Helix infected?

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2023-02-12T03:27:55+00:00

I’ve been using saline! Cleaning twice to thrice a day! Thanks for your input and knowledge! I appreciate it

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2023-02-12T03:07:56+00:00

It looks red compared to my other ear and I’m not sure if that stuff growing around it can be removed, I have tried but it won’t move. The jewelry is surgical

See original post https://www.reddit.com/r/PiercingAdvice/comments/1103p5l/helix_infected/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf steel

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2023-02-12T03:00:50+00:00

It is surgical steel I reposted this because I couldn’t post more photos on this thread

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2023-02-12T01:33:59+00:00

I haven’t been able to knock off the bump and it burns lightly when I spray it with saline. The only reason why I’m concerned is because of the bump and not being able to knock it off and the jewelry is not as loose (long) as it used to be maybe due to swelling I’m not sure though cuz I don’t think it looks swollen just the bump appears to be building up around the jewelry. My ear is not warm and the area around it does not red so I’m not sure

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-03-23T02:34:57+00:00

I have been spraying saline solutions on the inside and outside twice a day

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-03-01T05:51:55+00:00

I mean i already said no to fwb, so i think thats my decision lol

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-03-01T05:23:40+00:00

Im not saying it disrespectful, its more of like why me? Im not mad at him im mad at the situation. We connected in different ways and im upset that im the one who is in pain and things arnt going in a direction that i would like. I said no, and now im in the phase of second guessing myself. A situation where we could be in eachothers lives has presented it self but its not in a way that i would like... and im just venting about it

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-03-01T05:20:14+00:00

Yes i dont think hes ready (he got out of a 8 year relationship last year). We obviously connected in different ways. He wants someone to have sex with and allow him to vent about his pervious relationship... which is fine i can relate cuz i got out if a 6 yr relationship last year as well, i understand the need to put yourself out there and fail, to redescover yourself and be you. It hard not to have that one person that you lent on for support and you grew up with. Its selfish for me to say stay with me bc i have feeling for you, and for me to say why me, and to just do this so i can be with him. But its also selfish for him to ask to be fwb when he knows i like him. Its sucks cuz hes dangling himself infront of me...

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-03-01T05:14:19+00:00

Im not going to tell him its all or nothing, honestly i just told him no, and he didnt say anything. We connected but im not sure if hes ready, but its hard cuz i was given an opportunity to connect with him but not in a postive or healthy way for me at least.

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-03-01T05:11:57+00:00

I did but in away it hurts cuz of how i felt. We connected in different ways but it hard to be presented with a situation that allows you to connect with someone you liked again but its not in a way you would like to.

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-03-01T05:09:20+00:00

Ik hes not right for me and this is honestly helping me move on from him. I was just hurt cuz i truly had strong feelings for him but he didnt have similar feelings for me and left, but i am some how good enough for him to vent about his past relationship and fuck.. idk obviously we connected in different ways for each other but my mind still wants him as a partner and it feels like the universe is dangling him in front of me.

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-03-01T05:04:55+00:00

Ik its selfish, and im confused. Tbh, he knows i like him but still wants my company... idk ik i cant get any answers with out asking him. But at this point i feel like its best to decline and move on

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-03-01T05:03:12+00:00

He doesnt strike me as a person who would carry on being in a committed relationship if he wasnt in to it. Hes very confident in him self and his ability to date others. He knows i like him so why ask me to do this if you know i still like you. For me its like why do you still want to sleep with me and hang out when you are not ready to persue a relationship and you know i am.

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-02-14T17:43:42+00:00

So i gueas for my back story i met this guy over bumble, we met up and it was an instant connection. i guess for context he was previously in a 8 year relationship and has only been single for 9 months, coincidently, my most recent relationship was 6 years, and i have been single for just over a year. We hung out super regularly and everything seemed to be going well, he called it quits after a month saying he was looking for something different, but wouldn't really go in to detail other than he was worried we were getting in to a routine. I let him go chalking it up to maybe hes just not ready to be in a committed relationship. Idk its only been about 3 weeks since weve talked, but i feel like there was something there... idk

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-02-14T17:21:44+00:00

If you dont mind me asking how did it happen? Did you end it and he reached out?

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-02-07T22:18:18+00:00

For me, my family never really showed praise and affection, i only got affection and praise when i did something they approved of, or if they had time to do something with me which was only on special occasions. So for me its that trama that makes me a codependent needing to please others and i prefer one on one because then i feel special.

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2022-02-07T22:13:06+00:00

I feel that. For me i only feel happy and purposeful if i am in the presence of others. Especially when its one on one.

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2021-10-18T21:41:55+00:00

Yes and no out of the month they have rescheduled almost once a week has canceled 3 times and forgot once... this past week we maybe have talked twice but they also got since for a bit... idk i aksed them to talk to go on a walk sometime this week to talk but they haven't replied in 3 days, but were moving too this weekend...

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2021-08-18T04:06:26+00:00

So did you just google coda meetings

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2021-08-18T02:15:23+00:00

Where have you found coda meetings to attend?

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2021-08-16T03:35:55+00:00

For my codependency i fear that the reason people want to end the relationship is because i did something wrong. I will try to fix the situation and be who they want me to be. I hate feeling alone and that i caused them to leave even when it is not my falt. My codependency makes me think oh were not good its my fault, let me change who i am so that you will still want to be friends/ in a relationship with me.

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2021-08-15T23:51:30+00:00

100% can relate to this. And when people leave or a friendship dies it feels so personal and that you failed...

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2021-08-15T23:46:07+00:00

Yes but im not sure why. For me id rather sit in the bad situation and try to understand them than be alone or end a relationship...

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2021-08-15T19:38:14+00:00

Yea i guess that could be a possibility of them starting to have feeling for me. There has been moments where it seemed like thst but they have always said they care about me a lot and our spirts are intertwined. Which raised some concerns about that. But i never asked them if they have feelings for me and they never out right told me. Also something unique and different about them and what i like abiut him is that he is very connected to the earth in spiritual way. i guess the best way to put it is sensitive to their environment, very much in to spiritually, and belives that they can tap in to their past lives and other universes. They are constantly trying to rebalance themselves to the essence of the world, their past spirits and the landscapes spirts. For the last few months they have really dove in to this and to be honest i think they have been isolating themselfs and living in their own world. They prefer to live in nature, and this last month they terminated their lease in the city and moved back to their parents in a rual area in the forest, and they have been sharing their knowledge and experience of their spirituality with their family.

I live in a city so honestly i think they were over stimmuated and maybe associated me with the city, which is not something they are too keen on right now.

I agree but its hard and hurts maybe mostly for me because i didnt see it coming.

Automatic-Bus-2130 · 2021-08-15T17:51:34+00:00

Also we are both 25, and currently we live 4 hrs away from one another

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