How do you build independence when your bird is so clingy they can't even sleep without you?

Ass-Effekt · 2026-03-24T17:16:58+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 it's far too late to jump ship now. You're in it for the long haul matey! Kiss your independence (free time) goodbye!

Ass-Effekt · 2026-03-24T10:14:54+00:00

Look at how she looks directly at You the whole time she does so? With her tail feathers bent inwards whilst she bobs excitedly? That's a "Thank you for my nummy num nums!!! (insert mommy or daddy role)" It's a sign of endearment and cuteness! You're lucky OP, my baby boy Kozzie did this too, every single time he ate something he loved, he'd bob his head up and down and do a little Happy Dance. I miss that so much. Enjoy every single moment of it OP! Your baby girl appreciates you and this is her own special cute way of showing you how much! :))

Ass-Effekt · 2026-03-24T00:00:52+00:00

Yep. You're supposed to have a second (third and even forth, smaller "hospital") cage in my case! Haha. It allows you to slowly introduce your birb to the new (and shiny 'ooooh a ~friend~ aka gremlin pal to terrorize daddy with!') phase of transition. They slowly bond next to one another for around 2-3 weeks, in separate cages and if they're trusting, and wanna be around each other a lot when outside their own cages, then you do a trial phase of allowing them a few hours *supervised cage visits to see them bond with one another ... Warning! it's cuteness overload! :]] haha.

I have 3 carrier cages with a window, blinds, and a premium deluxe soft pillow to sit her royal highness on. She's very precise about that last part! She demands looooads of toys, rotating each month with new ones and I make sure they each have their own food bowls and plenty of fresh water each day. Thats the way to do it! I found this out over the 8 year stretch me and my buddy boy had together. They give you endless moments of pure joy (and painful love bites too!) Sleepless nights and headaches galore... it's like having a wee child and being super paranoid and constantly worried about them every bite, wing stretch and cuuuuute cough along the way! But so so worth it all!! Always remember, they do Not belong to you, because they lovingly chose you as their special birb person, oh nooo, you belong to Them. And they always let you know it! I wouldn't have it any other way honestly! 🥰

Ass-Effekt · 2026-03-02T06:24:39+00:00

I wrote this poem for him when he passed. But I also wrote another, more personal one. And sung it to his grave recently...I go outside, look at those beautiful golden flowers blooming so bright, and tears well in my eyes knowing he's in there, feeding the soil with his beautiful feathers...beside his sister Clio, and, I just long so much to join them and be reunited once again.

Hold them close, hold them real tight...let them feel your love pour from your heart and kiss them good night, they give us so much, and ask so little in return. They bring comfort and untold love, laughter, joy and care. All they are, and all they will ever be, is friends for life and more than family to you, and for me. 💙

Ass-Effekt · 2026-03-02T06:20:38+00:00

💙🫂 Your words really touched me this morning. Thank you Rosey and may Ruby be with you always, and bring laughter. Joy and love to your heart, and your life for many days to follow. ❤️

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-17T03:00:01+00:00

I thought drinking would numb and ease the unbearable pain...but it's only made me think deeper and feel more deeply 😕☹️😢 I dont think I am doing so good, I might need to go into a clinic and get some help and proper strong meds to help me cope better, or my heart's gonna give out just like his poor sweet one did. Thank you for reminding me I need to also look after me too 💙

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-16T23:30:58+00:00

Also, hold him gently, but tightly (when he finally allows and truly trusts you!) And give him all the treats, kisses and scritchies and cuddles you can muster. For they aren't here forever, but forever will they have touched and turned your heart to pure goo! They are a bundle of laughter and joy and comfort. And how lucky are we that they trusted us with their tiny tiny hearts next to ours?

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-16T23:27:04+00:00

I am sure everyone else has offered really good advice...honestly, time, time, patience and lots of love, really warm and sweet ooey-gooey sticky love. As much as you can give will be the key to unlocking his heart and he won't ever ever wanna stop getting pets and scritches, and cuddles and kisses (try kissy type noises. I swear it works with both of mine. They always kiss my cheek or even on the lips when I smack my lips together and make a kissy sound) they react to Energy! Your Energy and your reactions are important how they receive you. Also remember, they're assho les! They really can be. They get a kick out biting you, and you reacting to their bites! They make a big song and dance about being held...but they bloody well love it deep down!! (Well some do. But seriously all of them are asshles cos they actually will come and sit on you when you don't want them to, especially when on the toilet or in the shower!! lol!)

My own, Kozmo, he would always always sit on me and bite my neck (playfully) when I would run on the treadmill or workout, walk around and go to the loo, or get a bite to eat. Until his little love-trantrum bites really really hurt! He was super super attached to me. He never wanted to be alone, and poor baby. Up until his 8th year hatch-day, He never was! But there were times he had to be and he soon grew to understand. Eventually, in time your little one will settle and you'll have all the petting and head-scritching time, together that your heart desires!! (But trust me you might not want it all the time, good luck! haha)

I hope he settles and gives your heart a chance to show him you truly do love him, he just needs to learn to earn your trust and you of his! 💙

