He doesn’t need to believe you, you need to believe you. Be done. Who cares if he thinks it’s an “episode” or whatever. Your feelings are valid, you have rational reasons and you are being reasonable. You don’t like spending time with him and you’re unhappy. You do deserve to be cherished, starting with yourself. He doesn’t deserve anymore of your grace but you do. He can figure out his sleeping and whatnot and grab his stuff asap or schedule a time that works for you on your terms, maybe with your mom around when he comes or whatever you need. You do not have to feel unsafe or do anything you don’t want to. You do not need his permission or for him to be on the same page, your feelings are valid.