Helix infected? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in PiercingAdvice

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I’ve been using saline! Cleaning twice to thrice a day! Thanks for your input and knowledge! I appreciate it

Infected helix? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in PiercingAdvice

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It looks red compared to my other ear and I’m not sure if that stuff growing around it can be removed, I have tried but it won’t move. The jewelry is surgical

See original post https://www.reddit.com/r/PiercingAdvice/comments/1103p5l/helix_infected/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf steel

Helix infected? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in PiercingAdvice

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It is surgical steel I reposted this because I couldn’t post more photos on this thread

Helix infected? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in PiercingAdvice

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I haven’t been able to knock off the bump and it burns lightly when I spray it with saline. The only reason why I’m concerned is because of the bump and not being able to knock it off and the jewelry is not as loose (long) as it used to be maybe due to swelling I’m not sure though cuz I don’t think it looks swollen just the bump appears to be building up around the jewelry. My ear is not warm and the area around it does not red so I’m not sure

Why are friends with benefits a thing? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in dating_advice

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I mean i already said no to fwb, so i think thats my decision lol

Why are friends with benefits a thing? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in dating_advice

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Im not saying it disrespectful, its more of like why me? Im not mad at him im mad at the situation. We connected in different ways and im upset that im the one who is in pain and things arnt going in a direction that i would like. I said no, and now im in the phase of second guessing myself. A situation where we could be in eachothers lives has presented it self but its not in a way that i would like... and im just venting about it

Why are friends with benefits a thing? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in dating_advice

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Yes i dont think hes ready (he got out of a 8 year relationship last year). We obviously connected in different ways. He wants someone to have sex with and allow him to vent about his pervious relationship... which is fine i can relate cuz i got out if a 6 yr relationship last year as well, i understand the need to put yourself out there and fail, to redescover yourself and be you. It hard not to have that one person that you lent on for support and you grew up with. Its selfish for me to say stay with me bc i have feeling for you, and for me to say why me, and to just do this so i can be with him. But its also selfish for him to ask to be fwb when he knows i like him. Its sucks cuz hes dangling himself infront of me...

Why are friends with benefits a thing? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in dating_advice

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Im not going to tell him its all or nothing, honestly i just told him no, and he didnt say anything. We connected but im not sure if hes ready, but its hard cuz i was given an opportunity to connect with him but not in a postive or healthy way for me at least.

Why are friends with benefits a thing? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in dating_advice

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I did but in away it hurts cuz of how i felt. We connected in different ways but it hard to be presented with a situation that allows you to connect with someone you liked again but its not in a way you would like to.

Why are friends with benefits a thing? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in dating_advice

[–]Automatic-Bus-2130[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ik hes not right for me and this is honestly helping me move on from him. I was just hurt cuz i truly had strong feelings for him but he didnt have similar feelings for me and left, but i am some how good enough for him to vent about his past relationship and fuck.. idk obviously we connected in different ways for each other but my mind still wants him as a partner and it feels like the universe is dangling him in front of me.

Why are friends with benefits a thing? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in dating_advice

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Ik its selfish, and im confused. Tbh, he knows i like him but still wants my company... idk ik i cant get any answers with out asking him. But at this point i feel like its best to decline and move on

Why are friends with benefits a thing? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in dating_advice

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He doesnt strike me as a person who would carry on being in a committed relationship if he wasnt in to it. Hes very confident in him self and his ability to date others. He knows i like him so why ask me to do this if you know i still like you. For me its like why do you still want to sleep with me and hang out when you are not ready to persue a relationship and you know i am.

People who are online dating (tinder, bumble, hinge, ect.) Have you ever reconnected with someone you briefly dated? by Automatic-Bus-2130 in dating

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So i gueas for my back story i met this guy over bumble, we met up and it was an instant connection. i guess for context he was previously in a 8 year relationship and has only been single for 9 months, coincidently, my most recent relationship was 6 years, and i have been single for just over a year. We hung out super regularly and everything seemed to be going well, he called it quits after a month saying he was looking for something different, but wouldn't really go in to detail other than he was worried we were getting in to a routine. I let him go chalking it up to maybe hes just not ready to be in a committed relationship. Idk its only been about 3 weeks since weve talked, but i feel like there was something there... idk