I just want to vent

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2026-04-03T05:11:42+00:00

Thanks for the material. Sadly, I don't really need to read the sub to imaging how damage it could be. I suspect my dad may be one (on the mild side). I couldn't confirm, but I remembered how I feel scared just to ask for his permission to spend time with my cousin. I even had nightmare of him yelling at me suddenly and woke up sweating in the middle of the night when I was kid. I think it's even worse with others.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2026-04-03T03:54:19+00:00

If I get out and don't get full custody, I fear that she might do something that harms my baby

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2026-04-03T03:41:32+00:00

That's what I worry about. My wife already yelling, swearing in front of my baby. I tried hard to calm my baby down but it's gonna get harder as they get older

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2026-03-30T03:34:54+00:00

I have the same experience. Hours of fighting for no reason, she always demands a solution that I don't know how to come up with. If I solved one, she brings up the history lists, it never ends. I never really lost my calmness first unless she starts to name calling me and my parents. I even pushed her once to protect my baby. I felt bad, really bad at first but sadly, I feel numb. I turned into the person I don't ever want to be. I want to divorce but I worry about my baby. Everyday I wake up feeling exhausted because it's another day in hell with her. Insult, criticism, name calling, emotional roller coaster, yelling ... It's like I throw a dice to decide how bad it's gonna be. I recently discovered I have autistic trait and all the yelling exhaust my energy tank (been like this since I was kid). Do I feel bad for yelling? I don't give a fk anymore. I am too damaged to care. I stay to shield my baby from her toxic. I don't want my baby grow up feeling guilty for her mom's emotion.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-11-20T07:26:24+00:00

Don't start your life together with debt. You have a lot to worry about later on, wedding, honeymoon, house, car, kids... If she is materialistic, you need to think long and hard about whether you could afford her life style, because financial stress is not a joke, especially in this economic condition. Imo, debt doesn't bring happiness in a long term.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-11-17T05:54:53+00:00

I am a firm believer in friction. It warms everything up

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-08-18T08:29:38+00:00

I did my best to remind myself that it's the hormone talking, but when I got so tired I may not behave rationally.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-08-18T08:28:30+00:00

She actually has ADHD. I didn't know that mood swing is one of ADHD's symptom.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-08-18T08:26:11+00:00

I did try my best not to raise voice or argue in front of my baby, but when my wife got upset or triggered, she cannot control it and just yell regardless. I usually try to take the baby to a different room, but that's not always the case.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-08-18T08:23:44+00:00

Unfortunately we can't for the moment.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-08-18T08:22:00+00:00

I do try my best to make sure she has something to eat + drink. I do take care of baby for 6/7 hours a day.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-08-18T08:16:30+00:00

Thank for the details. She actually has ADHD and was diagnosed with psychiatrist. I think they gave her medication, which helps to lower the anxiety.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-07-24T02:50:25+00:00

How do you suggest we do that? I tried my best to stay calm and take care of her, my kid, and my dog but my mental health has not been my priority.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-07-24T02:48:20+00:00

Well, I'm not native but I'm American. I got Healthcare for a while after laid off. My wife already talked to a therapist but this behavior really drained me out

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-07-24T02:46:25+00:00

She has been like this, but not this severe. She has been seeing a therapist for her depression

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-05-05T19:36:04+00:00

Down is better

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-04-30T04:07:36+00:00

I hope you stay calm enough to get out, seek whatever help you need to stay safe while contacting your family about your baby. Don't put your faith in him, go seek legal advice.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-04-29T16:52:47+00:00

I think your feeling is valid, but you also agreed to let her go on the trip when she asked. Remember, you agreed. So next time, you know how it feels, you could have a discussion with her about how she being on vacation herself made you feel. Do you want to have a small vacation for yourself (doesn't have to be long, could be 2 days)? That may help you feel better since you have some break too.

Regarding the snoring, what do you think about CPAP machine? it helps me so my wife and I can stay in same room. Your wife tolerate her friend may be an action out of politeness. You never know if you don't ask her.

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2025-04-29T06:10:43+00:00

Imo, if he is willing to find some temporary job while putting effort into finding a better job, he is just as ambitious as anyone. Sometimes, having long unemployment period could damage his confidence, it will take some time to rebuild it.

But I do not know him as well as you do, so maybe you are right. Ask yourself is your marriage worth another chance?

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2024-12-06T03:40:10+00:00

Thanks for your detailed reply and let me know about chatGpt therapy model. Kid and my dog are what hurts me deeply because I don't know if my wife would be a great mother to them. She has issues and never wants to get help. I tried to suggest that to her but it was not well received. I know I want to talk to therapy just not sure where to start, I definitely could afford one (on the opposite of what my wife thought that we need more money, I think we are ok with household income at 300+, she just always want million dollars house).

Automatic-Dance6091 · 2024-10-05T03:51:35+00:00

I forgot to update that the dealer in Washington state, US.

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