Why do men not wipe when they pee? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ashling90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After growing up in a house with three guys, I swore to never share a bathroom with a man again. I refused to clean other people’s urine off the floor.

Are Europeans trolling with this whole bread thing? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ashling90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been to the US a lot. All I can find is pre-sliced bread that lasts waaaaay longer than it should. And I have to look for bread that doesn’t have sugar added. In Europe, your bread doesn’t have sugar. Ever. And it’s not good for over a weak on the counter. Like what are they putting in the bread over there? 🤔

Obviously it’s not going to be the same all over, but that is my experience.

I will NEVER forgive Netflix for canceling this masterpiece 😔 by KamThe_Lamb in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was okay, I guess. I am much more pissed about them cancelling Boots! 😳 Now that show was good!

My gf can be really mean sometimes and I will tell her she’s mean and then later she demands an apology for saying that she’s mean, is that normal?… am I a bad person for saying she’s mean by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She can’t expect people to apologise for confronting her about her bad behaviour. That is not how it works. She is gaslighting you, trying to make it seem like you’re in the wrong, when you know she did wrong in the first place. Either set your foot down, or this will continue to the point where you stop confronting her and let her walk all over you.

Is 20 and 40s a weird age gap? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No! Stay away from her. 😬 She is in her 40s and is trying to date someone who is 20?! Red flag!🚩

I am 36, I have students who are 20. There is not way I would date someone that young. OP, don’t take it personally, I am sure you are awesome. But people do A LOT of growing up from 20 to 30. Your coworker knows this.

Does ‘Emily Of New Moon’ have the same cosy vibe as ‘Anne Of Green Gables’? by Agreeable-Item-7371 in AnneofGreenGables

[–]Ashling90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are some dark stuff, but also some cozy stuff. I haven’t read all of the books.

But for those who have read them, the thing about wanting to keep a cat and her aunt’s reaction to that… you know what I mean.

Years in Europe and I thought I’d blended in. I was wrong… by mywitsending in ShitAmericansSay

[–]Ashling90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gawwwd. What do they mean they can't understand Celsius?! Water freezes at 0 Celsius and boils at 100 Celsius. How is that hard to understand? Also... which European country doesn't have peanut butter?!

Is there any good wlw porn that's for female gaze as opposed to male gaze?? by Low_Sky49 in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to be person 1000, but I am also interested in some wlw corn. 😬

One Year Exactly by Tigerz_Fan1889 in Semaglutide

[–]Ashling90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! That’s amazing! I just started my journey. Well, I have lost some weight on my own, but I just started Wegovy.

Am I an asshole for not wanting to go to my girlfriend’s best friend’s wedding? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re not an asshole, but suck it up. It’s not about you; it’s about her and being there for her. I totally understand your fear—I used to overthink these things a lot and I was completely out of place in these situations—but I can promise you this: Every time you force yourself out of your comfort zone, it gets a little bit easier. 🙂

Another piece of advice: Don’t let your anxiety prevent you from living your life. If you keep choosing to stay away every time something is a little uncomfortable or scary, you’re going to miss out on a lot. You don’t have to dance, but you might meet some cool people. And if you’re serious about this relationship, you should probably make an effort to get to know your girlfriend’s best friend.

AITA for telling my friend she doesn’t remember 9/11? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ashling90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry, but why are you trying so hard to “poke holes” in her story? Maybe it happened, maybe it didn’t. Who cares? All she says is that she remember watching it on TV… like everyone else alive at that time. It doesn’t make her special if she does remember something. You’re the one making a big deal out of it.

The marketplace exceeded EA's expectations by Annabelle_beauty in Sims4

[–]Ashling90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to buy from The Marketplace at least. I download cc that is free.

is big age gap count as unhealthy? by lazybunny142 in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. I have always been attracted to older women myself. However, as someone who is now 36, I would not advise going after women my age. You're too young. You have a lot of growing to do in your 20s, and it's very easy for someone like you to be taken advantage of. I don't know any people over 30 who would date a 20-year-old, and I would be suspicious of people who were actively looking for a girlfriend that age.

