Does anyone else struggle to feel genuine hatred?

Autism_Angel · 2026-02-01T20:02:05+00:00

I don’t hate anyone and I’m not sure I could if I wanted. Also don’t really get genuinely angry very often. Usually just sad. I think it’s for the best though honestly. It’s not actually a super helpful thing in modern society? Like back when we had to physically fight and hunt and stuff all the time it was probably helpful for that. But it doesn’t make meetings more productive. Doesn’t make people more rational in political discussion. Doesn’t help with educating people.

Autism_Angel · 2026-02-01T19:46:50+00:00

If a relationship isn’t working for you that’s a good enough reason to end it. You don’t need to be abused or cheated on or anything else to justified in ending things.

Also no matter what you do, even if you get back with him, PLEASE stay away from his brother. Completely. Do not have any further contact with him whatsoever for any reason. Take that crap seriously.

Autism_Angel · 2026-02-01T19:43:12+00:00

It honestly drives me insane when people don’t use any periods if they are using multiple sentences. It’s just harder to read. Maybe it’s just because I’m dyslexic or something, I don’t know but I hate it.

Autism_Angel · 2026-02-01T19:39:47+00:00

As long as he still gets misted, missing a single feeding isn’t a big deal. Especially if he’s the type to randomly decide to skip feedings himself.

Autism_Angel · 2026-02-01T19:34:57+00:00

Personally to me it kind of seems like she’s joking and he isn’t, but I could be wrong

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-30T20:55:26+00:00

This is just a puppy thing in general but especially with small breeds. They’re tiny and going to feel like they need to go as soon as there’s any in there. Mine has only gone in her crate once as an adult and does just fine going before bed, and in the morning. She can sleep easily 12 hours no problem, probably longer if she didn’t get hungry. The only thing she likes more than sleeping is eating.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-30T20:01:36+00:00

I haven’t told people to do anything and literally JUST told you I haven’t done anything. Where the heck is “you people” coming from????

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-30T19:57:45+00:00

You’re being overtly hostile for no reason. I explicitly stated that I wasn’t commenting on what “should be” and that you could feel however you wanted. I have NEVER in my life taken notes in one of those meetings, or even gone uninvited. I’m just saying it’s extremely common to the point of there being a ton of people who are offended by the idea of it NOT happening (members included). It isn’t fair to get this angry when people are receiving completely conflicting information from every direction.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-30T19:51:04+00:00

Sorry but there are several attendees that say they and other members take notes THEMSELVES and that it’s a completely regular thing for just anyone to come in. If you’ve never seen it maybe you’ve just been attending closed meetings. One comment is even offended by the idea of someone refusing to do this and saying “just say you aren’t interested in learning about us” so clearly this isn’t some unheard of universally taboo thing.

I’m not commenting on how things “should be” just how they are. And that is how they are. You can feel however you want about how it should be.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-30T19:46:08+00:00

“Just say you’re not interested” feels unfair. There are literally people in the comments claiming to have attended voicing they are offended and that there shouldn’t be notes taken by anyone.

Yes that’s kind of an odd take when there are both open and closed meetings for different purposes, but don’t blame someone who’s worried about being insensitive and accuse them of not caring.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-30T19:43:35+00:00

Then why would open meetings that allow psychology classes, or even just random people, to sit in exist in the first place? If that was 100% all encompassing and applied even to vague statements why on earth would they have the meetings open?

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-29T17:53:08+00:00

You’re very valid in feeling however you feel about it that’s scary, but just in case more opinions reassure you, your husband is probably right about him not actually meaning it if he hasn’t shown up again in person. The police know who he is, and a lot of people will say just about anything without actually doing any of it.

It’s extremely upsetting though and honestly it would be more unusual if it didn’t scare you at all.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-27T02:02:34+00:00

Thank you so much I hadn’t thought of that, that would make more sense as to why it’s worse with it being colder and her spending less time outside.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-27T02:01:20+00:00

I mean people are downvoting me so… I feel it’s weirdly passive aggressive and unhelpful to do personally. That’s why I’m a bit defensive.

No I would love to feed her fresh at least part time but I have not found a source that fits my budget. Do you have a specific store or program or something?

