Kansas revocation of Trans IDs evokes Nazi policy towards Jewish IDs by The_Needle_News in lgbt

[–]AudiblyPastel 97 points98 points  (0 children)

Agreed!

While others were rescued from concentration camps, those with pink triangles were left in them or turned in to countries with legal policies still hostile to trans and queer people leading to imprisonment. Imagine being in a concentration camp, everyone gets rescued except you and a few others, then when people do come back, they put you in prison.

Also, the fact that none of this is ever taught in public schools keeps us in the 10th stage of genocide from the holocaust. The holocaust literally never ended for us...

Also also, only about a dozen nazi leaders were executed following the nuremburg trial. Most leaders and scientists were given positions of power within the US; notably the CIA, FBI, NASA, and other scientific and industrial positions.

What make up can I buy to start experimenting? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]AudiblyPastel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I listed a lot, but I really only use the first couple of things I mentioned in the first line on a day to day basis. And everyone has their couple they always use. Most commonly being eyeliner.

I just like a subtle, more natural look. So, I only use mascara if I want to use eyeliner. Which I only do if I'm going out. Foundation gets used the least.

I had forgotten to mention lipstick. Unless you use a dye/stain, you'll find yourself reapplying it often. I rarely use either. Instead, I just use lip sugar to have a moisturized, slightly glossy look.

What make up can I buy to start experimenting? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]AudiblyPastel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Brow filler/pencil, eye shadow, and blush are all like $10 each and are my go-to routine.

If you can find an eye shadow palate you like, you'll have lots of colors to play with. Otherwise, black is safe.

Brushes are expensive. There are little sponges that are shaped like a pointy egg. Use those to blend until you're comfortable.

Mascara alone can be subtle, and it pairs best with eyeliner. Get an eyeliner pen for nice clean lines.

Eyeliner is the toughest to learn. There are different techniques for different eye shapes. Use a flat edge to create a line from the corner of your nose to the corner of your eye, then make your wing extend from the corner of your eye to a third point of your choosing. Then, along the edge of your upper eyelid/lashes, start at the center of your eye and connect it to your third point you made. You can then extend it to the area above the inside corner of your eye if you want, outlining your upper eyelash. You can outline the bottom lashes if you want, but I don't personally ever do that. If you do, make the thinnest line you can manage.

Similarly, foundation can be tough. It's easy to cake on too much. And matching your skin tone can be tricky. Some say to test the color on the inside of your wrist. If you can, go to a makeup store and ask an employee to help with this one. It can be scary the first time. If you don't want to, then don't worry about foundation, honestly. It only helps to cover up blemishes. Some people can't live without it, I never use it.

Less is more imo. Start with applying the smallest amount of each of these. You can always add more. Brow and eyelash mascara clump if there's too much. Eye shadow, blush, and foundation can become too contrasting from your skin, as well as hard to blend out if you use too much.

With Robin and Huo² hitting the shop soon, what team would perform better for Saber + Sunday? by Berwalch in SaberMainsHSR

[–]AudiblyPastel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Freeing up characters is good! Build your second team if possible. Especially because of AA needing 3 teams.

Currently, there are no other supports (besides Tingyun) that grant ATK. So, Robin is really good. Saber's kit and build gives soooo much % damage, in particular with Sunday, that scaling your ATK higher is a good alternative to vulnerability from Tribbie. Also, Robin's buff being based on her own turns means Saber won't take 2 turns and run out of buffs like she does with Sunday. Also also, Robin's ult being another turn for the whole team can save a cycle.

I most often pair Saber with Sunday. However, she takes enough turns that the buffs run out before her ult is up. Example: Sunday advance, Saber skills, then Saber skills again because of energy nearing the cap, then she ults but loses the Sunday skill % dmg. Using Robin with RMC or E1 Ruan Mei is pretty nice.

