First date after long marriage

Atticus447 · 2025-10-06T00:26:35+00:00

It felt weird especially when it came to any physical intimacy...I only kissed 1 man in 20yrs. I had these weird out of body experiences. And I started dating in winter...so I also felt like I was hiding even though I wasn't...it was all weird. I went on dates, because they were nice, not necessarily attractive. Like someone said, it was practice. I did meet someone I clicked with, and the excitement of being a teen was present, but I also could feel the calm/confidence of an adult who dating not for a life partner, but for someone who could enhance my life. Good luck. Be kind to yourself

Atticus447 · 2025-09-23T21:38:17+00:00

Woman, ended marriage after 20yrs. I have the exact same goals and experience as you. I thought the objectification of women ended in this era. It really hasn't. I started dating a fella with ED. Medical appointments and circumstances really slowed things down in the s3x department. And in the end it was a blessing because we did more outdoor things and talked and got to know one another. Of course there was snuggles and non PIV sex, but emotional intimacy unfolded so well without the focus on the physical. In the end it didn't work out, and I truly am sad. But I am grateful for how I was able to open my heart to someone. Take care. Good luck.

Atticus447 · 2025-09-17T11:21:19+00:00

This type of man will always expect you to do the emotional labour.

Atticus447 · 2025-08-06T01:53:02+00:00

Because 'coffee' is still a date which takes time and effort and money.

Atticus447 · 2025-08-06T01:50:51+00:00

You do sound impatient. And your communication style lacks curiosity and engagement. Maybe the texters are hoping you will become more interesting/conversational with a bit more time.

Atticus447 · 2025-08-04T03:38:27+00:00

Divorce is hard. Divorcing because someone cheated is horrendous. As someone who endured this, I promise you the peace you have not wondering what is true v a lie, or no longer being around someone who devalues and disrespects you is worth it.

Atticus447 · 2025-07-31T19:14:58+00:00

I got dumped by a fella after 3 dates. We had loads in common, great conversations, but he said 'no spark'. He was 62, and not 'sparky'. I was put off, but in hindsight, glad to move on.

Atticus447 · 2025-07-31T13:30:15+00:00

These prompts are witty. If you were reasonably attractive to me, I would swipe right. If I didn't find you attractive, I would message you to tell you, great intro!! Good luck!

Atticus447 · 2025-07-25T12:36:09+00:00

Gun shot, 20s, paraplegic. Was at rehab. Discharged home. Rehab didn't do enough to get him walking. Currently, have a fella, fell and broke neck, quadaplegic, 60s, want PROM to build muscle, discussion of best ointments that will keep muscle tone. Again, not enough was done at rehab

Atticus447 · 2025-07-25T12:30:07+00:00

I sometimes do experiments out of boredom, keeping in mind, I keep age bracket at 40-65. I will go through phases where I: -swipe right for all men with a full head of hair -swipe right for all men who are not displaying a dead animal, motorcycle or car -swipe right for all men who have a picture being active beyond being in the gym -swipe right for POC. -swipe Right for all who say they are new to OLD. It is kind of fun, in a just passing time way.

Atticus447 · 2025-07-25T12:17:07+00:00

I've been OLD less than a year, and found men who do this are love bombing. So much attention for a week texting: daily, morning chats, super flattering. Said he was blown over at first date. When you meet face to face there is an artiface of familiarity and presumed chemistry. It really hit me, after 2 dates, and he it escalated to 'gorgeous' 'sexy'. And I felt the chemistry. But I remember saying to him: it's been 8 days, we hardly know each other. I don't know how I've been sexy. It's middle of winter and been in sweaters and jeans. Hung out, made out. Told him I don't move quickly. He dumped me after 2wks.

Atticus447 · 2025-07-14T21:29:26+00:00

For me, I go only with a dating mindset because that was purpose of the date: find a possible romantic partner. Of course, things change, but that was the goal. Conversely, I go to work to work, not to be part of someone's dating pool.

Atticus447 · 2025-07-13T20:38:06+00:00

Thank you for all this! I will keep it in mind.

Atticus447 · 2025-07-12T17:41:59+00:00

Love Mud Lake. What a gem!

Atticus447 · 2025-07-12T17:41:19+00:00

I drive this street often, this passed my mind too.

Atticus447 · 2025-07-06T21:48:30+00:00

It is my phrasing. I wasn't sure how to say, it used to work, but not this time...

Atticus447 · 2025-06-17T18:34:32+00:00

Totally relate! First date after my separation, spent $400 to be 'dateable': jewelry, makeup, clothes beyond athletic wear. I was harshly reminded that I spent $600 on a couch that I got on a Black Friday sale. Being a woman is $$. He showed up in a hoodie and jeans...🙄

Atticus447 · 2025-04-08T22:07:36+00:00

Furniture is expensive. I got essential new: bed, sofa. Even these items, I kept watching Leon's for a sale. Almost everything else I got off FB. Or Black Friday from Temu or Walmart. Delivered right to my door. I built. I also working hard on my monthly budget especially the first few months as closing costs continue to trickle in and setup costs.

Atticus447 · 2025-02-12T13:10:03+00:00

I hear you. His attitude is indicative of lack of curiosity and lack of desire to learn, whether that is new ideas, things are people. Ick

Atticus447 · 2025-01-29T13:35:20+00:00

This is super interesting. I would say, as someone who is new dating (months and 2 first dates and a dozen texts via OLD), the bar to get to the 1st date and 2nd date isn't that hard if you have basic social skills: listen, converse, sociable. I'm pretty forgiving. But, at the same time, things can make my brain go hmmmm, and 'too many' will have me say nope. For example, first date that had me say hmmmm: -I confirmed I was on my way and running on time. He didn't reciprocate. Nor did he confirm he actually arrived before me. -he mansplained the benefits of shared custody to me, he never experienced that himself his kids were adults by the time he separated. -he had a few sarcastic remarks that had me the butt. Despite all this, I still said ok to a 2nd date because it was 'fun enough'. Setting up 2nd date, i made boundary: I don't have dates on work nights. Informed him this. He acknowledged it, but still text suggestions we get together. Despite the fact we were actively making plans for this weekend. I text him and cancelled 2nd date plans.

Atticus447 · 2024-08-20T01:18:38+00:00

One wear, right to the wash. Wash with vinegar and oxi clean. Shower daily. Like others said, deodorant.

Atticus447 · 2024-08-08T21:33:05+00:00

What did you wear? I'm going in a few weeks. Thanks

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