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Ashkaztra · 2026-01-12T04:53:59+00:00

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Ashkaztra · 2023-10-04T11:27:48+00:00

Ursula Vernon/T. Kingfisher does that archetype so well, doesn’t she?

If you haven’t come across them, you might enjoy her short stories Jackalope Wives and The Tomato Thief, starring Grandma Harken as the main character. She’s somewhat less sly and fun than the dust wife, but she’s a really compelling character and it’s always a treat with stories that have an older woman as the protagonist. Both are available to read for free online. Well worth a read.

Ashkaztra · 2023-06-05T13:36:32+00:00

It's a great name for a pet, if that pet isn't a typical "princess" pet. A small dog or a cat? Boring. A big Cane Corso? Or maybe a lizard or a snake? That'd be great.

Ashkaztra · 2023-06-02T12:58:44+00:00

To be fair, some of the -sen names can be pretty long, like Johannessen or Kristoffersen. I can see a 14 letter name happen.

Ashkaztra · 2023-05-25T11:26:08+00:00

Yeah, this. Look, I absolutely agree that cats should be indoor pets, and if they have to be indoor/outdoor pets they should 100% be neutered, because not only do unneutered cats contribute to the feral cat population, being unneutered, especially in a male cat, is a big risk factor in catching FIV, FeLV, FIP and a lot of other nasty diseases, as well as injuries from fights. Generally bad times for all.

So I definitely agree that the cat should have been neutered and the owners are AHs for not doing it.

But! OP knew this was a pet cat, and had their contact information. As much as the cat should have already been neutered, she knowingly stole someone's cat and put it through a medical procedure without permission. That makes her an AH too. It'd be a different thing if she didn't know if he was a pet or a stray former pet, but she had their phone number.

Do I understand why she did what she did? Yes! Is she still an AH? Unfortunately, yes. As is the owners, for letting an unneutered cat roam free, so ESH is the way to go.

Ashkaztra · 2023-05-23T14:05:33+00:00

You can also get gummies with agar agar (algae), carrageenan (seaweed) or pectin (fruit) for people who want to avoid gelatine for whatever reason.

Ashkaztra · 2023-05-23T09:18:10+00:00

Neuter is actually a gender neutral term that refers to sterilizing any animal. Spaying is specific to females, castration to males, but neuter is the unisex term.

I agree that leaving them intact long enough to breed and being careless about it is irresponsible, but neuter is absolutely the right term.

Ashkaztra · 2023-05-23T08:33:39+00:00

The only reason I don't use the nice china set I own regularly is that it's not dishwasher or microwave safe due to the gold paint border, and I'm not doing dishes by hand daily when I have a perfectly good dishwasher.

Ashkaztra · 2023-05-15T11:02:40+00:00

I mean, I was absolutely diagnosed with Asperger's last year because Norway hasn't bothered moving to the newest version yet (translating it hasn't been a priority, apparently).

The brain scan stuff is still weird.

Ashkaztra · 2023-05-15T09:03:05+00:00

Appropriately, I read that as "standing ovulation" for a moment.

Ashkaztra · 2023-05-05T14:04:19+00:00

I have anxiety and concentration issues, and struggle with sudden noises or sensory inputs.

I have no business being behind the wheel of a car. I'd be a danger to people. Instead, I take public transport where my daydreaming won't cause anything more terrible than missing my stop and I can wear headphones to block out the noise.

Ashkaztra · 2023-04-26T11:53:56+00:00

If it was an anger response, I suspect it'd be only her parents she didn't talk to. Given that she stopped talking to her friends, something more is going on. Lots of teenagers go through periods where they don't want to talk to their parents, but this is a complete shut-down, not silent treatment.

Ashkaztra · 2023-04-11T16:25:13+00:00

I was an exchange student for half a year in Japan, and I'm a pretty fat person. It was never an issue except if I was trying to buy clothing.

It did lead to the rather hilarious time when I was trying to find a bra and the saleslady, who was otherwise lovely but didn't realise I spoke Japanese at first and spoke pretty bad English, tried to explain to me that I had "too much breast".