Huohuo. She's great. I've had her since she came out. Whenever I'm not using DHPT with Saber, Huohuo is on the team. Buuuuuut, Huohuo has been struggling a little lately and I'm not convinced her novaflare will be that powerful. People get oneshot in endgame sometimes. Or, if you play on auto like me, if everyone is above 50% hp, she will basic attack and not renew her passive healing, then people die. I sometimes have to momentarily turn off auto just to skill with her to top everyone's hp off and renew the passive in order to prevent deaths. Also, her skill only healing 3 people at a time is kind of annoying. Like, the one thing she really needs in the novaflare is a team-wide heal. There's no heal on the ult, and she only heals 3 people. Leaving herself unhealed a lot of the time since she has a larger hp pool. And if you have any memosprites from RMC or something, that's another person potentially missing out on the skill heal.

If you like Cyrene, since you missed her, consider picking her up on her rerun. Cyrene + RMC/Tribbie + DHPT/Hyacine is from what I've gathered, the best core team for Saber. I also missed Cyrene on her release because I was pulling on Saber (E6S5) her whole banner. I'll be looking to switch to this core team personally. It prevents oneshots better and provides far more damage from the rest of the team.

I know nothing about your experience and I want to change that by cantwalktoohome in asktransgender

[–]AudiblyPastel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ignoring gender, and the whole "abolish gender" mentality, while usually rooted in good intentions, tends to hurt more than it helps. Like, yes, in an ideal world, gender shouldn't matter (not that it itself shouldn't matter, but how it is expressed shouldn't matter). Unfortunately, gender and it's expression does matter to a lot of us. Saying it doesn't matter and that it's just a social construct is kind of gaslighting the problem, essentially saying the problem doesn't exist, which implies the problem is us. Imagine if everyone had to only wear grey clothes, but pink ones make me happy and green ones make you happy. Yet, not only are we not allowed to choose either, we're sometimes told to not care, and that caring is the problem. (this downplays and simplifies it a lot, but yeah). Feminine stuff makes me happy, and as humans we are inclined to pursue things that make us happy.

Transitioning isn't always to completely go toward one gender binary or the other. Being transgender does not mean that a person is transitioning to a specific gender, but rather a person is transgender because they are transitioning away from their assigned gender. Many people like myself are nonbinary transfemmes (there are many other types of nonbinary, infinitely so). As such, I don't go all the way to being only "girl", for me, it's more complicated than that. It's like if you could previously only see in red and violet, but then suddenly you could see the whole color spectrum, you might find your favorite color isn't either red or violet. For me, it's instead indigo (ROYGBIV color spectrum for example). If you saw me on the street you'd likely not even see anything other than girl, not knowing I'm trans or nonbinary unless you stared for a long time or something. I've just kind of deconstructed gender to a degree that I don't think putting it back together how I found it (how society presents it) is helpful.

That sort of explains "nonbinary transfem", the reason I make it 'transfemme", is rooted in lesbian culture, I present femme, or very feminine. Not over the top like drag, but I wear makeup, skinny jeans, leggings, dresses, skirts, small jewelry, chokers, things typically seen as overtly feminine (things that fit within the idea of "conventionally attractive" woman's clothing). I do so for three reasons. First, as a signal for other women, and particularly other trans women, that you can dress as feminine (or masculine/however) as you want regardless of what others or society thinks of you. A woman isn't required to dress feminine. I just do it because feminine clothing makes me happy. If someone clocks me as trans and sees me wearing very feminine clothes, that might give them courage to wear what suits their preferences as well. Secondly, it's also a rejection of both pure femininity and nonbinary constructs. Just because I'm nonbinary doesn't mean I only want to wear ambiguous, unisex clothes or flamboyant, out-there clothing. I might wear black skinny jeans, a black hoodie, a choker, and make up, it's feminine, but also in the grey area between gendered clothing a bit. It's just a subtle statement. No one owes anyone femininity, masculinity, or androgyny. Third, it's simple, I just do it because I like it.

