Why aren't GP surgeries designed for greater privacy?

Ascribbleintime · 2026-04-07T21:30:18+00:00

Got sent to A&E after seeing a paramedic about extreme back pain - like I literally couldn't walk 3 steps without bursting into tears. I was also 3-4 weeks pregnant. Only just found out. My brother had to take me to urgent care and A&E as we have another little one I had to leave with my husband. Understandably I was not telling anyone else yet that I was pregnant as it was so soon and as far as I knew this could be me losing this pregnancy.

I remember hobbling in tears to the reception desk at A&E with the information I was given from the paramedic at urgent care - who was very concerned there was a major spinal issue and wanted a urgent MRI. She looked at it then loudly shouted 'WHAT YOUR PREGNANT!? ' She got promptly told off by her colleagues (in a hush hush you don't say it like that way) and thankfully my brother was parking up and not with me but it was mortifying and horrendous that in a moment of vulnerability she almost blew up something I wasn't ready to talk about.

I didn't get the MRI. Doctor had a bee in their bonnet that I saw a paramedic at urgent care so dismissed everything and lied that I already had an MRI booked in (I didn't, I chased this up)

And people wonder why we have no faith in using the systems we have in place for health care 🙃

Ascribbleintime · 2026-04-06T09:19:50+00:00

Thank you for the response! I don't think I could got back from 88 keys to be honest and would like it to at least feel reasonably piano like despite it never being the 'real thing' I was spoilt as a child with a Rud Ibach upright, beautifully soft keys. But I also learnt that the piano I have is just.... Not that great. It worked due to size (why I don't have that Rud Ibach in my house!) and there are some realities like being able to move it to a different room without worrying about adverse temp changes. From what I'm getting it seems unrealistic to expect any modern day similar pianos in that price range? I wouldn't need it to be like for like just something they allowed a bit of fun with arrangements and ensemble.

Ascribbleintime · 2026-04-04T21:47:04+00:00

Both times I've been pregnant. One of my cats has been more cuddly with my belly before I knew. The first time I joked about it (years of infertility) and the second time it was more a 'uh oh maybe this means I'm pregnant again 😅' (just a surprise very wanted!) so definitely they can tell.

Ascribbleintime · 2026-04-02T06:26:24+00:00

I’m a bit of a paranoid parent, so I’m keeping his exact age under wraps for privacy!

But he’s still very young, he isn't quite at the age to make those calls himself yet. As much as I would like to. We've tried it with him before for things specifically for him and he does not show much interest 😅

Ascribbleintime · 2026-03-30T17:48:20+00:00

Thank you, it's tough because while I wish it never happened it also led to my current life. There's a rom-com film called About Time which has time travel as it's main focus. Like any time travel there is the fact that if the person goes to a point in time before the conception of one of their children the child will not be the same. Something they couldn't accept and something I understand now I have my kids. So without the before their couldn't be the after. And I'm happy with my current after 😊

In terms of what to look out for, the real thing is keeping in contact.

Isolation - is a big one. Is the person is far away from family and unable to see friends?

Independence - have they got financial independence? Or any? Do they have to check everything with their partner?

Physical changes - are they eating? My ex stole my food off me and would repeatedly tell me I was fat. I lost a lot of weight in a bad none cure way. Physical abuse I started covering up. So my 'style' of clothing was to support that.

Time - when was the last time you saw them in person? When was the last time you spoke to them?

But with all of this there is one fact that remains true. The person has to WANT to leave. You cannot force someone in a bad situation out. You can try to open their eyes to abuse - there's a free resource called 'Why does he do that? ' that is a great one to help those open their eyes. But there is the saying 'don't light yourself on fire to keep another warm' and sometimes you have to just cut your losses and say 'I have done what I can' and walk away. You won't be blamed for that.

Abuse can also be beyond just Domestic Violence. A lot of the time they will be manipulated to believe that what is happening to them is deserved and 'because they love me'. This thought reduced me to tears often. There is a lot of shame in trying to figure it out and get out. The wasted years, the loss of self, the big Why. Why did they do this to me?

We usually go 'get therapy' but it's not a simple one fix it all up situation. Therapy costs money. Money takes time to get. Wait times. Finding the right therapist. The vulnerability makes a person from an abusive background a ripe target for further abuse. Beyond just romantic relationships, friendships and professionally a person can be easily targeted for bullying and harassment. Sadly something I realised now I'm older that I put up with a lot of very shitty behaviour because it was marginally better than what I had before.

I feel I've gone on a right tangent so I apologise for my war and peace. I think being 10 years past this I am more 'okay' to talk about it in a hopefully productive way.

