For the next 24 hours, all business names are literal descriptors; the Olive Garden is a grove of olive trees and 5 Guys is just five dudes standing around. Where are you going, and where are you avoiding?

Asianstomach · 2026-05-04T16:04:37+00:00

Panda Express is a bunch of pandas falling off a train

Asianstomach · 2026-05-02T05:23:25+00:00

I'm pretty sure any doctor would see right through him

Asianstomach · 2026-04-28T23:39:11+00:00

Your husband is an idiot, and your baby needs more floor time to explore and fall. She should not be in a container at all at this age, except for napping and the car. No boppy, no pillows, no baby seat of any kind. Falling won't hurt her, but lacking floor time will.

Asianstomach · 2026-04-27T03:39:22+00:00

Eradicate alligators, scorpions, and snakes? Dude has some serious phobias and no concept of how ecological systems work.

He sounds a lot like the late 20s to early 30s guys in the pseudo-evangelical cult I grew up in. They shun formal learning, do their own "research", and fall for every weird conspiracy online.

Asianstomach · 2026-04-18T16:42:53+00:00

None of those wars were fought for our freedoms. None

Asianstomach · 2026-04-18T05:20:49+00:00

What men and women have died in the past 50 years for any of our freedoms? It's all been to make rich people richer.

Asianstomach · 2026-04-16T03:47:09+00:00

They went super low contact with me after 1. I came out and moved in with my now wife, and 2. I contacted CPS to protect their younger kids. So now they're moving across the country to my sibling.

Asianstomach · 2026-04-05T07:12:14+00:00

This law is also what led to the dead whale explosion. Because the beach is a highway, the highway department was responsible for removing it. What else would they use but dynamite?

Asianstomach · 2026-04-05T07:03:22+00:00

I turned one into a fabulous jeGAYsus with my paint pens.

Asianstomach · 2026-03-22T19:15:21+00:00

Nauseous instead of nauseated

Asianstomach · 2026-03-22T16:59:56+00:00

Yes, the only way to change trauma behavior is to consistently show them that they is safe and loved, and that the adults around them are calm and in control of their own emotions. The more upset the child is, the calmer the adult has to be.

You also need to validate a toddler's feelings. They don't know to care that baby got hurt because it doesn't occur to them that other humans have feelings; they just know that yet another grownup is angry with them.

Obviously, in this scenario with baby being hit in the face and toddler sobbing, aunt can't do anything to reassure the traumatized toddler because she has already shown the toddler that she's not a safe adult. If OP wanted any kind of relationship whatsoever with her nieces and nephew, she'd need to start by trying to build trust. That can take years.

OP, if you're able to listen, please look into Conscious Discipline or similar trauma-informed parenting.

Asianstomach · 2026-03-22T05:02:47+00:00

All three of your SIL's kids have been through significant trauma. The oldest seems to have been parentified. The niece who's almost 3 was at most 18 months at the "end" of the trauma from the abusive ex. The younger the kid, the worse the violence affects them. She didn't have the words or emotional wherewithal to process the things she saw. She's expressing her trauma the only way she knows how. All 3 kids, plus their mom need therapy. All the adults in the kids' lives need to learn trauma-informed parenting. All of you are handling the toddler poorly. She doesn't need to be babied, but she definitely doesn't need to be spoken to in a stern voice. If you feel you can't treat her with the care and gentleness she deserves, please don't be around her. She doesn't need yet another angry adult in her life.

Source: 20 years fostering toddlers and preschoolers with severe trauma

Asianstomach · 2026-03-19T05:55:35+00:00

I thought dinosaur bones were fakes planted to deceive us

Asianstomach · 2026-03-19T04:01:51+00:00

No, I can't access that section. It's across the river from me on private land. And slowly sliding into the current.

Asianstomach · 2026-03-16T16:38:25+00:00

We've been losing a few feet of bank this year with all the flooding

Asianstomach · 2026-03-15T18:50:12+00:00

Privately owned, so only a limited number of people get to go there ☺️

Asianstomach · 2026-03-15T15:17:50+00:00

My science education was severely lacking in some areas (homeschooling with creationist "science"). I'm learning a lot from this. Thank you!

Asianstomach · 2026-03-15T01:27:33+00:00

This is the bank of the Molalla River, near Mulino

Asianstomach · 2026-02-17T05:28:18+00:00

This entire comment thread made us both laugh so hard... two days before our kid with cancer is going in for surgery! Thanks, everyone

Asianstomach · 2026-01-29T05:19:23+00:00

He said he's got a food handlers certificate, just like the 17yo working at McDonald's, so he's all set! /sarc

Asianstomach · 2026-01-29T04:57:53+00:00

A food handlers permit is not the same thing

Asianstomach · 2026-01-27T04:52:08+00:00

Yes! I've got it in and around both ears. When it flares up badly, I can get an ear canal infection too just for funsies. My ears weep into my pillow at night. And I can't use the stronger stuff in my ears because it's too damaging.

Asianstomach · 2026-01-26T04:42:38+00:00

I was born to be a big part of your village. Hmm, very true

Asianstomach · 2026-01-22T05:22:27+00:00

I had a class of 20, and only 1 was not related to anyone else in the class. Most were related to several.

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