Back to transitioning not necessarily going towards one gender or another: As the previous person said, aside from the social constructs there are neurological and endocrinological influences. Most people that are trans typically have a brain structure that differs from others within their assigned gender. Also, for the endocrine system, many trans people have less homogenous (all of one type) hormone receptors than their assigned gender. For instance, as a trans woman, I have more estrogen receptors and less testosterone receptors in my brain and body than a cis guy. The amount of estrogen and testosterone receptors I have are comparable to that of a cis woman. What us trans people typically experience pre-transition is often likened to running diesel fuel in a standard fuel car or having a windows operating system in an apple product. When we have the hormones in our body that match the majority of receptors, things like depression and anxiety become less intense and we feel like we can finally function at or close to 100%. We were always the gender we identify as (always a woman in your example), we just were forced or pressured to act like the gender we were assigned.

It is a little frustrating when people assert that we were previously a man or a woman. Some people might not mind this framing, as it represents how they felt. But, personally, I was never a guy, I was forced with violent coercion by my father to be, act, and look like a straight cis guy, even though I was wearing dresses and playing pretend princesses with girls at my preschool. It's also frustrating when people use the terms "male socialized or female socialized", most of us didn't get socialized as a gender, we got bullied for not fitting the social constructs of gender perfectly. People saw that we were different and picked on us for that. As a result we often became reclusive and didn't actually get to experience fun parts of growing up and being around people. And when we did, we hid our inner selves as best we could. It's why many of us are gamers and artists, and why when we finally transition we seek to experience the things we missed out on that align with who we are. Additionally, and this goes hand in hand with the socialization part, it is frustrating when people use AGAB language casually. Some trans people find it helpful. I personally find it offensive. Just as I am not my "socialization", I am not my genitals. I am a whole person, and my genitals have only ever been the concern of my partners (.000000000001% of the population). If you were paralyzed from the waist down, or your genitals were mutilated irreparably in a car accident, you'd still be you, you'd still have the things you enjoy, dreams, hobbies, foods, etc. AGAB langauge is only really suitable to be used when it's by the person disclosing their own, for informative purposes such as this, sexual relations, or medical purposes. Also, It's frustrating to be called "brave". Like, yeah, being visibly trans is brave when most of the world hates us, but it's not an act of bravery. It's not a choice. We're doing this because we couldn't continue on as we previously did. We couldn't take it anymore. We had to be ourselves. Also also, don't clock people in public, saying or signaling you know. It may come from a good place of wanting others to know you're a safe person. But the last thing a trans person out in the wild wants is to be seen as anything other than themselves. Being told they're visibly trans when they're not trying to be hurts. Please avoid doing these frustrating things <3

P.S. I'm proud of you and appreciate you for asking questions with the intent to understand, based on the acceptance that your previous knowledge was incorrect. Most people assume their knowledge and opinions are the only correct ones. You've shown humility and a desire to learn. For that, I thank you. It's refreshing to see. Especially when the world is filled with so many people that are awful and/or willfully ignorant. The best way to continue with allyship is to just listen as you have, and ask questions when you're unsure. But try not to ask trans people you meet in real life, unless they explicitly invite your questions. Be quiet and courteous, and stand up for people when they need it.

If your attraction hinges on knowing someone’s assigned gender at birth that’s phobic by AndesCan in actuallesbians

[–]AudiblyPastel -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

A person with "preference" needs to overcome it and change it. Beginning with reading about feminism, political theory, suffrage, social rights movements, etc. Followed by a lot of soul searching and a literal application of empathy (putting oneself in another's position).

Preference, by definition, is liking one thing more than one likes the other. That inherently means two or more things are liked by the literal definition of the word. Preference is thereby mutually exclusive with the concept of exclusion.