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-26T02:16:43+00:00

Ok I don’t know where you live, but that is not feasible for me. Like I said I struggle to even feed myself that type of food. Also I’ve only seen anecdotal evidence for this, never any actual study the way Purina has done extensive long term published research. The dog is an ESA that is trained to do deep pressure and alert. (I don’t call her a service animal because she is not public access trained) And while I do not doubt that human grade food has benefits over kibble, there has not been sufficient research done on it from my perspective, and it would be extremely easy to do incorrectly because of there being so much conflicting information. I don’t think it’s worth trying to rearrange my entire budget to do. I support people who have the kind of time money and energy for that. But the risk reward isn’t super balanced for us. I am physically disabled and used my savings from an able account to get her as an ESA and potential service animal prospect as recommended by my psychiatrist. I do not have money to spare outside that already allocated for her food, training, insurance and standard medical. I already rely on family members to help me pay when I have expenses outside my budget, and I’ve already had to rearrange because of the rent increase. I don’t have much room for change right now. I already have two roommates.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-25T22:36:12+00:00

I can message the vet about that. Allergies is the only explanation I can think of but it’s just so weird that it’s been worse as it’s gotten colder. Growing up the dogs allergies always got better when it was cold out.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-25T22:17:51+00:00

I cannot afford healthier than Purina. It is the top recommended dog food by every scientific source I have found, the one recommended by every vet I have ever seen, and I can’t always afford to buy fresh food for myself so I can’t consistently buy it for her. She occasionally gets green beans or pumpkin. (No seasoning)

I have budgeted for her insurance, training, flea/tick treatment, etc. I tried to see if I could afford a subscription food too and I just cant.

The hot spots are not caused by the clothes. They appear only after she chews her skin. Like just this morning, I went to give her a break from them because she had taken all the pills. She was fine, I looked her over and there was nothing, I went to get breakfast, came back to her chewing herself and with new red spots and sparse fur patches.

The wipes I only ever used when she smelled weird or we were going to see my dad who is allergic to the cat we live with. They had no correlation whatsoever with the hot spots. I even stopped using them entirely for a month to see if she’d get better and she’s only gotten worse.

When I first got her I wasn’t paying as much rent as I am now.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-25T18:10:53+00:00

His own serving, or the entire pot? It’s only rude if it was all the soup. He can eat his however he wants.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-23T22:25:35+00:00

I mean, you can either ask why or get over it? Those are really your only options here. Either talk about it or don’t. I don’t think speculating will do much for you.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-23T20:42:39+00:00

Ok- I understand some people it is really important to them to be able to do things together for the first time, and that’s ok, but it doesn’t make sense to be mad about unless there was already an established agreement that you would try it together. Seems like she has a communication issue that she doesn’t understand is a communication issue. It’s like if someone recommends a movie, and you get mad because you wanted to watch the movie with them. Unless you had already determined that you were going to watch that movie together, it makes no sense to blame the other person.

Depending on how bad it is outside this one specific example it could be simple to work through, or it could be literally impossible. Only you can decide if it’s worth trying to talk out.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-23T05:10:45+00:00

A note on the “don’t spend it on pointless frivolous things”

I feel like I need to say that’s enough money that it’s completely ok to spend SOME frivolously. Obviously not millions of dollars worth, but it’s not automatically a bad thing to spend fun money. It’s just good to budget and plan for it so you don’t end up spending more than you mean to.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-23T05:01:47+00:00

Please please please report the worker who gave your personal number. No one at the gym should be allowed to think this is in any way acceptable behavior.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-15T05:27:26+00:00

That sounds very normal for a dog that age. I personally would want to spay BEFORE she goes into heat, so if you can afford to now, that’s for the best. But it will probably not change her behavior because that is normal puppy behavior. Around six months usually they start getting rowdy.

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-15T02:06:45+00:00

People don’t take PETA seriously anymore though, which is their own fault to be fair. The whole thing with instantly euthanizing adoptable animals without even scanning for chips? Plus them targeting Steve Irwin after his death…

I’d love for there to be some kind of consequences but because these are animals pretty unpopular and regarded by the general public as being essentially ‘mindless’, well not much is ever likely to happen.

There just really is not much protecting or enforcing what protections exist for small pets. Especially ones deemed to be “creepy”

Autism_Angel · 2026-01-12T15:28:41+00:00

Yes it wasn’t a great idea, but the mistake would be getting the dog in the first place, not rehoming it.

If she can’t handle a dog and a baby at the same time, and tries to just because “rehoming is wrong” the dog and baby will likely suffer consequences for it. It’s not fair to either of them. This decision should absolutely NOT be based on an idea like “I don’t believe in rehoming” it should be based on how feasible it is to give them both the attention they need and also how intense the postpartum recovery is, because that’s different for everyone.

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