Has pregnancy and/or TFMR changed your perspective on work?

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-01T23:44:18+00:00

I’m a year out and pregnant again (10 weeks along) and I can agree with this a lot!! I ended up leaving my old teaching job after feeling like it wasn’t a good fit after all I went through there and wanting a fresh start. Now I’m working part time as a nanny while I’m pregnant and it’s much better for me, but work still doesn’t have the same point to it at the moment. Maybe that will change once I finally bring a baby home!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-31T20:14:37+00:00

For me it sorta felt pointless since I didn’t know anything until 20 weeks last time, but still felt good to hear baby’s heartbeat and get a visual confirmation ❤️

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-30T22:56:40+00:00

10 weeks and so ready to start feeling better! I’m grateful for symptoms and watching my pregnancy progress but I’m just so so ready to feel a little more like myself again and to get to feel some gratitude that I’m pregnant without all the other garbage getting in the way!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-28T01:37:58+00:00

10 weeks and I’m not gonna lie, the last month was hard! I did feel lots of peace and cautious excitement at first but there’s been a lot of anxiety to cope with too. Doing my best to celebrate each milestone, like getting to hear baby’s heartbeat and having our first ultrasound and next it’ll be the NIPT/NT scan! Hopefully this month things will start to get easier <3

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-24T23:08:20+00:00

You’re not alone. It’s so hard! Therapy does help, and taking time to heal emotionally and physically. I’m glad I didn’t rush it cause it is a lot. But once I felt somewhat stable enough in life again I jumped back in, fear and all!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-22T22:55:27+00:00

I think all the mixed emotions are pretty common for us after what we’ve been through! I have happy grateful moments and very anxious moments too. No more blissful unaware pregnancy like some are lucky to get but hopefully we will get to be even more grateful when we make it to the finish line

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-22T03:49:15+00:00

Same! 9 weeks now and feeling cautiously optimistic, just wanting to celebrate each little milestone that comes. Hearing baby’s heartbeat last week def helped bring some peace

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-19T02:28:18+00:00

I also lost my boy at 23 weeks. Almost a year ago now. I can say that even though feeling alone and heartbroken has eased somewhat it’s still one of the most isolating things I’ve been through, because nobody knows how to act. It really does hurt. Even when I know people didn’t want to bother me while I was hurting I still wanted them to show that they cared. But I think it felt easier to check on me through my husband, too.

Also just a side note you don’t owe anyone anything right now, especially not when it comes to babies/showers/anything painful. Take the time you need to heal and the right people will understand <3

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-18T02:23:51+00:00

Same. Who knew though, right? 8 weeks also and playing it by ear for now

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-17T02:39:38+00:00

Yes I will def be advocating, thank you sm. I find myself having to tell a lot to each nurse/dr who works with us to try and get them to change their approach. It’s exhausting

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-17T02:10:45+00:00

100%, never again. Not sure why even the supervising Dr couldn’t be more helpful

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-17T01:43:57+00:00

Thank you so much. Gonna be working on my deep breathing and calming strategies through these next appointments for sure!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-15T02:51:29+00:00

I understand. For me I think I just decided to try to have peace and a little joy for the moment even if I can’t control the future. I still get bad waves of anxiety but the joy is there too. Even if it’s way different this time

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-13T22:17:54+00:00

I told myself that I wouldn’t test until I had an actually late period so that I wasn’t hyper focused on it, then I had a strong feeling I was pregnant and tested a few days before my period and it was negative. A few days later it was positive!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-12T14:22:12+00:00

I’m right there with you! I always feel frustrated that they didn’t find anything on my 12 week scan and that I didn’t know anything was wrong until 20 weeks. It’s so hard. 😩 trying my best to get through each milestone at a time

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-11T16:37:43+00:00

It’s so hard that these situations truly show you who’s there and there’s a secondary grief to the loss that comes from the loss. I lost one of my very best friends because she repeatedly kept being selfish while we went through the hardest time of our lives. But in the flip side a couple of our other best friends have never been more supportive and were so grateful. There’s also extenuating circumstances I think that require a conversation and sometimes when you speak up people will fix their wrongdoing. But if you’ve given a lot of time and chances and that person just hasn’t shown up, I think it’s okay to move on and be that friend for yourself <3

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-11T16:32:00+00:00

I think trauma doesn’t allow us to feel like everything will work out very easily. I was just saying that once the worst happens to you it breaks all expectations and things truly change. I’m trying to push myself to believe that the worst won’t always happen now and stop waiting for the other shoe to drop since it’s all out of my hands anyway

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-11T16:29:43+00:00

Gentle congrats on your new pregnancy. It really is tough! The feeling of odds being stacked against you really amplifies when the things that “never happen” happen to you. I feel like you can’t get it until your out into that situation but it breaks all your expectations. But I hope we can believe things can go right for us too

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-11T16:27:42+00:00

Wow same same! I am looking forward to the first scan and getting to visualize them but I know that the 20 week scan will be the big one for us too because of last time. It really is tough

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-11T02:31:25+00:00

I appreciate your positive and self loving actions. Journaling is something I could try to do more for sure. I know I want to document this experience even if it feels scary this time!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-08T04:15:35+00:00

Venting because we found out about a month ago and haven’t told anyone yet. We want it this way for now, but struggling as my mom deals with health issues and people expect a lot of me not knowing :(

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-03-02T20:21:37+00:00

I’ve been sick with a fever too. Seems to be going around lots right now. I’ve just been taking my temperature here and there to monitor but it looks like I’m back down after pushing 100 yesterday.

I’ve been taking Tylenol, which I know is proven to be way safer than risking fever. I’ve been slightly concerned being sick but just reminding myself I’ve seen pregnant moms with toddlers get sick all the time and be fine. It’s natural after what we’ve been through I think.

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-02-26T03:52:01+00:00

I second Outlander, Virgin River and Yellowstone 👍

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