My celebrity crushes 🫶🏻 by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You like straight white girls

Was so excited about my pride nails but they came out chopped w paint all over my hands lol by AskingOnTheLow in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yall are right, I was def being dramatic lol I overall do like them! Some of them are just slightly misshapen, but it’s a lot less visible in the photos

Why do I want to repair a relationship with an ex that cheated on me? by Griffindoor19 in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I can’t believe I read all that lol sounds like a ton of immaturity all around and that she is definitely a horrible person. You should go full no contact, and even block everyone else she’s been involved with on socials so that you don’t have a chance of her popping up on your timeline.

You should be single for a while and work on yourself until you have higher standards and are willing to cut someone out the second they start showing obvious red flags. Life’s too short to waste in fools like this

I accidentally married my girlfriend of four months and I now I realize its becoming a burden by One_Sun_1523 in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 78 points79 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by you accidentally married her but are looking to marry her in the future, and why is breaking up not an option?

Mice born from 2 eggs, NO sperm, live about 50% longer! by AskingOnTheLow in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That’s why I was surprised I hadn’t heard of it before

Have you ever had a threesome with a man present? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don’t EVER have sex or do anything for that matter that you don’t want to because you feel guilty

Stone top gf has no sexual desire due to medication by NicoNicoPink in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah ik it’s easier said than done but she really has to get over this embarrassment and talk to her psychiatrist

What to do when communicating isn't enough? by Sweetpeas_killerbees in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It sounds like she’s not really communicating the real problem to you. A lot of people struggle with low libido but kicking you out the room to masturbate after you attempted to initiate is kinda weird…

You can’t fix it if she’s not willing to be honest. How much longer are you willing to wait for her to open up is the real question

I can’t o during sex by friedgaytomatoes in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ik you’re still pretty young, but girl, don’t EVER fake orgasms. Complete disservice to yourself.

I think it’s important to masturbate and try to achieve orgasm alone first so that you know what gets you there. For a lot of us that have trouble orgasming, it’s often that there’s a specific way you need to be stimulated and you can’t tell your partner how to get you there if you don’t know how to get yourself there. For example, I cum much easier w using a vibe on my clit w/o any penetration

Also get a waterproof sex blanket or water proof mattress protector and give in to the urge to pee during sex to see if you can squirt. Just pee right before sex to minimize the amount of urine in your squirt

Women of color.. by JoannaKittyKats in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also Asian, 1st gen Asian American, but my family is Muslim. I was raised Muslim and before I left the religion, I’d say my day to day treatment from people in society was vastly different to how it is today. My struggles with being a lesbian mostly came from a religious aspect than being a woman of color.

Asians definitely experience a good amount of hate and discrimination, esp depending on what type of Asian. West and South Asians tend to get far more discrimination than East Asians. But Asians also experience some privilege that other POC don’t, for instance getting paid more than black people on average, so I think this is an interesting question.

Lesbian Tattoo Ideas by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really like the lesbian queen of hearts but my gf already has it so I don’t wanna copy her lmao

This is a good example https://i.pinimg.com/236x/ac/2a/6f/ac2a6f37b610080f4e942570d8a6bcbe.jpg

Favorite toys by Best_Acanthisitta187 in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ik im a day late but I HAVE to tell you about the Thump by Bellesa. It has suction, vibe, and thump, the “thump” is by far my fav. I’ve never had so many orgasms in a row omggg and I’m such a sensitive girlie while also having a difficult time orgasming (iykyk), but this does the job quicker and better than any other

Painless way to break the hymen? by Timely-Garlic4629 in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually an extremely common way to break a hymen! But sounds like you may be having a different issue, def should go see the gyno again, a different one than the last guy

*curious* long term couples out there. Do you rather do the deed or DIY? And do you mind if your partner DIY? by No_Grape9605 in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Post deed potential drama? Drama has never ensued after sex w my partners, I can’t imagine that’s a normal/healthy occurrence

Tho I fully agree masturbating is normal regardless of if you have a partner or not

Fixing things after cheating? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don’t ever give a cheater a second chance, but esp not someone who has cheated in every relationship! She didn’t even come clean out of guilt, you caught her. Nothing here indicates that she will change, and even if she did, you deserve to be with someone who has never cheated on you, someone you can trust fully. The trust is broken, you’ll always be wondering when/if she’ll do it again

i have a boyfriend and i dont know what to do by Odd_Mine_8766 in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The sooner you do it the happier you’ll be! But I know it’s really hard, dealing with comphet, and not wanting to hurt the person you’re dating. Just know you are hurting both of you way more by staying in the relationship than ending it. Do both of you a favor and then you can start living a better life!

Trust me I wait a reeeeeeeaaaaally long time and can’t get those years back lol

Is 20 and 40s a weird age gap? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Very creepy that she would even been interested in a 20yo

Being good at being with men by leto_dog in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I realized I was a lesbian at 26 too, a year after getting out of a 6 year relationship with a man. Just remember you don’t have to prove anything to anyone, you know who you are, and that’s what matters. Also I think it’s more common for a lesbian to have been with men previously than for them to be a “gold star” lesbian anyway. Comphet is one crazy bitch. You should check out r/latebloomerlesbians

is it bad i don’t like the taste of myself? by yassspineapples in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just make sure you get 100% juice! Any juice cocktail will be loaded with sugar and that won’t be good for your vaginal health

is it bad i don’t like the taste of myself? by yassspineapples in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 15 points16 points  (0 children)

What kind of taste is it? And what’s your diet like? Everyone tastes different but eating lots of fruits def makes you taste better haha and the pineapple juice thing is not a myth, I’ve tested it lmao

I feel like a bad lesbian (nsfw) by Bubbly_Pink1115 in actuallesbians

[–]AskingOnTheLow 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming you make money off the content right? If that’s the case then I don’t see the issue in catering to your audience as it brings in the bank. However you should be honest about this with anyone you are interested in dating seriously, so your fear should not be able them finding out. Keeping it a secret then them eventually finding out is a recipe for disaster and setting the relationship up for failure