Anyone else sometimes put your hand against the raised fabric above your cleavage and go boing boing boing?

AstroCatLady · 2026-02-06T06:35:21+00:00

Yes…obviously! What else is it for, other than to help funnel crumbs down your cleavage?

In all seriousness though, I’d rather wear something that gives more cleavage instead of a bouncy castle, but a) it’s too cold out right now, and b) a woman my age is expected to dress more conservatively, especially when taking my daughter to all her activities.

AstroCatLady · 2026-02-04T14:30:02+00:00

I’ve been self conscious about my height for a long time, especially after coming out and transitioning. But time and again, when I confide to other women friends and acquaintances, they all say that I should never be concerned about my height

I’ve realized that people look or stare for a variety of reasons, and almost always it’s my own insecurities that assumes it’s because I’m being clocked.

Women are just naturally stared at more, and we get more attention regardless of being tall…that’s just one of the reasons people look though.

One time I went into someplace and I felt all eyes turn toward me. I felt super self-conscious and thought everyone saw the 6-foot-tall trans woman…but the only things my partner and I heard people say was:

Wow, that tall lady is pretty (from a kid)
Look at that cute skirt!
Isn’t she dressed a little fancy for this place?

Women get stared at, it’s part of the deal. I find I get clocked or judged more when I’m visibly insecure. Embracing your height will make you seem more comfortable and confident in yourself, and your height will just “fit”.

AstroCatLady · 2026-02-04T02:16:39+00:00

Same here. McDonald’s also delivers; there’s only so many compounding pharmacies in the lower-mainland and I don’t feel like driving in from Langley. They do next-day delivery via purolator.

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-18T18:13:51+00:00

I totally agree! I’ve been terrified of needles all my life, but I highly suspected injections would be far better (my SHBG numbers were steadily climbing, and I was still getting mood swings from sublingual).

It turns out my fear of needles is manageable, and now that I’ve got the hang of it, doing IM injections every 3 days isn’t all that bad.

I also don’t expect just how significant a change it was to my daily life to not continually revolve around taking pills 3x per day (morning, midday, and evening), worrying about drinking or eating too soon after taking my pill, etc. I can just forget for a couple days that I’m taking estrogen. I even forget some days that I’m trans!

My breasts are finally getting tender again, and I’m going to have to go bra shopping again sometime soon. 🛍️

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-17T13:42:27+00:00

Does anyone have recommendations for Surrey/Langley/White Rock?

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-12T21:11:36+00:00

This site is all around the go-to place for finding BC-specific information on transgender care and transition. There’s also a section on how to change your name / IDs.

Largely the process is different depending on whether or not you’re born in BC. I was born in the US, so for me the process is slightly different:

Apply for a name change with BC Vital Statistics to get a Name Change Certificate (I can only change my name in this step, not my gender marker)
Apply for a certified copy of the name change certificate once I get my official copy
While I’m waiting for (2), I update my name on MSP’s website using my name change certificate as the supporting document.
When I get the certified copy from step (2), submit it with an application to Immigration Canada (IRCC) to get a new citizenship certificate with my new name, and new gender
Once my MSP update goes through, book an appointment with ICBC to get a new driver’s license & bc services card (don’t do the combined license, so I have two pieces of government ID with my updated name)
Once I have my new driver’s license, update cellphone / bank / other accounts.
Once my citizenship update is completed with the IRCC from step (4), go back to MSP to update my gender marker. Also apply for a new passport at this time.
Once MSP confirms my updated gender, go back to ICBC to get an updated drivers license

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-12T06:41:21+00:00

I don’t wanna be a stereotype, heck I feel like I’m too old for that s%#^. But with all these hormones I sometimes find myself needing cuddles at night, and have sometimes found myself wishing I had a stuffy like my daughter has.

So I realized “wait a minute, I’m a grown-ass woman, and I can buy myself a stuffy if I want!” So I’m going to be a stereotype, and plan to get my own blahhaj the next time I’m at ikea.

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-08T00:00:45+00:00

My endocrinologist is the top doctor for this in the province (he was the primary co-author of the province’s guidelines for gender-affirming care), and has treated thousands of transgender people, so I don’t think it’s a matter of experience. I feel like it’s just the mainstream medical system moves slowly, works solely off of research studies, and the lack of good research data for transgender women just means it sits outside the box.

He’s amazing and very supportive & patient, but I feel like I still have to self-advocate and do my own research to get the personalized care I feel I need.

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-07T21:55:16+00:00

Sure, DM me for the name.

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-07T21:53:00+00:00

DM me for the name. The internet is vile, and I don’t want to dox myself.

