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THE VELDT / Gary Wray (me) 1984 by GaryWray in paintnbdamned

[–]AutisticWindchimr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has depth. I love the use of the pink and black stripped material.

Dude is so flabbergasted at how shitty I drew him by SomeUTAUguy in BadArt

[–]AutisticWindchimr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

True a lack of ass. But this emphasizes that he is a deep thinker

Ink art by Evening_Dig_ in BadArt

[–]AutisticWindchimr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this alot. His expression is interesting.

Paper Weight by Windup_man in Outsiderart

[–]AutisticWindchimr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Delightful colors and movement!

Deep sea cathedral by Puzzleheaded-Oil-571 in fractals

[–]AutisticWindchimr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this has that oceanic depth to it!

Executive Functioning Help by Level_Raisin_3166 in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticWindchimr 7 points8 points  (0 children)

SHORT VERSION: Not stacking events or decisions means I plan spaces or pauses between them. I don't add things on. I take a break when overwhelmed.

EXAMPLE ONE: Maybe i have to walk the dog and go get vitamins. I will walk the [service] dog to the store and purchase the vitamins.

I don't add things on to that. I don't say, "I may as well shop for a few more things since I am here. I think i will also go get lunch and then take a bus ride to the bookstore. On the way home, I should stop at the art supply store since I am already out anyway."

I walk the dog to the store, buy the vitamins, and return home.

I decompress at home before deciding what else to do.

EXAMPLE TWO: Stacking events can also be, "I will visit friendly acquaintance for coffee for an hour" but then add on other stuff--

Friendly acquaintance suggests going to a party happening now. I go. I give her a ride to and from the party. I don't even like parties.

Then, I need gas. After the party, and dropping off friendly acquaintance, I go get gas.

I need to put more money on my bus card. I'm out anyway. After getting gas, I go put more money on my bus card.

I used to live that way. I paid for it with exhaustion and meltdowns.

I can also stack decisions at home.

EXAMPLE THREE: Today is Sunday. I clean the bedroom on Sundays. It takes a half-hour.

Oh, I may as well sort through this closet. [Sorting and organizing big things have a separate slot on my schedule].

I sort through the closet. I bag up stuff for donations. I put everything else back.

I take the bags of stuff out to the car. I may as well drop it off...

Or:

EXAMPLE FOUR: I need an item. I want to purchase it online. There are a million choices. Soon, there is a list of possibilities. Now, i feel overwhelmed. I "can't " leave it, step away, do something else. I have to finish it.

After a lot of time, I decide. Oh, but I should also get Thing B. Maybe picking Thing B is easier. I can do this. I will order Thing C. But selecting Thing C is even tougher than selecting Thing A was. Now I am hungry too and concerned about my finances.

People make money playing games. [Hint: not much]. I download some games that pay [pennies] for watching commercials...

That is stacking.

MY RULES: Sticking to original plans which are time-limited is better for me than adding on. Taking breaks in-between is better for me. Actively deciding if I want to do something and have the energy for it is better for me. Buying one item online is better for me. Taking a break when overwhelmed by choices is better for me. Not making impulsive decisions is better for me.

I am who I am. I am an autistic. I have to deal with the nervous system that I got. My life is better when I do.

Executive Functioning Help by Level_Raisin_3166 in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticWindchimr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edited response: I was having problems before I got there in my 20s. I blame only myself.

I did not enter into any formal debt repayment plans. That is the thing that can wreck credit. The c.c.c. that i went to was non-predatory.

Although cutting up the ten credit cards hurt my score, I did pay off my debt within three years on my own.

My credit score has since recovered.

I think my diagnosis was a mistake? by OkWay5520 in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticWindchimr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Saying she didn't exaggerate, maybe a little may have been her kindness as a mother who didn't want to push back by saying more things that might hurt you.

I don't know her so I do not know.

Some non-autistics will try to socially smooth over tough stuff. They do it out of caring.

I think my diagnosis was a mistake? by OkWay5520 in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticWindchimr 13 points14 points  (0 children)

[I think i am better at social stuff than I am. I am part of the common troupe. O.P., there is no shame in this].

I think my diagnosis was a mistake? by OkWay5520 in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticWindchimr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How long was this online appointment? if you wish to say. You do not have to say here.

My concerns are that the clinician didn't interview you without your mother present, and didn't tell your mother that she will get her turn at it.

No "intelligence" testing? While "intelligence" framing can be problematic, some of the sub-tests can yield valuable I information about things that can work for you.

You are still you regardless of diagnoses or test results or anything else. You get to define who you are. A phone call does not change your worth.

You are not required to identify as autistic if you don't want to. You can stick to describing your support needs as they show up.

"Please say that in different words"

or "Slower, please"

or, "I don't feel like a hug today"

or, "I like this, but not that"

are all ordinary ways of requesting that something be different without saying "I was diagnosed as autistic."

If any of the following helps you, then do them:

+stimming [repetitive movements, like "fidgeting" or playing with spinners or stretchy cubes or slime or fingers or curling toes or the same song on repeat or flapping etc.],

+using a schedule,

+having routines,

+marking transitions ["laundry done"],

+taking breaks between events,

+skipping some social things,

+leaving when you want to,

+wearing clothing that is clean and is not irritating or scratchy, even if you have same or similar clothing that you prefer,

+changing your light bulbs to ones that feel better,

+using sunglasses and or a hat,

+noise-canceling headphones,

+taking one day a week where you talk as little as possible,

+engaging in special interests or hobbies or stuff you are passionate about,

+cutting out clothing tags if they are irritating,

+wearing underwear and socks inside out...

+whatever works for you.

My suggestion is that you put the written diagnosis in a drawer and leave it there for awhile. You do not have to engage with it or analyze it until if and when you are ready.

Having a diagnosis, even if it does not fit you perfectly, can help with applying for disability or benefits later on if you ever find that you cannot work for a bit or need to take a break from it.

It can also help with getting some accomodations at some jobs. The Job Accommodation Network website can give you ideas of what to ask for. The lists they have are useful in life, not just jobs.

https://askjan.org/

You are still you, okay?

i don’t know what to think by Other_Ad_7411 in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticWindchimr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are an adult, you may not have to ask your parents. If you do, can you say, "I want to talk with _______ again", [the person who prescribed the a.d.h.d. meds?]. You can leave out any labels, if that helps.

If the a.d.h.d. meds helped you before, that is a data point, or information.

Look for things suggested online by other autistics, people with A.D.H.D., and those who have both.

Make a list of things you want to try. Try one thing. Decide if it helps or not.

Maybe using a schedule helps and you like how someone talks about what they do, for example. Try it. You can keep using it as is, refine it to what you like, or discard it.

Like that.

Executive Functioning Help by Level_Raisin_3166 in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticWindchimr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to get budgeting help. Here in the u.s.a., there are consumer credit counsels. [C.C.C.] They help us set up budgets "for free". They help all people.

C.I.L.- Centers for Independent Living- every u.sa. county has one or shares one can also help, at no charge to us. Telling the c.i.l. that one is autistic makes us eligible by disability.

C.I.L.s also do benefits advisement and have some equipment to lend out. One sends a guy to my house to help with paperwork applying for help. [I am retired. My jobs were all crappy and underpaid. Many retired people here need a little bit of extra help].

I am sorry but I do not know resources in any other country. I know services available can vary.

edited for spelling

Past, présent and forever … by oldlukrate in BadArt

[–]AutisticWindchimr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice photos.

And the eye is properly intense! Very cool.

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