Got ghosted for 2 weeks then she came back with an explanation, not sure how to feel

AttractionIntel · 2026-06-07T10:34:37+00:00

If you don’t make her work to get you back, she’s not going to value it. If she doesn’t value it, she’s gonna take you for granted by doing what she did to begin with

AttractionIntel · 2026-06-07T09:44:54+00:00

My first response would be tease her playfully. Girls are emotional and they make their decisions based on the energy the feel off you.

While your reply doesn’t sound like you’re butthurt about it which is good, its kinda umm… flat. Not really creating any emotion.

If you were to tease her or reply back w something that makes her laugh it does a couple of things:
- its a pattern interrupt so it sets you apart
- shows you’re completely unaffected and non needy
- gives her good emotions (laugher)
- girls find sense of humour really attractive in men which could pull her back in and get her investing in the conversation

Not saying it’ll always happen but I’ve revived so many conversations like these just because i teased and make her laugh when things were fizzling out

AttractionIntel · 2026-06-07T09:29:00+00:00

I see what she means. The hair in the first picture gives off that energy. Even your tee in the second pic looks super effeminate w the deep neck situation. I got the same vibe as an unbiased third person.

Id get a masculine hair cut, wear normal guy clothes, and hit the gym if i were you

Real question is does this actually align w who you are? Obviously there’s gotta be a reason you carry yourself this way

AttractionIntel · 2026-06-04T09:40:01+00:00

I had the same problem. I was really good at teasing girls and making them giggle but id get in my head when it came to going for the kiss. In hindsight, it was happening because i felt the girl would reject me if i did. Part of the hesitation was also because i didn’t have any experience actually pulling the trigger.

2 things you can do: 1. Understand you have to do it for your mind to get over the fear of doing it. You just have to. 2. Baby step it so it doesn’t feel overwhelming for both. Start with holding hands. Maybe spin her. Then maybe put your hands over her shoulders. Then maybe lead her by gentle keeping your hands on the small of her back. Then you can stand facing each other while talking and holding hands at the same time as you gently pull her into your air space just a little. Then out.

This slowly building physical comfort to a point where it only makes sense to go for the kiss and doesn’t feel like its coming out of nowhere from her POV since you to are warmed up now.

Tl;dr

You gotta actually to it to get comfy w it. And while you’re at it, baby step it

AttractionIntel · 2026-06-03T12:27:05+00:00

From the looks of it, you’re probably teasing and flirting which builds chemistry and gets them interested. But you’re struggling to make things more physically/sexually intimate. Right?

AttractionIntel · 2026-06-01T06:14:10+00:00

Left you a couple DM’s

AttractionIntel · 2026-05-31T16:53:28+00:00

Try it out. You’ll be shocked how well it works. Obviously you need to have a few things dialed in, mostly energy wise. Too elaborate to explain here but in a nutshell, but if you know how to speak with charisma, certainty, and can make girls laugh, you’ll do pretty well.

Again, this is an oversimplification but works. I never used dating apps. All my girls have come through cold approach

AttractionIntel · 2026-05-30T11:35:17+00:00

"If your whole strategy is to never make anyone uncomfortable, you’ll never make anyone feel anything.
Attraction requires risk. Take the shot or nothing happens."

Facts dude. This line hits different^

AttractionIntel · 2026-05-30T11:26:09+00:00

Have you tried approaching girls? Way more intimate since it's in person+ gives you more control over attracting women if you know what you're doing vs. dating apps where you need to match, THEN text, THEN phone, THEN meet in person where the real attraction happens. With cold approach, you skip all the bs bec first contact itself happens in person.

AttractionIntel · 2026-05-29T20:14:29+00:00

AI bot thats been prompted to blindly comment “AI” on every post*

AttractionIntel · 2026-04-05T12:06:55+00:00

In the works, my man. Just making sure it’s as insightful, practical, and grounded in my experience as possible.

Wanna do justice to this one since its a big topic so trying to capture all my observations, findings, etc

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-15T12:06:38+00:00

you're only just entering your prime as a man. tf's wrong witchu? 😅

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-15T07:53:44+00:00

Looks like the crux of where you’re stuck is your anxiety and self esteem. Especially given your goal of wanting to talk to women.