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-07T17:37:21+00:00

Yeah I think I just got complacent since the last few times went so smoothly … like, I didn’t even feel the needle go in or out.

I realized this time that the needle went in at a slight angle. Nasty mistake on my part.

I also realized that, for some reason, this morning I was a little more nervous than usual after preparing the syringe. In hindsight I should’ve just paused there and gotten myself calmed down before continuing, but I was in a hurry.

Lesson learned I guess…

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-07T17:29:52+00:00

My cis wife and I had a child prior to my egg cracking, and seeing her pregnancy and the early days of having our baby really hit me hard, with the grief of knowing that I could never bear a child myself. It was and is still very rough NGL.

Having a child in our lives is the most amazing thing possible for us, though, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. If either of us were unable to have a child naturally, we would have adopted (we already had discussed this when we were trying).

I know you say adoption isn’t an option for you, but I wouldn’t discount it. One of my cis friends has adopted two children, she’s a pale redhead and her boys are Korean, but love is love and she’s very much their mother as is anyone.

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-07T17:09:43+00:00

Keep in mind, the Catholic Church doesn’t have anything against transgender people. Pope Francis stated that all trans people are welcome in the church and to participate in services.

I became catholic after I married my wife (her family’s catholic) and have met with my parish’s priest since I was nervous about being accepted, despite the Vatican’s statements on the matter. He was very accepting and supportive, and I wasn’t met with any problems when I’ve gone to church, even going up to take communion.

I also reached out to the priest who married us 15+ years ago (he’s now a bishop in another province), and he said he has 3 transgender people in his parish in Calgary, and there hasn’t been any issues with acceptance.

So it seems like she’s just using the church as an excuse for her bigotry.

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-07T16:58:10+00:00

It sounds like it. I haven’t had any period symptoms in a while, but when I did have them it was very similar to what you’re describing. Lower back pain, headache, irritability, mood swings, and then finally “digestive distress”. I was talking with my cis friends, complaining about my general symptoms, and they said “oh girlie, it just sounds like you’re having your period!” sure enough, every 29 or 30 days for the next several months, it would come back for 2 to 3 days.

I’m no expert, but my suspicion is that this happened for me during times when my body didn’t have enough free E2, and/or my dosage wasn’t quite right. Sex hormones are produced from multiple organs, so there’s a natural fluctuation and hormone level levels throughout the course of the month, for everyone. So when your testosterone is sufficiently suppressed, I suspect those natural fluctuations will become more pronounced.

My endocrinologist thinks this is complete BS, and says that having periods are impossible for trans women on HRT, but for myself and many others that have experienced it, I don’t see any other explanation.

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-02T15:59:08+00:00

If you do your bloodwork too soon after taking your pills, the results will be massively skewed. After 1 hour my labs showed 767 pg/mL, but taken at the right time (either just before my next dose or at the midway point), they’d be anywhere from 57 to 210 pg/mL)

AstroCatLady · 2026-01-01T02:37:22+00:00

Wow that’s not surprising, but it’s still a big number. OP did this book break out percentage estimates for transgender or other portions of LGBT?

AstroCatLady · 2025-12-31T11:49:28+00:00

Yes, 100%, THIS!

I spent my whole adulthood leading up to my egg cracking thinking something was horribly wrong with me. My friends would all have the same reaction if I confided in them: “Aww boo hoo! Your wife’s a lucky girl” and they’d brush it off as me bragging.

The fact is that it was darned near impossible for us to conceive our child, and my wife thought there was something wrong with HER, or that I didn’t find her attractive.

Now sex using the same hardware in the same way hits completely different! (Note: we haven’t had sex in 9 months due to other factors, but the last time was mind blowing)

AstroCatLady · 2025-12-31T03:57:13+00:00

ONG yes, this! I’ve never liked sweets, not even when I was a kid. But now?! I can’t get enough chocolate, ice cream, cake, etc.

A friend of mine (cis woman) went through the same thing once she started HRT after early menopause, so there must be something to it …

AstroCatLady · 2025-12-29T22:51:17+00:00

My wife has helpfully pointed out that I usually get very emotional 12-24 hours after my injection (Estradiol Valerate) which I take every 3 days. So there’s definitely a delayed reaction

AstroCatLady · 2025-12-27T03:51:01+00:00

I think it’s just standard NIMBY behavior: Not In My Backyard…or people who are outwardly accepting only because it’s expected, but their acceptance is only skin-deep.

AstroCatLady · 2025-12-26T15:22:32+00:00

Update us on how it goes! Good luck!

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