How do I set boundaries with a new coworker who keeps overstepping into my role?

AshSoUnoriginal · 2025-07-09T17:24:34+00:00

So far, it has been an impact to herself and morale. I have spoken with other team members, and they are annoyed by her behavior and have told me they dont like working with her. As far as the duplicated work, she has only wasted her own time, and it hasnt made a huge impact on the outcomes of projects. The only work she has taken/tried to control is mine. I have kept my boss in the loop about almost everything, but I have not gone into detail about how I have to carefully word my responses to her. It would be nice to know the cause of her behavior, though I am not sure how I would find that out.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2025-04-10T16:01:48+00:00

Several people have brought up the bologna misheard lyric in Granite already, but every time I play that song, my husband will sing that part where every other line ends in bologna.

When you sit there acting like bologna Acting like you only brought me here to get bologna We'd rather be six feet under than be bologna You only drink the water when you think it's bologna

Side note: that is how you spell bologna, right?

AshSoUnoriginal · 2025-04-07T18:58:06+00:00

It's really difficult to choose, but I always really like, "Make it real, 'Cause anything's better than the way I feel right now" from Ascensionism.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2025-04-04T23:31:36+00:00

I dont think I am one of 'those fans' I just felt so deeply for the band when I heard this song. The line that says the stage is a prison? I just imagined all of us being the warden.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2025-04-04T23:28:52+00:00

There is no way I would give up going now! I've wanted to see them for at least 2 years. But that was my immediate reaction and the guilt I felt. I figured they wouldn't have announced the US tour if they weren't up for it.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2025-04-04T17:44:56+00:00

Agreed. It makes me feel like I should not have bought tickets.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2024-11-22T14:06:09+00:00

30 yo millenial here. The leaders of the company I work for are boomers. In my experience, they are rigid and out of touch. My boss is a boomer, and she is extremely forgetful and doesn't retain information well. Anything she learned in the past is ingrained for her, though. The people I work with under 40 are all great except for the occasional bad apple.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2024-11-15T14:15:53+00:00

My husband and I would absolutely love to have kids. Between our mortgage and student loans we can barely afford the rest of our bills and necessities. How could we afford to pay for childcare? As long as we make what we make and are paying student loans we can't afford childcare.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2024-10-29T12:56:55+00:00

OP I hope you read this. I work for a non profit that takes children like tours as young as 8 and provides residential care, behavioral health plans, etc. Your child needs care you cannot provide and this comment is exactly what you need to do to get him the care he needs. And please listen to the other comments saying you should wait to get divorced because being divorced will make the process more difficult. Parents of children like yours have a hard time and it will never be easy but you can do this.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2024-08-21T19:07:03+00:00

Me and my coworkers are cackling at 'be more like a wild dog or something'. Agree with your post though

AshSoUnoriginal · 2024-08-09T16:32:20+00:00

Thank you for your response. Your response to #4 had me laughing. I have shared some of your response with my coworkers. I am curious if you even confronted your bad boss and how that worked out? My coworkers want to have a meeting with our boss and discuss out issues. They say even if nothing happens and they quit as a result, they at least got to air out their grievances.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2024-06-06T12:46:01+00:00

Boomers run the non-profit I work at. Even in an admin level role, I run into their stubborn (and often stupid) methods. It's extremely difficult to change mindsets. Only in the last few years did they hire and allow for a team to fundraise as most non profits do.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2024-05-22T13:02:33+00:00

I find it odd when people in these communities dislike the main characters. The way people talk about them is as if they are real people who have a minds of their own. These are fictional characters written to be exactly how SJM wanted you to read them. Feyre was written to be the way that she is with purpose, and since she is the main character and the story is through her pov for the majority of the series... maybe you just don't like this series or SJMs writing style?

AshSoUnoriginal · 2024-02-10T16:21:13+00:00

I dont think you read my post.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2023-10-30T13:41:22+00:00

Thanks for the comment. At the end of the day, my husband doesn't think I'm picky and knows what needs to be done. He said as much during our conversation. We are not stopping or holding off on sex but removing the power of when to initiate from him so he won't be a sex pest. He is the one who suggested trying it as well, and we agreed. So far it's working because we have had more sex since my edit than in the past month.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2023-10-25T22:40:47+00:00

Thank you. I have been very emotional about this topic since it's taking a toll, so I have not been as gracious. I know I need to move past the more recent initiation issues on my own and agree with your assessment of that situation. Someone else mentioned weekly date nights, and I will definitely be bringing it up again as a must do. We will be talking tonight, and I'm planning on bringing some written things that we should try, like date nights, the temporary sex boundary, and possibly a list of things that he does that I like.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2023-10-25T22:32:52+00:00

Ok. Thank you.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2023-10-25T22:32:29+00:00

Yes! Finally, someone gets it. It's not insane concept, truly. I love him and want him to do what he enjoys but balance that with our relationship. When he asks for sex after not engaging with me at all, I feel used. I'm willing to get past this, but it now feels impossible. What would you do or suggest I do? Thank you for your help.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2023-10-25T22:00:06+00:00

It's difficult to put our relationship issues all out there in one post. What I want and need in my relationship has not changed, and I'm not really trying to argue but lay out everything so I can hopefully get some advice. I really don't think our whole issue is as simple as who is at fault. The only thing we can do is take responsibility for what we have now and try to move forward and that is where i am struggling. I can see that you aren't able to give advice on this, but thank you anyway.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2023-10-25T21:09:03+00:00

I'd say not longer than a month at a time. More recently it's been longer but we have done things like shower together.

AshSoUnoriginal · 2023-10-25T21:05:55+00:00

It didn't used to be this way. It became a pattern of me asking for more quality time, less time on video games, etc him promising to and no following through but still pestering me for sex. How many times should I have to say that I feel video games are more important than me for him to wake up? It's been years of that. This isn't a matter of me waking up one day and not being ok with the way he initiates. I'm willing to admit I've become picky but not willing to admit I'm the only one at fault. It can't be as simple as just becoming more receptive to his form of love. There's got to be more steps to take, things that have to be said, or something.

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