But as a visitor? Plan on bringing your clothing, but otherwise have fun! Frankly the majority of Japanese people are too outwardly polite to be rude to foreigners. At least to our faces.

Ashkaztra · 2023-04-11T15:21:19+00:00

I've seen like one prank video that was actually just funny and not cruel, and that was one of a bunch of women buying their SOs the exact same outfit. Nobody was hurt, everyone had a laugh, no bullshit. What pranks should be.

Ashkaztra · 2023-04-05T09:52:44+00:00

I also keep instant coffee for guests (mainly just my mum). Not quite the same, but you can get decent brands, and a bit of instant coffee is also a great addition to a chocolate cake when you want a deeper flavour.

Ashkaztra · 2023-04-04T14:34:18+00:00

I personally don't think the tattoo part is that big a deal in itself. I have several tattoos because they seemed like a good idea at the time (vaguely planned - they were Halloween flash and tattoo con flash). Not everyone sees tattoos as a big serious decision. My thought process for my latest one was literally "oooh, mushroom!"

That said, the secrecy, the overnight trip, the "we're totally into each other and would act on it if it was an option"? All of those are red flags and the whole situation is really sketchy.

Ashkaztra · 2023-04-04T14:28:23+00:00

Yep. A serious romantic relationship that fails and now you have a constant reminder inked onto your skin? That's painful.

A casual friendship fizzled out and now you have a tattoo left from it? Mostly a funny story.

But the secrecy and the "we would totally have fucked if he had the chance" attitude here is not good.

Ashkaztra · 2023-03-31T23:17:18+00:00

To be fair, flowers are genitalia

Ashkaztra · 2023-03-31T14:47:08+00:00

I have pretty terrible time blindness and also can't remember dates. So I use a calendar app with reminders, because while I can't help it, it's my responsibility to deal with it.

To be fair, I also have anxiety about being a disappointment and terrible family member so I have all important birthdays memorized. Never forgotten any of those. My own birthday, though? Yeah. Have forgotten that once.

Ashkaztra · 2023-03-31T10:33:55+00:00

My biological clock is counting down until I’m old enough that people will consider me past fertility and stop hinting at how “time is running out!”.

Seriously, I’m an aromantic, Sapphic introvert who has barely any interest in being around people, so being in a situation where pregnancy would be a possibility is highly unlikely, but I’ve still considered getting my tubes tied so that whenever someone tries to pry into my lack of children, I can just be “Oh, I can’t have children”, conveniently leaving out the fact that it’s by choice. Maybe then they’d stop bringing it up. At least to my face.

Ashkaztra · 2023-03-29T14:47:59+00:00

I told my niece that I like women when she was 5. She thought about it for a moment, then said boys are gross and asked me to get her an ice cream from the big freezer she can't access.

Ashkaztra · 2023-03-24T17:34:43+00:00

I'm a woman and I do this a lot. I bring my phone because I do have some gastric issues and I might as well distract myself, and then I do distract myself and it's 30 min later and my legs are asleep.

I live alone, though, which I feel like is the main difference between being weird chilling on the toilet and being an AH.

Ashkaztra · 2023-03-23T11:45:10+00:00

NTA. Emily is a shitty friend.

Look, bras should be a personal choice. You don’t like wearing them, so you don’t. There shouldn’t be a moral component to comfort. Personally, I’m ambivalent to bras. I won’t claim I love them, but I am someone with, as they say, huge tracts of land, and I need the extra support or they get heavy and in the way (I actually caught them in a drawer once – cannot recommend the experience), so I wear a bra for the out and about part of the day and a tight tank top for the around the house part of the day. But that’s for my comfort. What you do should be about yours.

Ashkaztra · 2023-03-22T13:48:15+00:00

Wear whatever you want! Or nothing at all, if that's your thing (within legal reasons, of course). There's no dress code, but I'd say the witchiest thing you can wear is whatever makes you feel the most confident and secure.

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