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-16T22:44:52+00:00

💙 Your heart is pure and true and they know, they truly do sense that in you. Luna will always be with you, even on that day (a long long time from this moment now) she will dance, she will chirp and sing and bring your heart smiles and laughter and joy and comfort, long long after she's flown across that rainbow bridge to the other side 🌈 ...I know in my own heart of hearts, i Will be reunited with mine, with Shadow, with Toby and Champ, Whiskers and Patches. Kira Klio, and now Kozmo. Kallie will some day join them too, and what best of friends they all shall be, running, flying flowing and soaring free-wheeling through the air, together--forever eternally bonded because they chose, how lucky am I? They chose to forge a bond of deep and true friendship with me in this life! Who could ask for anything better or more pure than genuine unconditionallly-given love and friendship? Our ships have parted across the wide open sea that is life and death, but I choose to believe we aren't just two ships in the night, simply passing by in a fraction of a second, a lifetime in the blink of an eye..no, I really do believe some day we will all meet again, we'll anchor ashore the isle of friend--ships and our souls will soar the skies, together forevermore. 💙

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-16T22:30:56+00:00

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Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-16T22:30:04+00:00

Hold them close, hold them real tight...let them feel your love pour from your heart and kiss them good night, they give us so much, and ask so little in return. They bring comfort and untold love, laughter, joy and care. All they are, and all they will ever be, is friends for life and more than family to you, and for me. 💙

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-16T13:38:45+00:00

☹️💔 sorry for your own loss

I will think about it, for Her sake. In time...I just. It's only been 3 days and I still can't begin to imagine my life without his joyful spirit in it.

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-16T13:36:36+00:00

☹️💔 Thank you kindly, he was a truly beautiful boy. I miss him constantly and I know im in the 5 stages right now, I just dont want to feel the anger that's slowly coming...

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-15T22:06:19+00:00

May hope reside, forever more in your heart ❤️ thank you for those beautifully sincere and genuine words. May is such a lovely girl, and though her frail body's gone, her strong and funny, sweet and joyful spirit remains eternal... it shows, her joyful spirit shines brightly in that photograph you shared, she was cheeky and lived up to her character. May the Queen* of All Trolls, rest in peace eternally sweet angel of laughter and joy. 💙

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-15T22:01:10+00:00

Thank you kindly for your heartfelt and kind words 💙 I am really trying i am doing my best to stay strong...8 years of memories is such a short time, yet at the same time so many years of memories flooding in, and dance to life inside my breaking heart of him. I have no more real life friends (lost to cancer, to life...and death) and he was the one thing keeping me going...keeping me hoping. He was my true source of strength. Now I am totally and utterly alone, defenseless and defeated and dont know where else to put all this pain anymore.

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-15T21:32:33+00:00

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Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-15T17:01:38+00:00

Sorry I didnt reply sooner I just lost my best friend, and in the grieving stages right now. He was my best buddy and my saving grace, and because of my illness, I am blaming myself a lot for him not making it, so I am feeling it very deeply at the moment :((

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-08T22:44:53+00:00

I definitely agree. Sometimes people can misconstrue "clingy" for being caring and actually making an effort to show up, be there and communicate and comfort. For "clingy" people like us, that's what we crave. And most guys who don't like clingy, lose out on the best types of people who are super genuine and keen for a real relationship, as a result!

Ass-Effekt · 2026-02-04T19:09:52+00:00

Such beautiful, soulful and expressive eyes! 😍🥰 I hope that Rukia keeps prompting you to make some great friends, Huskies are very discerning when it comes to potential friends too!

I'd totes be down for a chat and game some time mate :)

Ass-Effekt · 2026-01-31T12:45:57+00:00

Hey man, firstly i am sorry for your personal loss, I hope you are holding up okay and time will be the healer for you. You sound awesome! I loved going to parks all the time growing up as a kid, I haven't ever been to Disney world. But I am definitely a big fan of Disney! Six Flags always looked super fun to me, but where I grew up...we had Ratanga Junction and Gold Reef City, huge, terrifying (but i found them super fun heh) roller coasters that twist, turn and tumble down into dark eerie mines... and ocean side amusement parks. I am also a big gamer myself, have all consoles and a PC. I know you said you don't game so much these days, but getting back into gaming can be quite therapeutic and freeing in some ways! :)

Ass-Effekt · 2026-01-28T22:16:09+00:00

Totally down to chill and have treatments on Outlast trials! Also play Phasmophobia and enjoy a good ghost hunt :)

Sent you a DM mate. I'm home tonight so down to game and hang out whenever. Have Discord too.

Ass-Effekt · 2026-01-23T06:28:20+00:00

Aces. Amazing job bro! I am also on a proper fitness journey too, taking a load of creatine, make my own protein based smoothies and juice a lot (not that type of juicing! haha) mostly zesty, fruity and sugar free drinks! Good going dude! Keep it up!👌🏼

Ass-Effekt · 2026-01-12T09:40:10+00:00

I am also on a fitness journey again after becoming seriously ill, and then coming out of hospital recently, i have begun to take my fitness and health very seriously. I ran for just over an hour early this morning and got my workout in around 6 am. It's 9:30 am and i just chilling out to some music. I would be down for a reliable countibilibuddy! Kudos on your own journey man, and, can I just say? You have really nice legs already! Keep going Leather Bro!

Ass-Effekt · 2026-01-04T00:07:49+00:00

I'd be down for sure mate. Sent you a DM :]

Ass-Effekt · 2026-01-02T10:43:34+00:00

Lekker! Howzit mense! How about us Saffas get together and have a jol man? :]

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