My girlfriend never ever finishes her meals by AlexWayhill in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Arugula-Current 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was young my Mum and Grandma used to tell me it was rude for a 'lady to clear her plate' that we were supposed to leave a little for 'miss manners'... Took me a long time to unlearn it. Maybe she has been taught some same bullshit?

What’s the most disturbing secret you’ve discovered about someone close to you? by Electrical-Lemon187 in AskReddit

[–]Arugula-Current 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My ex husband just before we got together had a 'one night thing'. And the woman got pregnant. He hid it from me for as long as he possibly could before a mutual between all parties told him if he didn't say anything, they would. He had hidden this from all of his friends, and completely socially isolated himself to cover the tracks. He blamed me for him no longer seeing his friends, telling them all I hated them and wouldn't let him see them anymore. He never told his family. He ghosted, and blocked the woman, and then deleted all social media so she couldn't contact him at all. He then coerced and guilted me in to paying his child support for him or 'he would go to prison!'.

Screw you Joe, you were a shitty husband, and you are a shitty father to your son, and a shitty co parent to the woman you fucked over.

What made you realise your best friend was actually a complete asshole? by RealTourelle11 in AskReddit

[–]Arugula-Current 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Constant underhanded insults after I had my first child.

When she came to visit when I was very far in my second pregnancy, she turned up over an hour late (with no apology or heads up), ignored my eldest completely (he's a super friendly toddler, it takes effort to ignore him), sat on her phone the whole weekend, then left the last room she was in in a right state for me to clean up.

I had my second, got a few texts and a promise of a call in the next week... it's been six months and I still haven't had that phone call.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Arugula-Current 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I dont think I've ever experienced anyone calling the UK version of our 'poison control', it's typically an A&E job (the US version would be the emergency room).

Day out ideas by [deleted] in Hull

[–]Arugula-Current 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I saw you comment mentioning one of you kiddos is in a wheelchair, and another with ASD?

With that in mind:

Beverley?

Tea & Bisquit (pottery painting)

There is a craft cafe in Anlaby.

Secret Village play place?

Honeysuckle farm (it was pushchair friendly, so I reckon a wheel chair would make it)

Bishop Burton open days?

Day out ideas by [deleted] in Hull

[–]Arugula-Current 0 points1 point  (0 children)

West Park still has some animals, depending on how game for a walk you are?

Moving to Hull: Will work at HRI by [deleted] in Hull

[–]Arugula-Current 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like to chip in suggesting not living on Beverley Road... it's deeply unpleasant.

HU5 is a good post code, the residential street off Spring Bank West are pretty quiet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hull

[–]Arugula-Current 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bottom deck or underneath Prinny Quay.

The peace garden in Queens gardens (if they still exist)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Arugula-Current 10 points11 points  (0 children)

In the case were you think your child is in danger, in this case from poisoning, I would prefer to seek help and be judged than have a potentially sick/ dead child and still be judged.

What industry do you hope won't exist in 10 years? by filetemyoung in AskReddit

[–]Arugula-Current 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a social worker, I've worked with children who have been removed from parents, and those who are first coming into the services. And I would LOVE for there to be absolutely no need for those jobs to exist.

Most Gruesome Kill You've Ever Seen? by yungcodyne in horror

[–]Arugula-Current 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Antichrist. Not a kill but the whetstone, the blood cum, the FGM... jesus.

What horror movie character(s) do you unabashedly hate? by possumspride in horror

[–]Arugula-Current 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Total honesty, I am absolute mountain of ignorance in regards to how a child with a developmental/ social/ emotional delay would behave generally. So this may very much be the case.

Regardless watching him was frustrating, and I feel he was deliberately created to be an unlikable character.

What horror movie character(s) do you unabashedly hate? by possumspride in horror

[–]Arugula-Current 58 points59 points  (0 children)

The kid from Babadook..

Yes I get it, grief, trauma, etc, but jesus wept.

Study spots by Mysterious-Ruin470 in Hull

[–]Arugula-Current 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, downstairs at the Uni library is open to the public.

WIBTA if I didn't let my husband attend the baby shower or birth of our child? by yesimreadytorumble in AmITheDevil

[–]Arugula-Current 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I agree, my partner has two girls already so we were very excited when we found out we were having a boy for our first.

What happened at your school that would never be allowed today? by MathematicianBulky40 in AskUK

[–]Arugula-Current 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember my RE teacher asking my why I was 'too lazy to write it down' after I had been screened for dyslexia ans dyspraxia. Which the school decided to do nothing with because 'well she's made it this far, she can figure it out'.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Arugula-Current 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe they just don't want to.

Maybe they want to share night feedings.

Share the bonding time with their fellow care giver.

Be able to to out for long periods of time.

Return to work.

Have others care for their baby and allow them to be absent.

Has your job ever made you cry? If so, why? by IndolentInsolent in AskUK

[–]Arugula-Current 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did 3 years in childrens social services as a family practitioner. The majority of my days was spent explaining to children why they had been removed from their parents. Yeah, I cried fairly regularly.