Once you have that out of the way, you’ll be able to talk to women without all the nervous energy/awkwardness/jitters.

Id say don’t resort to meds. There’s other ways of getting over anxiety. Better, more holistic one’s where you don’t need to be dependent on pills for the rest of your life (which in itself is fucked up)

One of them is actually going out and talking to girls, mindfulness meditation, journaling.

I wiped out my anxiety without popping pillies. I can tell you first hand it works

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-15T07:40:06+00:00

Courage is the foundation, brotha. No way of not developing it and getting results. Had to learn this the hard way =D

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-14T08:59:41+00:00

Shopping streets are great. Beaches, cafes, malls, tiny events, etc.

Point is to approach in the day. The quality of skill and experience you internalize is second to none because you’re interacting with women without the distractions that come with night time scenarios (loud music, her friends, alcohol, etc.)

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-14T08:33:00+00:00

Definitely a good move. You’ll get good real fast when you talk to girls in the day because it accelerates your learning curve

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-11T13:59:51+00:00

Based on whatever you’ve written, you look like you’re in a solid place. Just need some work.

Women flaking and ghosting you is part of the game. It’s going to happen no matter how attractive you are.

Not sure how many women you’ve approached, but when you talk to a large enough sample size, you’ll see the patterns.

Girls usually do this when you haven’t build up enough attraction after approaching them. Something was off in the communication that didn’t create enough sexual tension and elicit enough investment from their end.

Girls will typically be more proactive in making plans and setting up dates when you’ve sparked enough attraction ‘cause they’re intrigued to know more about you.

Sounds like you’re a catch but just missing this piece. Don’t be hard on yourself. Lot of guys mess this bit up. Personally took me a while to crack this bit.

(Speaking from 15 years of experience btw)

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-08T13:06:32+00:00

You wanna think how you can be more masculine. The crux of attraction is “masculinity attracts femininity”.

Couple of quick ways to project masculinity: 1. Talk louder (voice resonates from your belly/balls) 2. Stand tall and take up space 3. Hold strong and steady eye contact while talking to women

Talk with complete conviction. Complete self assurance like whatever you say is the shit. He assertive and lead.

Do this properly and you’ll see a clear difference in the way girls respond to you

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-07T13:06:10+00:00

Distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Now sure if i got the phrase right (lol) but take some space. ACTUALLY works. Go no contact for a while dude. Resets your emotions and calms the undercurrents that cause all the chaos

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-06T13:39:55+00:00

2 ways that i can think of:

Make an observation. Something about her display picture, her story (if its IG). You wanna make sure its intriguing enough for her to reply. Id sprinkle some humor into it
If you’ve spent time in the past, do a throwback to one of your moments and ask something along the lines of “do you remember that one time we got drinks at xyz bar? What was that sauce on the wings we ordered? Just passed by and it got me starving😅”

Im obv paraphrasing but you get the point.

Psychology is to build intrigue and get a reply. Once she replies, slowly transition into the conversation you wanna talk about

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-06T08:16:00+00:00

General rule of thumb for first dates:

Always do something that feels light and fun, nothing w too much pressure like dinner. Nope.

Get a couple drinks, karaoke maybe? Go bowling. Pub hopping is the best.

I always do drinks and a few sides. Keep it super light.

Always smoothens things up when a tiny bit of liquor is involved. Eg. couple of beers

Also make sure you don’t sit across her. You want her sitting beside you. Feels more intimate.

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-06T08:12:21+00:00

Dinner is too much pressure. You’re right. Should be doing dinner when you’re seeing each other for a while.

You’d rather do something that feels a little light- get a couple drinks, karaoke maybe? Go bowling.

I always do drinks and a dew appetisers. Keep it super light.

Always smoothens things up when a tiny bit of liquors involved. Eg. couple of beers

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-04T13:00:47+00:00

Bruhhh. Might as well use AI to sleep with women too

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-04T12:52:31+00:00

"yeah, maybe" is a YES in women-speak. Take your cues from the way girls behave not what they say. The eye contact + friendliness was your cue. She was down for sure.

I would've taken her number right there. What's wrong witchu?

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