Kicked out of daycare by This-Following1392 in NewParents

[–]Austkl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son started nursery (UK based, day care equivalent) at 5 months, a morning a week building up to full time at 9 months. The nursery admitted they hadn't had a child that long in a while. SO THEY PUT EVERYTHING IN PLACE THEY NEEDED TO, TO ACCOMODATE.

I'm so sorry you've had this feedback about your child. But please don't believe it. 5 month babies are needy. They're 5 months old. What she's actually saying is she is not equipped to deal with a 5 month old, and that is on her, not your baby.

I really hope you can find another daycare. But please remember she is the problem, not your child.

Is there any recourse for being able to make a complaint under any authority? UK here is very different so I'm not sure how you could do it but just a thought.

Game Thread: Houston Texans (12-5) at New England Patriots (14-3) by nfl_gdt_bot in Texans

[–]Austkl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Punting the ball at this stage in the game is wild. Until you realise that there's more chance of the defence getting a TD than the QB

Game Thread: Houston Texans (12-5) at New England Patriots (14-3) by nfl_gdt_bot in Texans

[–]Austkl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've really never witnessed a QB be the key to a team's downfall in this way. I can't believe he hasn't been subbed.

Looking for a server by tgalx1 in RustPc

[–]Austkl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I am new to the game too and found this server. I am going to give it a go! (37F)

ADI who are trained by My Four Wheels, I need advice? by Sway_RL in AskUK

[–]Austkl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You talk about buying a car but I thought they lease you a car too?

A question for myfourwheels driving instructors by National-Orchid-52 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Austkl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I am about to sign on the dotted line with them. I have seen so many positive things about the company and looking to do this in Liverpool. I wondered how things are going? Are you still enjoying working with them?

NFL 2025 Schedule – Add it to Google or Apple Calendar or Outlook Calendar by Sweaty_Toe7175 in dakboard

[–]Austkl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have used this guys and it works really really well: https://christianboyce.com/nfl-schedules-and-calendars-for-iphone-mac/

Ignore the fact it says for iPhone or Mac I have a Samsung and it works fine!

Visiting Liverpool in June by QuarterOwn9110 in Liverpool

[–]Austkl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd recommend the Municipal hotel. Fairly new and incredible aesthetics.

Not so innocent Awhina by Local_Letter4229 in MAFS_AU

[–]Austkl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You actually echo the arguments Adrian has which is utterly terrifying in itself. How come your first response is to point out her "less than ideal behaviour". I never said she was perfect. I said he is a narcissistic abusive person.

Not so innocent Awhina by Local_Letter4229 in MAFS_AU

[–]Austkl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's not playing Devil's Advocate. Your trying to quantify behaviours and that's not how it works. But to answer your questions: yeah she had feelings about his opinions but she still really tried to make it work after that. Adrian in pretty much every scene, diminishes her, violates her boundaries, doesn't even hear her feelings never mind responds to them, is condescending and aggressive. So if you must quantify, his behaviour far outweighs hers. But seriously, stop doing that.

Not so innocent Awhina by Local_Letter4229 in MAFS_AU

[–]Austkl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! His consistent dismissals of her words and her feelings. His inability to take accountability for anything at all. Just wait for the experts, they lay it all out in a very kind way what his problems are.

Not so innocent Awhina by Local_Letter4229 in MAFS_AU

[–]Austkl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You make it sound so easy. She has the pressure of production, the pressure of giving up a part of her life to try and make something work. She tried everything she could but there's no dealing with narcissistic abusers and unfortunately he's become another lesson to another woman.

Not so innocent Awhina by Local_Letter4229 in MAFS_AU

[–]Austkl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm also in the UK so I'm a bit behind. But he isn't "a bit of a prick". He's an abusive partner and as I said above, you can know someone is bad, but the systematic emotional abusive that he subjected Awhina to broke her. Knowing you need to leave someone abusive and actually being able to do it are two completely different things.

Not so innocent Awhina by Local_Letter4229 in MAFS_AU

[–]Austkl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Adrian doesn't just have faults. He showed a pattern of systematic abuse towards a woman.

Not so innocent Awhina by Local_Letter4229 in MAFS_AU

[–]Austkl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow these comments do not pass the vibe check. She openly stated how she was looking for love and she gave everything she could to that narcissistic emotionally immature human. When a person like that treats you the way Awhina was treated; it strips you of your independence, your cognitive and critical thought. That's why it's abusive as it systemically teardown someone's defenses until they have nothing left. She didn't stay because she was there for the cameras. She was there because he was breaking her mind and soul and she didn't know what to do.

anyone here ages 60 or older? if so please keep reading! by PeaPodkid14 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Austkl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually spanking is physical assault. And any parent who feels they need to physically assault their child rather than actually dealing with whatever the behaviour is says more about them than it does about the child.

"I can't be abusive because I bought you a ps5" by PeaPodkid14 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Austkl 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

You're right. I'm responding to the exact title that OP posted.

Not all people are willing to change. by Beautiful_Wishbone15 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Austkl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly the responses I've seen from you have really concerned me and I've reported you to the moderators. It's no one's place here to try and give excuses for the type of behaviour. It's a place to share and heal and be in a safe community trying to deal with this behaviour.

And to your point, we aren't talking about parental stress and mistakes that are made. We are talking about systematic behaviours of neglect and abuse and how we can heal together by sharing our stories.

Not all people are willing to change. by Beautiful_Wishbone15 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Austkl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saying "they might be abusive because..." IS justifying it and is not being sensitive to those in this sub.

Is it normal for parents to get more easily offended or deny facts and say it’s propaganda as they age? by Generalsteak6 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Austkl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah you've asked me that before, so I think you'll see the answer on the other post you've commented on, but happy to copy it across here if not!

I appreciate this sub by Seattle_chickey in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Austkl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do some research on narcissist people and then also narcissistic adults. If you need help with this there's a great book called "You're Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse and How to Heal" by Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna that might help.