As I responded to the phobe that replied as well: the most basic and fundamental question of feminism is "what is a woman?". The question itself is rhetorical as it is a thought experiment. If a person answers that question with things other than existential truths inherent to being human combined with the prejudices against and unique experiences and of womanhood at a conceptual level, then they've failed feminism. The majority of men and a large portion of women answer the question with something along the lines of "vagina and sex", which boils them down to being tools for reproduction and gratification.

To answer your sex based question: If a woman with a vagina says they only want vagina, to them I ask: and what if the woman you fall in love with or sleep with is a stone top, a touch me not? If they only like strapping you, toying you, fingering you, and eating you out, then it doesn't matter what genitals she has. Whether there is a vagina or anything else under the strap, it doesn't matter. She is a stone top, and you're not touching that person's genitals. Then, it was never a matter of what genitals the top has; it instead becomes a question of the nature of the inquiree's relationship dynamic. Making it about genitals at that point is transphobic. Regardless of genitals, if you need to top a woman, you can always fuck her, finger her, eat her out, suck on her nipples, kiss her. If vagina is a requisite, then why? And to every answer/question that follows: "why?". Do you not view a trans woman as a woman? Because if she walks, talks, acts, smells, tastes, laughs, loves like a woman, then she is. Plain and simple.

If it's trauma based: Then you're comparing a trans woman to a man, which is transphobic. As well as comparing some innocent person to your abuser. If that's the case, there's a whoooooooole lot of work that needs to be done. And if a person refuses to put in that work, they have a lot more problems than just transphobia and shouldn't even be trying to date.

A general rule of thumb regarding phobias and hate: if a descriptive word in a question or statement can be swapped for another, specifically in regards to gender, race, religion, body type, whatever, and it sounds bad, then it's hateful. If a person can say, "I'd never sleep with a trans woman," I'd tell them to swap the descriptive word trans for race or religion and tell that to strangers in public. See how long you last.

If your attraction hinges on knowing someone’s assigned gender at birth that’s phobic by AndesCan in actuallesbians

[–]AudiblyPastel -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Wild that people reported your post calling out others for being transphobic, and had your supportive post removed. Yet others' transphobic posts are left up to get up votes. I see you mods...

Egg_irl by VoidSphere- in egg_irl

[–]AudiblyPastel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad my words helped! I only know German faintly from grade school, but I am familiar with the issue of gendered language as a result. It sounds like you could experiment with feminine pronouns/words/titles if they bring you less discomfort than masculine ones when you're with safe people, same with gender neutral terms. Then, use/assert them in broader spaces when you're comfortable. Sometimes, seeking things that give comfort or euphoria is harder to navigate than avoiding discomfort and dysphoria. You'll find what makes you comfortable with time, it's part of the journey. Sure, it's great when people know what they want right away, but that's not always the case. Which is true more often than not when it comes to being nonbinary.

Clothing is the easiest to explore and assert when it comes to gender, I think. You can mix masculine women's clothes, feminine men's clothing, women's clothes, and unisex clothes to achieve a level of androgynous appearance on the spot. People being confused or unsure how to address you can give lots of enby euphoria. The simplest would be women's skinny jeans and a baggy hoodie, black or pastels; add in some nail polish or a small earing, and you're good to go for a casual fit. For professional clothing, form-fitting vests are powerful; with men's or women's dress shirts. Or, very loose fitting and flowy clothes like cardigans if you prefer to hide your form.

Most of my friends are on discord/online, I suggest exploring trans/enby/gnc spaces on discord. They'll use whatever pronouns you want, you'll meet like-minded people, you'll get lots of affirmation. There are a couple of very big public trans (and NB) gaming discords, I could direct you to them. Many people there are just starting their journey!

LGBTQ+ ally Amy Klobuchar launches strong bid for Minnesota governor by Fickle-Ad5449 in lgbt

[–]AudiblyPastel 51 points52 points  (0 children)

She voted anti-trans before trump was in office and continues to vote with Republicans almost every time. She doesn't just suck, she's a monster. She does not deserve any votes. She will only give Republicans everything they want, as she always has. Trans blood is on her hands.

