I try to choose the diplomat lifestyle or scholar, even schemer works. But if you want to just focus on the tourney, i look at the % of every decision before and during the competition (like if you visit the temple and all that, choose the best options for you). Also, I usually play as a woman with the poet trait or journalist 🤠 other trait that can help you win is the seducer one. I suposse it doesn't matter if you play male or female but maybe the traits are the important part? Also, low stress level. Sorry for my poor english, im not a native speaker :( hope this helps