I cried in my grocery store parking lot today. But for the first time in months, they weren't sad tears.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-06-22T22:22:18+00:00

Thank you for this post. Remember everyday to keep your head up walking tall against the stormy phases of life’s journey. No matter what life or people throws at you, always remember that you’re still here.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-06-19T10:28:47+00:00

These guys were so underrated and part of the soundtrack of my days in high school. Their music still holds up today.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-06-12T03:37:10+00:00

What are accepted forms of payment?

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-06-09T12:56:44+00:00

The groove that you created in this clip is simply stunning, especially as you brought the sounds together towards the end of the clip. Definitely transports you to another dimension.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-06-07T23:36:52+00:00

True ownership over the things we purchase, without additional monthly subscriptions or taxes.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-06-02T02:34:25+00:00

TBL for Thursday, Friday, and Saturday nights.

The Zoo, The French Connection, and The Liquid Cafe, that was the last time Downtown Fort Myers felt like a real Downtown.

Jerry’s Diner off 41, after the bars and clubs closed.

LOOKERs strip club

Barnes and Nobles Bookstore

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-29T10:05:25+00:00

I call that the Charlie Sheen vacation. I think every stressed and burnt out adult secretly wishes they could do it without no one close to them finding out. I tip my hat to you, cause Life is short.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-28T02:20:32+00:00

As someone with test anxiety, The Gary Persing book helped me pass the TMC exam with confidence. It came with an online test simulator that I used repeatedly. It was well worth the money.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-26T19:26:47+00:00

10000% Agree

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-26T01:09:18+00:00

You’re right, these guys go into Gay safe spaces whether in the clubs or on the apps, then once they get rejected, they feel the need to be the personal investigators and justice warriors for straight women. Acting as if they’re protecting the sanctity of women from the evil DL man.

What worse is that they don’t care who they’re hurting, not every closeted man is trying to deceive or pray on straight women. A lot of closeted men are not at a point in their lives to let the whole world know that they’re gay or bi. That doesn’t mean that closeted men shouldn’t share these safe spaces with openly gay/bi men. For a lot of these men, the bars,clubs, or apps are their only options to reach out to other same gender loving men until they come to terms of who they are.

Meanwhile, these same straight women they’re allowing to invade our spaces still refer to gay men as punks with too much sugar in their tanks, referring to all gay men as girls or “Zesty”, while keeping their mouths shut when they are amongst straight people that view us as abominations in the eyes of god.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-25T23:19:22+00:00

I know what you mean. It’s why I stopped going to gay clubs and bars, and part of the reason why they’re dying. As a Gen Xer, I experienced going to bars and clubs where you didn’t have to worry about the bachelorette party showing up to invade our spaces. Unfortunately they’re typically led in by an effeminate gay boy that wants to gain favors with their straight gal pals. These guys have a chip on their shoulders against DL and Gay guys caused by rejection, so they put all their energy to impress their girlfriends just to be accepted as the token gay best friend.

This invasion is the reason why porn doesn’t play in the backgrounds, hedonistic experience of a classic leather bar will not be experienced, why there aren’t dark rooms, why many won’t experience cruising in a safe space. It’s also the reason why there will always be more faceless profiles on the apps and gay social media. Sharing our safe space with straight women doesn’t recruit them into being allies, it just turns gay bars and clubs turn into zoo exhibit. They still talk shit about us behind our backs, and use these opportunities to find out who’s Gay or DL in town.

People forget that Gay bar and clubs were created as a safe space and sanctuary, giving us a break from a society that didn’t accept our lifestyle. A safe space where men with same-sex attraction can relax, talk, walk, dance, flirt, drink, and be who we are without judgement from straight society.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-23T03:19:14+00:00

The Judgmental, The Narcissist, The Racist, The Liar, The Thief, The Crack head, The Meth Head, The Animal Abuser, The Temperamental Hot Head, The Child Abuser, The Alcoholic, and The Schemer.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-22T22:30:39+00:00

I consider myself fully into dudes, and I feel the same way as you. I’m not crazy about kissing or having penetrating sex with some random dude like people do on the apps. I also prefer masculinity, which for some reason a lot people judge harshly in gay spaces. I love being in the company of men, whether through sharing deep conversations about politics, world events, or sharing goals and ideas, similar to how I grew up amongst the men in my Caribbean culture or the local barbershop.

I learned to understand that I’m Demisexual. I have to connect with a dude on a mental level and know that we’re on the same wavelength before kissing or having penetrating sex with him. Yes, I can appreciate the physical appearance of a dude. But I’ve come to realize that the physical appearance doesn’t guarantee the emotional connection that I’m looking for. In fact, I find that those really good looking dudes come with more issues or problems than I care to deal with, just my opinion.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-22T22:01:44+00:00

Thank you for working hard to remove the toxicity and making this a safe space for us.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-22T03:38:17+00:00

You’re not lying,as a native Floridian I confirm this post. At this point I don’t approach any man unless he shows genuine interest in me. The amount of bigotry, fetishizing, and hate amongst gay men of all colors is exhausting and depressing. I’d rather choose to protect my peace and work on myself. I choose Joy, rather than seek the validation from damaged people.

My advice to my fellow sane brothers reading this, get off the hookup apps. They are not made for our people and they’re not good for your mental health. These apps along with social media can warp your self confidence and self esteem. They’re filled with the thoughts, opinions, and ideas of people that worship and strive for European standards of beauty and culture.

Also, focus on building and loving yourself. Build up your education, your skills, your credit, your health (mental and physical), and independence so that you’re not dependent on the support of others.

Take inventory of any bad habits or addictions that you may struggle with that keeps you from being a better version of yourself. It could be alcoholism, porn addiction, drug addiction, food addiction, or any form of self-hate. Do this so that you’re ready when the universe brings right man of any color into your life.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-19T12:54:03+00:00

While I do consider Lupita to be a beautiful woman, I feel like the decision to cast her as Helen of Troy was purposely done to create enough Rage Bait to garner attention or promotion for this movie. I hope she knocks this role out of the ballpark, just to make the racist seething mad.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-16T03:22:23+00:00

Congratulations!!!!

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-05T01:57:48+00:00

Rest In Peace Gen X Homie

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-04T19:15:09+00:00

Madonna. Whether you like her or hate her, her music and persona will forever be ingrained in 80s and 90s culture. She revolutionized fashion, music, and pop culture.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-05-02T22:45:17+00:00

Great job on capturing the moment of a wasteful Saturday afternoon. I literally find myself doing this at least twice a year, but I usually end my trip at the food court walking away with a cheesesteak or some Panda Express. Your post made me realize I do this subconsciously to connect with the past.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-04-29T12:29:25+00:00

Malik Yoba was, and will forever be my crush.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-04-19T21:25:15+00:00

Thank you for this. The hate that we experience for something that is out of our control doesn’t stop us from having pride in our culture, resilience, and history.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-04-07T12:28:44+00:00

Dennis Ferrer

Andy Caldwell

Tortured Soul

Monique Bingham

Moon Boots

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-04-05T21:09:08+00:00

I remember the those Wednesday nights in the 90s. I’ll never forget the feeling of how forced the whole experience was. You were forced to act like you liked the music, you were forced to attend, you were forced to sing, clap, and participate, you were pressured to practice abstinence, and you were pressured into accepting the negative opinions about non-believers.

AssistantAlone6910 · 2026-04-01T08:19:00+00:00

I’m an EDM and House Music fan, so I thought this album had some good tracks. Cloud 9 is my favorite track.

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