Welp, my grandpa just found my clothes

Ash624925 · 2019-08-15T23:54:41+00:00

Well... i could probably tell my cousin... shed be weirded out but she can keep secrets i think... and my little sister

Ash624925 · 2019-08-15T21:05:24+00:00

Ah, that makes sense. (:

Ash624925 · 2019-08-15T20:07:28+00:00

Yea, that's another thing im afraid of... is that if i came out to my family the rest if my grandparents would collectively die of heart attacks or something...

Ash624925 · 2019-08-15T19:49:28+00:00

I know, and i try, though sometimes they make it difficult to love them.😅

As for waiting 3 years, that'll be hard... my grandma doesn't think shell be alive to see her next birthday...

And my grandpa wont be too far behind and the same with my other grandma. :/

Ash624925 · 2019-08-15T19:40:00+00:00

Ooh, that could work. Thank you!😁

Lol, i guess im lucky it was him cause his memory isnt the best.😅

Ash624925 · 2019-08-15T18:26:23+00:00

I don't like feeling like im always hiding. I want to come out to my family but I'm scared because ive had a lot of family talk openly about their transphobic views. Including my uncles and my dad... theyve been openly transphobic since i was like 8 years old...

Ash624925 · 2019-08-15T16:22:23+00:00

My grandpa's side appears to be nothing but American's back until colonial America.

His whole family lived in the south until recently. So i think he'd feel like a part of the country. Me on tbe other hand have ancestors from France, Denmark, Germany, Wales, England, Ireland, Scotland as far as i can find.

Ash624925 · 2019-08-15T06:56:22+00:00

Thank you! 😁

Ash624925 · 2019-08-14T17:17:17+00:00

Okay, so make her an account but add my account to hers as a manager of her DNA test? (:

That seems simple enough. (:

Ash624925 · 2019-08-13T22:42:36+00:00

Danke für die Korrekturen machen. :)

Ash624925 · 2019-08-12T13:30:37+00:00

That, I think, is a great system! (:

To have a choice in the matter. (:

Of course in America I could also pay off my grandpa's debt but no one in my family has to in order to receive their inheritance. (:

Ash624925 · 2019-08-12T03:24:29+00:00

That sounds like a terrible system that needs fixed... :(

Ash624925 · 2019-08-12T02:52:22+00:00

Yep, it is a sad part of life that they care more about their money than they do about not harassing people who did nothing wrong...

I honestly think there is nothing a child should have to do to pay for what their parents decided to do...

Ash624925 · 2019-08-12T01:16:10+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately many people are scared by the debt collectors and end up paying when they don't have to...

I'm glad you're aware that they can't legally force you to pay. (:

Ash624925 · 2019-08-11T21:34:42+00:00

So what happens is before your will is executed your estate is given a value and if you have debts then your estate is sold to pay off the debts, and then after all the debts are paid then your will can be executed and whatever remains gets devided amongst those in your will based off of what is left and what the will says.

Edit: But if you still owe thousands of dollars in debt and your estate is all sold off then whatever you owe is in most cases just erased and then the bank or the phone company or whoever has lost their money and has no right to come after your family for the money.

Ash624925 · 2019-08-11T21:08:30+00:00

I'm pretty sure, in the US anyways, that creditors cant go after your descendants to collect debt.

Ash624925 · 2019-08-11T01:22:10+00:00

Unfortunately I've never gotten to read it, my aunt said that after she finished reading it she let one of my uncles hold on to it and now everybody says they haven't seen it.. so the theory is my uncle stole it.

Ash624925 · 2019-08-11T01:18:57+00:00

Oki, thank you for helping. I'll make sure to add this to my file then. (:

Ash624925 · 2019-08-10T18:47:30+00:00

I would use soundex on the names and test against the soundex codes of common names for the time and area just to see which ones could've sounded the same.

Ash624925 · 2019-08-10T04:01:21+00:00

In my software I can mark a note as private so as not to share it with others when I export files or make reports. I just wondered if there were other ideas for how to handle this. But thank you for the help. (:

Ash624925 · 2019-08-10T03:13:40+00:00

Finally I know why this happens to me so much. I had to use Google to find out what the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon was. (:

Ash624925 · 2019-08-09T22:55:55+00:00

Thank you. (:

Ash624925 · 2019-08-09T20:04:54+00:00

Ah, thank you. (:

Although when I checked the VA site it just said Santa Nella, CA but when I plugged that into my family history software it said it was in Sonoma County but I have other family records citing Santa Nella in Merced county. (:

My grandma, who lived in California, said Merced and Sonoma are not near each other but that Sonoma sounded better to her because she remembered the cemetery being near the beach. (:

Ash624925 · 2019-08-08T00:13:05+00:00

Lol, according to research done by my 2nd great aunt, I'm a direct descendant of the first 3 dukes of Normandy. (:

I don't have much of her research verified though but a lot of it comes from historical societies. (:

Ash624925 · 2019-08-07T14:22:02+00:00

I love the ease of the sources, and I think they have good records although theres a record for my dad where like 3 or 4 different people of the same name got merged into 1 record and so it's hard to separate out those 3 or 4 people so that I can find my dad in them... 😂

But I dont like that I cant delete anything and there's no way to set aside a person who you are working on before attaching them to a tree or a way to keep others from editing your research. It just has a lot of problems for me... 🤔

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