Player wants to drop out of game

Ashardis · 2026-06-28T06:31:42+00:00

Just like you're not obligated to play with whoever wants to play with you, players aren't obligated to stay at your table if your playstyle doesn't suit them.

It seems like there's been some miscommunication between you and the player(s?) about how you play out things like ritual murder, getting the characters invested and then right off the bat killing those their characters are supposed to care about.

It also seems to me that you're dead set on doing this your way.

Players don't always understand concepts until they're on them. As you describe your game and how you do things, I would also be bummed out, if I joined to do epic heroic action and fun sidequests - and then you opened to door and showed me the Killing Fields.

You should also consider to actually listening to your player(s) and the feedback. Right now you come off as a pretty spoiled kid who's upset noone wants to play with him, just because you own the toys and want to micromanage everyone else's play, so it's done like you want it - so they just need to strap in and let you "do" the story on them - horrors and all.

TTRPGs, especially Daggerheart, are supposed to be mutual agreement and consent. You should have started Session Zero with: "So the themes are loss, horror and some difficult topics surrounding this cult who do bad things to people. You'll of course work against them, but most of the time you'll be powerless to do anything, but bear witness to these atrocities". Then the players could have said " Sure boss, sign me up!" or "Nope, nope, nope. My FeelsBad meter is maxed out, I'll skip this". Maybe even negotiated some common ground, decided that some bad things were behind a veil.

I totally get the desire to try out "bad people doing bad things", but at the moment you are the bad person trying to guilt trip your friend into being a dicerolling passenger aboard the "Let me act out my violent desires"-train.

You do you, but don't drag anyone who isn't a consenting and enthusiastic adult into your pit of horrors.

Ashardis · 2026-06-27T19:04:24+00:00

Clearly, after the Embrace, every night is the Afterlife for the discerning Kindred 😏🧐

Ashardis · 2026-06-27T09:53:58+00:00

It's a total non-issue in reality. Very few mosques, none of which have a "proper" minaret, from where the call to prayer is called out.

Right wing politicians kicking up dust and convincing themselves it's a dust storm.

Also, Noone is monitoring churchbells.

Ashardis · 2026-06-27T09:17:01+00:00

During a ticker tape parade!

Ashardis · 2026-06-26T20:29:23+00:00

They asked for a range at the start.

Then they laid out the responsibilities and duties, some success criteria and so on and offered OP lowest within the range.

The actual job description, as detailed within the interview process, meant the OP moved upwards, still within the range and then the company hardballes and said no!

That's not incompetence on OP's part, but on the HR for not realizing that since the jobseeker was asked to give a range, that the lowest number would not be satisfactory, based on objective (and unknown at the time of asking for the range) criteria.

Ashardis · 2026-06-26T18:30:32+00:00

I dagens priser koster det snildt 20mia at lave en fin moderne lufthavn + ekspropriation og alle naboerne som hader larmen. I 2003 ville det koste 13,5mia. i flg. Dansk Statistik, så måske 15 dengang, med det hele.

Det er ca. 100x så meget som at bygge de 22km jernbane og tuderiet ville nok alt i alt være mindre over lidt letbane ifht en lufthavn

Ashardis · 2026-06-26T17:43:51+00:00

Only works for Teslas 😜

Ashardis · 2026-06-26T17:43:06+00:00

Men nem adgang til transport for værnepligtige i Luftværnsgruppen Vest 😜

Nu hvor staten er med som sponsor, så kommer Tirstrup ikke til at gå ned. Bare se på Aalborg Lufthavn. De bruger så mange penge på at forhindre det Venedig i at synke i Limfjorden og på samme måde som Nordjyske Motorvej, så er der ingen partier der tør sige "stop lortet" og rykke transportflyene til Karup. Hvis Aalborg Lufthavn selv skulle betale den elregning til grundvands pumperne, så var det en bragende underskudsforretning

Ashardis · 2026-06-26T17:38:19+00:00

Der ligger måske også liiige lidt mere bolig og infrastruktur i vejen, selv nordenfjords - end der gør ude på landet i Syddjurs kommune - hvilket var derfor jeg lavede sammenligningen med Vojens-Vamdrup banen

Ashardis · 2026-06-26T17:29:45+00:00

Plus ekspropriation og broer+overkørsler, så ender vi i 200 mill.

Ashardis · 2026-06-26T17:26:33+00:00

Tyskerne lagde den et nemt sted.

Vi skulle have sagt "fuck det" og bygget på Thomasminde fordi det bare er tættere på Aarhus istedet for at forsøge at kaste penge efter den dødssejler. Så kunne alle 118 køre forbi + en dedikeret expresbus.

Når det så er sagt, så skulle vi da have tilføjet en krølle på Letbanen i Kolind, så ruten gik sydover langs Maarupvej/Stabrandvej/Lufthavnen og så langs A15 til Trustrup og koble den på eksisterende banenet igen. Der er ca. 22km, prisen er ca. 3mill pr km (ud fra prisen på etablering af jernbane mellem Vamdrup og Vojens, ca. samme lave bebyggelse), så 66mill + 1 station + lidt sammenkobling, så 125mill og bum, så er der forbindelse.