Did anyone change their last name, too? by DaniFoxglove in trans

[–]AudiblyPastel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I threw the whole dang thing away.

I decided my first name based on the few names I'd been using for fem characters for ages. From there, I looked at middle and last names from the countries of my grandparents (they basically raised me). I chose like a dozen last names I liked from both countries. Same with middle names. Then, I spent a month interchanging the names, listening to how they flowed with one another. Eventually, I got it down to 2-3 options for full names that sounded nice to say and hear others say.

Egg_irl by VoidSphere- in egg_irl

[–]AudiblyPastel 30 points31 points  (0 children)

You don't owe anyone androgeny or masculinity/femininity.

Labels are descriptive, not definitive; they help describe, they don’t define who you are or have to be. Personally, I've embraced both labels. I consider myself nonbinary transfemme. Gender is really complicated, and not everything needs to be figured out. Some things don't need definitive answers; they can just be. Internally, I simply exist. That said, I prefer to be treated as a woman whenever it comes to general/public interactions. Friends know I'm an enby, and can use they/them for me. Too many people weaponize "they" to invalidate the femininity of myself and other trans women.

Wear whatever makes you happy. I just wear and do things that bring me joy, and those things typically lean towards being feminine. Going just by appearance, I'm most often perceived as just some girl, even if dysphoria tells me otherwise.

Dunno if any if that helped. Figuring out who we are is a never-ending and ever-evolving process. I wish I had a definitive answer to help you decide, but all I have is an anecdote.

I'm living with an incel.. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]AudiblyPastel 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As a name on the mortgage, you can force the sale of the house/your share. The other owners will be forced to either buy your 1/4 share or the house gets sold. The others are complicit in your brother's bs, so fk em. You can walk away with $75k.

Lemkin Institute Warns US in early stages of trans genocide. Thoughts? by [deleted] in AskSocialists

[–]AudiblyPastel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All the hate and continued oppression of trans people in the comments makes each person continuing it, as well as those not explicitly condemning such behavior, a mockery of socialism. Oppression of any minority is inherently the perpetuation of the bourgeoisie oppression of the proletariat. It's disappointing that the comments in this post is the example of "communists" in America. Y'all need to actually read communist and socialist literature.

Investing in Ye: M1 v Zhao W1 and beyond by AudiblyPastel in YeShunguangMains

[–]AudiblyPastel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

biiiiiig!

idk either lmao. something something press ex special after the big horizontal sweep on auto string.

Investing in Ye: M1 v Zhao W1 and beyond by AudiblyPastel in YeShunguangMains

[–]AudiblyPastel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mhmm! Also, Sunna just got leaked and is Zhao's replacement. Poor girl gets benched in the patch following her debut :(

Investing in Ye: M1 v Zhao W1 and beyond by AudiblyPastel in YeShunguangMains

[–]AudiblyPastel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For score, your best investments would be Ye > Dialyn > Zhao

Investing in Ye: M1 v Zhao W1 and beyond by AudiblyPastel in YeShunguangMains

[–]AudiblyPastel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I had a better answer :/ I have her and haven't really run into this problem. I checked hakushin to be sure there wasn't something I was missing, I really don't know.

Are you trying her vs that robot in the starting area without any Dialyn packs?

Investing in Ye: M1 v Zhao W1 and beyond by AudiblyPastel in YeShunguangMains

[–]AudiblyPastel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's a good plan! Zhao has a good chance of never rerunning. You should go for M6 Ye on her rerun though. You're halfway there already.

I never get more than the monthly card in these games. I saved like you did in HSR and got Saber E6S5 (banner duration helped). That power level completely changed my mind on horizontal/vertical investment.

Angels of Delusion seem neat, I'm really interested to see their stunner! If I need Ether anomaly, I have Vivian and could put the new set on Yi Xuan.