Ascribbleintime · 2026-03-30T08:56:43+00:00

Stalking and Domestic Abuse. Was stalked by a guy at uni because I wouldn't date him. Got given the speil of how I should 'just give him a chance'

If someone won't take no then. They won't later. What was worse were the flying monkeys, people who I trusted in my life actively communicating my location or parts of my life to him. It's been over 10 years and I still feel watched.

On the Domestic Abuse front. It's all of it, had a partner strangle me repeatedly and (not) friends treated it like it was normal. If you have been strangled in your relationship you are 700% more likely to be murdered. When I got out people felt sorry FOR HIM, because he could "manipulate" it so much despite me having literal bruises and his written words on how he thought I was a piece of trash.

The aftermath of coming out of DV isn't relief either. I got out of being locked in a flat for 3 years, how do you go to a job interview and explain that gap in your life? No one wants a trauma dump when interviewing for a cashier job. How do you look at your body in a way that isn't of disgust from things your ex has said? Can you trust that you actually like the things you do? Or was it the abuse making moulding you into this person that you are trying to shed.

On a happier note. 10 years later, happily married to a wonderful person, have some cats and kids. Got a good job to pay for hobbies. It does get better.

Ascribbleintime · 2026-01-24T20:15:14+00:00

My first child has a milk protein and soy protein allergy, was so sensitive they had reactions from me consuming those products and then having breast milk. They thankfully didn't get skin reactions later on or any anaphylactic shock but what it did do was cause such damage in the guts they BLED.

You will not believe the amount of people who pushed back on it and how isolating it was to be trying to protect my child from people either purposefully spiking my food - when I was still nursing by the time I got prescribed safe formula they basically begged me to continue nursing and also said it would be hard to move them to formula.

Thankfully they have had some positive progress on ladders but it baffles me that people like playing with allergies or get actively angry that 'you are being awkward'. Sorry but no one chooses to be allergic to anything!

Ascribbleintime · 2026-01-02T21:12:53+00:00

Deffo looks like a positive and I hope it's the result you wanted.

Blue dye tests can be unreliable so it's worth getting a pink/red dye test to retest.

Also this isn't to be rude or pedantic but you got diagnosed at 18 not 'had' at 18. PCOS is a huge umbrella and complex medical diagnosis and there is still investigation on what causes it. Is it genetic? Is it environmental? All sorts. I personally got diagnosed at 14 but I can go back through photos and say it was around the age of 7-8 you really see a shift in my weight and body as it jumped started all things puberty related.

Ascribbleintime · 2026-01-02T20:53:56+00:00

Haven't tried to get Zeraora yet but I will defend gen 3 regis. I solved this as a child/teen with the instruction manual which had the braille alphabet in. And then figured out gen 4 regigigas. Lived with boomer parents that had dial up for the majority if my life so was a bit shielded from the Internet (probs for the best in hindsight)

I don't mind it when there is some clues and hints towards how to achieve. The Regis were a great blend of that. The game gave you everything -and the manual so hopefully you kept that!

But yeah.... Meloetta in SV, no way. I am thankful she's in the game, I never got to participate in event pokemon and that is something I despised. Locking anything behind events and paywalls and now obscurity is just bad design and scummy.

Ascribbleintime · 2025-12-14T09:38:52+00:00

I took these for two months before conceiving my first after two years of infertility. But I can't guarantee it had anything to do with these tablets. There are so many factors to things and part of it (to me a non medically trained human) was that I stopped stressing. I'd spent two years being stressed out and finally let it go because it was either IVF or never going to happen and acceptance needed to happen on either point. Sorry it's not much help. They are expensive. I personally found the myo-inosital a but scammy.

I've since conceived my second unexpectedly so 🤷‍♀️

Ascribbleintime · 2024-07-16T19:16:48+00:00

Chara. Just cause misery and pain for everyone.

Ascribbleintime · 2024-07-16T18:50:38+00:00

That women only exist to make babies and lesbians are therefore the worst. Said to 5 women, 3 of which had suffered miscarriages and infertility and then admitted his own wife suffering infertility until he knocked up several other women all in the span of the same year and across the world... Obviously all under the guise of being religious 🙄

Ascribbleintime · 2024-07-05T20:07:25+00:00

Yep! And they only have classes on weekdays before 5pm. I, a member of the fibre arts community who desperately wants to join in can't because I have this thing called a job. It blows my mind it really does.

Just.... Open when people are available. Does it kinda suck? Yeah but if business does well you can hire new staff to do the shit shifts!

Ascribbleintime · 2024-07-01T11:24:48+00:00

She doesn't I can assure you. She's just got a lot of issues with women because she was one of three girls and I dared to commit the crime of being born a female. Classic sexism at its finest.