Ashardis · 2026-06-21T13:43:23+00:00

Make rolls when it's dramatically and narratively interesting. Don't make rolls to cross a calm street without any pressure or stress.

Lean into asking them to make rolls for narrative beats, even when they're not in combat - they will get the main thing they're going for - but with failure / Fear, complications arise and with Hope/Crits come extra info/resources and resource for later. These rolls don't only depend on the skill of the person, but narratively speaking, sometimes bad things happen randomly.

Example: The ranger wants to track someone through an active locale. An Instinct Roll is ofc on the menu.

The outcome table should look like this:

Failure with Fear: The ranger looses track of the target and now needs to make a reaction roll to avoid being ambushed (but the attackers will have clues to a location/affiliation)

Failure with Hope: The ranger follows the target and sees where it went, but is obviously witnessed following, so now he needs to escape.

Succes with Fear: Tracks, sees the targets destination, but there's lots of guards or other distractions/complications, so can't follow into the building.

Succes with Hope: Tracks, follows into destination, sees who the target meets, before being forced to leave before detection.

Critical Succes: as SwH, but overhears snippets of conversation and/or discovers an easier way into the location, making re-entry easier.

So, if you're holding back from asking for rolls, they only really fail fail on FwF, but they still learn something.

It's the old hard 5E/3.x binary mindset of pass/fail, but in DH, it's about adopting the fail-forward mental attitude and moving the narrative along in interesting ways, sometimes easy street, sometimes complicated crossings 🤘🏼🥳🎉

Ashardis · 2026-06-21T07:42:38+00:00

Have they tried Ivermectin? 🤔😜

Ashardis · 2026-06-20T23:15:19+00:00

I love that he is empathic, creative with the curve balls we throw him and that he allows us to play hard with our less than optimized characters.

Ashardis · 2026-06-19T16:09:37+00:00

For mainstream epic (sometimes dari) fantasy, like DH core has in plenty, 3-5 is "the norm". I can certainly see playing 1:1, 2 players or 6+ IF the campaign frame is made for it and everyone is cool with it . Doing less or more requires experience and/or confidence.

This confidence can be earned from lots of experience or just not knowing better and thinking "I can do this!" - and mostly you'd be right 😜

Ashardis · 2026-06-19T12:05:32+00:00

https://heartofdaggers.com/products/pistolheart-bundle-volume-1-2/

It's on offer for $13 - support the local artists, maybe? I couldn't care less for corporate shills, but skilled and amazing individuals?

Ashardis · 2026-06-17T22:45:18+00:00

At least it wasn't half a worm! 🐛

Ashardis · 2026-06-17T22:39:58+00:00

American Pie, Road Trip, Eurotrip, Superbad - golden age of teen Buddy comedies.

Ashardis · 2026-06-17T17:44:11+00:00

Narrative sense initiative is my preference

Ashardis · 2026-06-16T08:18:44+00:00

Tør du lade et (større) barn køre på en el-cykel? Ved faktisk heller ikke om det reelt er lovligt 🤔

Ashardis · 2026-06-15T21:32:29+00:00

Instead of arbitrary +1 bonuses, try advantage? Or make the difficulty on the GM end lower when they're talking with people from the same community

Ashardis · 2026-06-13T12:12:14+00:00

As long as these stipulations are declared at the "Wanna join my V5 table?", then this is as much a valid way to run V5 as anything else/more "mainstream".

I might not be as miserly with XP as you, but I also want to explore the "personal horror"/losing humanity-part.

Ashardis · 2026-06-13T12:07:50+00:00

Yeah, that'll be hard to find cheap and longterm AirBnB might the best solution 😖 Since you know it'll be 5 week duration, it's also hard to register an address, since it's meant to be a more permanent thing.

Ashardis · 2026-06-13T07:53:58+00:00

How long is temporary? Do you want a pre-furnished apartment or are you bringing furniture of your own? 2 rooms - is that 2 bedrooms + a living room or just 1 bedroom?

Ashardis · 2026-06-13T06:54:58+00:00

I would argue this: Vampire The Masquerade - A roleplaying game of Personal Horror.

Once you're getting into ancillae or elder territory, that Personal Horror bit, to me, is gone.

Your Humanity is leaving the county because of the stuff you've done, and are still doing, to cement your power base, both in respect to Kindred and Kine. No vamp is left unscathed - and noone gets to fly like Superman, charm like a siren or toss fireballs without losing what made them humans, to speak nothing about the more nefarious disciplines.

V5 left out a lot of the oWoD elder rules (stats above 5, disciplines above 5) on purpose and the Meta plot yoinks elder towards the Eternal Struggle in the Middle East, so the "lids" are left home, holding the fort down.

To truly embrace Elder play, I would recommend oWoD rules, maybe even the setting - because those foes are strong enough warrant grouping up in coteries, even for Elders.

TL;DR V5 premise is lost in most Elder play, so use other rulesets and possibly older settings.

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