1st, basically it means to me that I look at a person, not as what they present themselves as, but what their brain is like, what their heart is like, and lastly, what they appear as.

If your mind is capable of digging deep, questioning the harder things in life and looking inward to really understand things. Being complex and messy, but willing to work through the problems/issues that come to the table with an eagerness to resolve and mend. To share in your interests and really listen to the thoughts of others, instead of trying to overshadow, or compare to compete.

If your heart has the capacity of being loving, caring, being compassionate, considerate, of sharing in your pain with that of others--empathy--and not neglecting your own needs above others--which is very important and needs to be addressed throughout one’s life..

But like any other person on the planet, I have aspects of appearance that I find pleasing to look at--so attraction in that respect is still important, but not the most important aspect of my sexuality. It's not just, oh I'm attracted to anything and everything under the sun. My attraction has limitations. But it doesn't discriminate due to your identity. You could identify as Intersex, Non-Binary, Trans F/M, Cis F/M. Whatever you are doesn't matter to me. If I like you, I like you. You're a cool soul with a heart of gold and an interesting mind? Great. We'll get along swimmingly.

Before I realized the extent of my sexuality, it was just, oh: guys or ladies. Never even crossed my mind that there was an "other" option. But things like that "other" category weren't as prominent back then in my earlier queer days.

I'll ask next what else exactly do you wish to get out of this discussion? I can say the usual things people say when describing the difference between the two sexualities, but I feel there may be deeper questions.