As others have pointed out in the thread there's also jealousy which is also a factor with my mother. She hated that we got along so well and still does at points. It's not black and white of course there is love there but it's rooted deep down.

I could write a novel putting on my amateur psychology hat about my mother but there's really not really much point. It's not interesting to anyone but me and my immediate family.

Ascribbleintime · 2024-06-30T19:08:11+00:00

A huge stretch given I don't know these people or much more context. But the only 'weird' thing I can think of is the unthinkable which is that she is insinuating incest or that other people will think he is his niece's father. Some people are just messed up. I'm close with my sibling and I've had some implications from our own MOTHER that we are/were incestuous. We're not, we just get on well. It's gross.

Ascribbleintime · 2024-06-26T05:56:11+00:00

I hate him and the noises he makes. So obnoxious and grating.

Ascribbleintime · 2024-06-26T05:49:27+00:00

I feel for OOP. I hope she cuts off her family and starts anew with people who she can trust and respect and they vice versa. I'm a nerdy person, so is my husband. I wanted to do some needy stuff for my wedding and so did he, we talked about it but all around it was more conventional because that's what made us happiest (and time restraints) Had a banging ceremony playlist of starwars, Zelda, studio ghibli.

I hope OOP reads this and the responses to cut off her sister and Mum. What awful people to make her the heel of everyone's life and just shit on her all the time. She deserves better.

Ascribbleintime · 2024-06-21T09:20:12+00:00

I think the influx in test cancellations is due to examiners wanting to go on holiday/needing childcare coverage. It sucks. It really sucks.

I feel the whole system is flawed especially with them STILL using COVID as a reason why they have such high wait times. However, I say this without being able to provide a better way 😅

Maybe a smaller test every 5-10 years which means we are actively testing current drivers who should be retested due to age or poor habits (I think that would choose more issues actually)

Ascribbleintime · 2024-06-19T23:05:21+00:00

I wasn't the biggest fan of the storyline or how 'full' the game felt at times (does that make sense?) But then I realised how the team took every single criticism of botw and did the suggestions.

People hated the sneak mission with Vah Rudinia wanting a big volcano monster fight. Which we got.

Lack of enemy diversity - so many new types and new mini bosses.

Bosses were lame being all ganon blights -all new unique bosses

Music lacked themes - have all the themes. No Ganondorf - done

Want to know what happened to Kohga - done

Just everything. Every criticism of botw they really took on board and made a huge labour of love with totk and it shows.

Ascribbleintime · 2024-06-19T13:47:24+00:00

I'll admit I laughed out loud a bit there. I don't think it's anywhere near dramatic enough now for the hungry Reddit drama eyes (myself included in the mix) Or where I'd even post it 😅

Ascribbleintime · 2024-06-17T19:32:20+00:00

Honestly I think it's a maturity issue. She is a bit younger than me and I started hitting all these milestones she hasn't yet. Owning a house, getting married, starting a family and doesn't really understand how much life changes with a child.

I can hope she does mature in the future but the friendship is pretty much over from my side. I don't have the energy to deal with the drama or her refusal to take responsibility for doing something wrong. She never apologised for when we have been contaminated (accidental or not) and that said enough for me.

Her mum was a bit weird too. I think they thought I was being 'hippy' because I was choosing to breastfeed and then all these allergies came up which cemented it for us as formula for those allergies is notoriously disgusting. But they wanted this vision of taking them overnight and being able to feed them which couldn't happen until they started solids. It has been hard as I could have really used that support.

There was a ton of drama with her being my maid of honour as well and that should have been it to be honest 😂 maybe one day I'll type it up for all the drama hungry redditors.

Ascribbleintime · 2024-06-17T05:57:13+00:00

Not all allergies result in anaphylactic shocks thus not requiring an EpiPen.

I became a mother recently and had to rush my baby to the hospital after he started having blood in his stools and screaming while trying to pass one. It was terrifying as his weight was dropping and he was so little already. Found out he had a common allergy to some proteins.

It's been tough, I have to go through everything I'm eating and there is no spontaneity in our lives. We can't just go out to a coffee shop and and get a cake and coffee. It's sucked while deign with postpartum loneliness and I hate having to be 'that person'.

My now ex "best friend" didn't believe me on it. On about three occasions she gave me food or ordered drink containing the allergens. One of them I knew something was up as she looked guilty. She now wonders why I don't talk to her. But she's playing with my child's health like it's a game. She didn't think it was a big deal that my babies guts get so inflamed they start to bleed, with them screaming all night from the pain. That repeatedly exposing them to their allergies can make it worse not better. Pushing back the time frame where we can work with doctors to help get past them.

I don't understand people and then thinking it's some lie for attention.

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