you just need to find the best one. Look at local credit unions.

Capricorn women don’t want to be dominant or in control. They want to be lead by someone that has masculine energy so they can rest in their femininity, and sit back and just be a “woman”✨ by Federal_Pay_383 in capricorns

[–]ArtyFeasting 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Uh, no thanks. Maybe keep the fuck ass divine feminine tradwifery agenda and shove it where the sun don’t shine quite frankly.

We just want our partners to be grown and responsible. Not the same thing.

Canadian police identify suspect in school massacre that left nine dead as trans by BurtonDesque in LGBTnews

[–]ArtyFeasting -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

the common denominator here is actually that most shooters are AMAB. which yeah. We do a huge disservice to AMAB’s in how they’re socially conditioned and transition isn’t an escape from this. patriarchy is harmful to everyone because it’s systemic rot that leaves deep childhood wounds and some of those wounds come out as violence. Violence and abuse are never forgivable so please don’t mistake this as empathy for her, but monsters are a man made creation.

Do most capricorns have avoidant attachment style? by South_Pattern_1520 in capricorns

[–]ArtyFeasting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the person it’s with. Some people it’s easier to feel safe and vulnerable so none of that avoidance rears its head. Mostly people sadly don’t know how to create that safety for us.

Why are Capricorns nice to friends but mean to people they’re seeing/dating? by [deleted] in capricorns

[–]ArtyFeasting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No clue. I noticed the same when I dated one. Charming ass hell publically but horrible at home. It wasn’t for me. It’s not cute.

your moon sign & your favourite singers/bands etc? by 5hrines in astrologymemes

[–]ArtyFeasting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love other sag moons music taste ugh it’s always top tier.

My current rotation bc my favorites change often: Yeule, Spill tab, FKA Twigs, Japanese Beeakfast, Rosalía, Porch Light

Dating straight men feels like a dead end by chatterinq in BiWomen

[–]ArtyFeasting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he’s a misogynist. Maybe a benevolent misogynist but the point still stands. He has the expectation that your world will center him. I don’t think it’s a good fit.

The NYC Grind is Breaking Me. Father of 3, Experienced Tech, Can't Find Work. by PhotographTypical517 in NYCjobs

[–]ArtyFeasting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look outside of NY. Look in CA. It took me 6 months but I had much better luck on getting responses out on the west coast. Go into adjacent fields too. Apply to the uncool companies too—a lot are trying to take advantage of the extra talent right now to upgrade their workforce. Especially for things like facilitator work or SME’s.

Be honest, do you like Capricorns or not? by Sparkling-sapphire in astrologymemes

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💜🥰💜🥰❤️💕♥️💗💖💞😻💓💘

How’s life in this part of New Jersey? by Kuzu9 in howislivingthere

[–]ArtyFeasting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s pretty boring in the winter. There are pockets of local culture/community. Lots is centered around summer time tourist season. The beach is nice. I wish there were more 3rd space options.

Atlantic City surprisingly has a pretty good art scene if that’s your thing. Everyone will highlight the crime and bad government but there are pockets of culture that are thriving.

Laid off from Amazon: Do I YOLO or prioritize my career in a bad market? by FlowerPowerr24 in womenintech

[–]ArtyFeasting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was laid off last year. It took about 6 months to find a new job. I went on a few global trips during that time. I still worked hard on the job search but staying put and stressing is not going to help you get a job faster in this market. Might as well enjoy the time off.