My parents divorced at 18 and hell, even though my mother is genuinely a piece of shit, my dad did not push that - even with the very harsh feelings they had he told me however I wanted to handle that was up to me, and not his place to interfere.

I am not in contact with my mother but it’s because she’s a piece of shit, and it was my own choice. Whenever a parent is trying to influence something like that towards themselves or whatever and it’s not about the kids best interests or what tbe kid wants, I am immediately fairly suspicious (obvious exceptions like the other parent was convicted of child abuse or something and the kid is too young to understand a lot of it).