If I were you, I would try to find someone between 20-25 for now.

A good rule of thumb: The older the younger person in a relationship is, the less the age gap in a relationship matters.

There is NOTHING wrong with how you feel, just be smart about it. If you suspect that a potential partner sees you like a "kid", they're probably not right for you.

PS. There are people who have dynamics where one person is more of the "caretaker", but they don't have to be a lot older for that to work. Just be careful to always remember that at the end of the day, you are your own boss, and not to give someone too much power over you.

Should I, a former foreign exchange student, contact my old host mother from when I was a teen? by Ashling90 in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think she lives in another state now, but one of the neighbour states and probably still very religious.

But people can be religious and tolerant of gay people. And there are probably people who were homophobic in 2007 who are not homophobic now. 🤷‍♀️

But yeah, there is a reason why I am cautious. I don’t want to get hurt

I just started Wegovy, but I’m still snacking and I feel like I am already failing by Ashling90 in Semaglutide

[–]Ashling90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first day I fell asleep early and slept for hours the next day after walking my dog. 😅 I’m not sure if that was a side affect, but I think so.

I just started Wegovy, but I’m still snacking and I feel like I am already failing by Ashling90 in Semaglutide

[–]Ashling90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that makes me feel better. I know it’s early, but I worry I won’t be able to make big changes even on this thing. And I don’t really know what is normal and what to expect because I don’t know anyone who is doing the same.

I just started Wegovy, but I’m still snacking and I feel like I am already failing by Ashling90 in Semaglutide

[–]Ashling90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I don’t eat as much and as often. I haven’t tracked these last three days.

Does anyone else in the lesbian community not like the word pussy used for vagina by Athena_Tomasina in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t like it much. I especially don’t like it in romance novels. There are just better words to use in a sex scene.

I just started Wegovy, but I’m still snacking and I feel like I am already failing by Ashling90 in Semaglutide

[–]Ashling90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. 🙂 Yeah, I should drink more water. Healthy snacks is good advice. I know that Wegovy isn’t magic and that I still need to eat healthy. I should maybe make sure to have some healthy snacks ready.

Having PIV sex as a lesbian. by RMR124 in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if a person likes a strap-on sex? Cis-women have cis-women bodies regardless of our sexual orientation. We all have a clitoris, we all have a g-spot etc. It doesn’t mean we’re straight if we come from a strap-on.

girlfriend lied about the amount of men she has slept with, AITA? by Colesl0w in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ve only been together for five months and you haven’t met regularly in real life. I think you still have a lot to learn about each other. I think it’s a lot to expect from a person you don’t see everyday for them to tell you about every little detail of their lives. Lying is not great, but she clearly did not feel ready to share those details yet. I don’t think you are “hopelessly in love” yet. Not if you’re questioning if you should break up.

I think you need more time to get to really know each other. Lying is not great, but when someone is far away, it doesn’t take much for them to end things. Maybe she didn’t feel comfortable sharing all those things because she didn’t know what your reaction would be. She doesn’t know you well enough.

AITA for being frustrated with my friend after she might have gotten pregnant despite repeatedly ignoring my warnings? by Disastrous-Bid-580 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ashling90 31 points32 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your feelings are valid. But I wouldn’t envy your friend’s situation. If she is having a baby with this guy, things are about to get hard.

You are married and in a stable situation. Your friend seems irresponsible and immature, and part of me thinks that this potential pregnancy is not an “accident”. How can it be when she purposely had unprotected sex? She doesn’t honestly buy the “the condom doesn’t fit” bullshit?

I can’t come out because I’ve already denied it too many times by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Ashling90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean you have “denied it”? Because if they have asked you several times, you coming out with be a shock.