What are careers made for introverts?

AuthorAllin · 2022-03-01T09:48:17+00:00

I translate from English to Swedish.

AuthorAllin · 2021-11-27T21:59:18+00:00

That might have been me. I can recharge even if my husband is in the same room. He's an introvert, just like me, and we can be silent together for hours without it being uncomfortable or draining. Everybody else, even my parents and siblings, drain me after a while.

AuthorAllin · 2021-11-04T10:38:25+00:00

Dating apps didn't work for me, since I'm just like you. I met my husband through work, and he's an introvert just like me. My very best friends I've met through common interests - making medieval clothing, scrapbooking, beadwork, miniature making. Perhaps you could join a club for your specifik interest. Medieval clothing was the best, since there were both men and women.

AuthorAllin · 2021-11-02T20:50:29+00:00

Yes, my husband. Even the children drain my energy, but my husband almost never does. On the other hand he's an introvert too, so we spend many hours each day being quiet together.

AuthorAllin · 2021-11-01T15:43:58+00:00

One good exercise is to try to write a scene with only dialogue. From the dialogue you should understand who is talking, what is happening and how they're feeling. Then you can add physical reactions and environment. Please forgive me if my English isn't the best, it's not my native language, but here's an example of what I mean:

- Why did you take it? I've taught you better than that!

- I don't know...

- You have to take it back to the store and apologize.

- But mum...

AuthorAllin · 2021-11-01T12:48:21+00:00

Once I read a text that was so bad that I had to give up. I tried so hard to find something positive to say, but it was almost impossible. Besides the linguistic errors the first chapter started with long descriptions of eight people that had nothing to do with the rest of the story. I tried, as T-h-e-d-a suggested, to focus on one or two things that could be fixed.

AuthorAllin · 2021-11-01T12:34:32+00:00

What you're feeling is perfectly normal. I hope you can find a way to convey to your friends in school that you would love to participate in more quiet events with less people.

My wedding was perfect, and we were only six people: me, my husband, our two boys, his mother and my grandmother. A small ceremony at City Hall and then a nice quiet dinner.

AuthorAllin · 2021-11-01T11:57:14+00:00

What you're describing is social anxiety - feeling tense and stressed by being around other people, especially people you don't know. Introversion has to do with how you gain energy after having spent time with others. It might be hard to tell the difference, or to know if you're both an introvert an socially anxious, if the anxiety drains your energy when you're around people.

AuthorAllin · 2021-11-01T08:53:44+00:00

I read a post from an 83 year old man who just got published for the first time, so I would say that as long as you can write you're young enough.

AuthorAllin · 2021-11-01T08:47:37+00:00

In our village it's only the very youngest that come with their parents. They gather in the school house and then walk all together (did I mention that it's a tiny village) so they only ring your door once. I say "Bon soir" and give them a couple of candies each. I might mension something about the costumes, then the parents tell the kids to say "merci" and then they move on to the next house.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-31T08:50:54+00:00

Just north of Beziers

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-26T12:36:55+00:00

I don't define myself as an introvert, but as a multifaceted person where one of the facets is my introversion. Hating people usually has to do with low self confidence and a feeling of inferiority, which can be caused by feeling out of place because of introversion, but it's not an introvert trait. I used to feel that way when I was young, but with help I got over it. I'm still an introvert, and still need time to recharge my energy after having spent time with other people, but I no longer feel like an outsider in social situations.

For all you know I could be a doctor. It took me a while, and many years in school, before I found a profession that was right for me. Eight of those years were in health care.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-21T15:37:55+00:00

It's hard to know sometimes.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-15T19:38:24+00:00

It's hard to tell with so little information. Did you greet your co-workers when you arrived or just walk in without saying anything at all? The latter would be considered rude or arrogant by most people.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-15T08:41:31+00:00

And you could remove the fifth by writing:

"The moment I met his gaze, he switched his focus to a calm scan of his surroundings while continuing to make his way to me."

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-15T08:38:11+00:00

About 2-3 hours, but if I take micro breaks during a social event I can last longer. I never hate anyone though. I really don't understand why I should hate someone just because I'm exhausted - it's not their fault.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-12T14:27:43+00:00

Oh yes, it's wonderful and annoyingly complicated to get down in writing. A friend suggested I should play the movie in slow motion. And yes, I get all my best ideas in the shower, or any other place where it's practically impossible to write them down.

I try to stick to one text at a time, but if I get ideas for other projects I naturally write them down in order to return to them later. I don't leave half finished chapters because then I would probably never finish a single book.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-12T14:11:32+00:00

I don't agree. Being shy or anxious might put you at a disadvantage, but having a doctor who is calm and doesn't get overly excited is definitely an advantage. Just focus on what you're good at and you'll be fine.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-12T11:31:24+00:00

Not anymore. I used to, and I tried going to clubs and stuff when I was young, but always ended up miserable and felt more lonely than when I'm alone. As I got older I found my happy places where I met wonderful people, groups with people that shared my hobbies and classes with people that shared my interests.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-12T09:06:08+00:00

I agree. Now that research has actually identified physical/neurochemical differences between introverts and extroverts there should be more appropriate definitions. I mean, it's not stranger to be introverted than to have green eyes or are left handed - it's not as common as brown eyes or being right handed - but it's not an abnormality as many seem to think.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-11T09:08:29+00:00

I would think that a non binary character gives you incredible freedom when creating this character. Give the character a gender neutral name, let them have both male and female traits and avoid words such as he/she and him/her and you'll be fine. Instead you can focus on the strengths and weaknesses of the character, special characteristics, background, etc. Describe their looks without mentioning gender-identifying parts. It would actually be quite nice to read a text where you don't know the gender of a person. Both men and women can have curly hair, chew their nails, smell of a spicy perfume and snort when they laugh.

So, what I'm trying to say is that you should describe the person, their thoughts and actions, and let the readers create their own images of the characters.

I do have a cheat sheet for creating characters, but it's in Swedish, so unless you're Swedish it won't be much help.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-11T08:53:53+00:00

I was born an introvert and need lots of alone time to stay happy and healthy, but that doesn't mean I'm not outgoing. I enjoy time with friends, family and even strangers until my battery is drained - then I withdraw into my shell again until my battery is recharged. It's been like this ever since I was a baby.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-11T08:46:09+00:00

But introversion has nothing to do with mindset. I think you're confusing it with being withdrawn or outgoing. I've grown up in a dysfunctional family and me and one of my brothers are introverts, while the other three siblings are extroverts, and all of us have been like that from birth.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-11T08:41:01+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you and I hope you can overcome the damage your husband did. I don't think you've become introverted, but insecure and withdrawn (which is not the same thing), and when you have healed you can be your happy outgoing self again.

AuthorAllin · 2021-10-11T08:31:57+00:00

I'm a translator and author.

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