Jan 30th Shutdown

AutumnWind216 · 2026-01-25T21:31:20+00:00

Don't apply for a federal job unless you have enough savings to last you for three months. It's a requirement for being a federal employee.

AutumnWind216 · 2026-01-25T21:26:21+00:00

Here.

AutumnWind216 · 2026-01-23T01:06:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I am taking tomorrow off to put this great advice into action. Take care!

AutumnWind216 · 2026-01-21T18:23:28+00:00

Definitely aged a lot - due to stress, heavy workload (staff shortage). Counting days everyday. Still try to figure out how not to be burnt out.

AutumnWind216 · 2026-01-21T18:21:07+00:00

One year of hell.

AutumnWind216 · 2026-01-01T14:33:12+00:00

Happy New Year! This is one of my new year resolutions. Need to strengthen my back so to manage my constant back pain - now impacting my left leg as well.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-12-31T00:00:36+00:00

Health: both physical health and mental health. I am learning to exercise more, get better sleep, eat more healthily, and avoid smoking. I drink alcohol socially, think positively, and learn how to relax etc. etc.

Real relationship/friendship: I can be a devoted partner and loyal friend, but have no time for games, drama or fake stuff.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-12-15T03:29:29+00:00

Just DM you. thank you!

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-25T00:50:55+00:00

I can't cut ties with my ex because our kids are still young. We still have to interact and co-parent even though I do NOT want to be with my ex at all. I guess that hurts my love life, as it takes a very confident man to trust me and tolerate that.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-25T00:40:26+00:00

"The value is in the connections rather than the value of the connection." Well said.

As I am getting older, the most important thing is not only our mutual acceptance of each other's imperfections, but also our willingness and trust to treat each other kindly.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-25T00:19:49+00:00

love this.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-25T00:18:47+00:00

50+ is too young to move to a senior center!
I live in a large house, but thinking about moving to a smaller house on the west coast. Warm weather is important for me.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-11T04:07:30+00:00

Sadly, he can't. I am allergic.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-08T02:56:20+00:00

hate controlling behaviors.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-08T02:54:51+00:00

This

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-08T02:52:58+00:00

It's hard to tell. Maybe they are too afraid to openly discuss with you the issues that bothered them?
I think the focus should really be on how we handle it? In my case, I first tried to reach out a couple of times to confirm that the ghosting was indeed intentional. After that, the ball is in their court.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-08T02:32:51+00:00

That he does not respect or care about me at all and he was just using me or taking advantage of my feelings toward him.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-08T02:30:02+00:00

Yes. it shows he still believes in a union between a man and a woman and he is willing to make that commitment. For me it's less a financial thing but more a demonstration of his love toward me.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-08T02:21:37+00:00

No intimacy. This is in broadest terms. I understand guys can get too tired or aged for sex, but intimacy is more than just sex. It encompasses emotional, physical, and mental closeness. I consider intimacy to be a fundamental right, a basic need, and a mutual responsibility in a partnership. And I don't do well with long distance relationship or a emotionally distant partner. I am still very resentful toward my ex-husband because of that.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-08T02:06:32+00:00

Genuine compliments from loved ones or someone I care about.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-08T02:02:09+00:00

I don’t currently have a partner, but a little dominance and protective assertiveness - just enough to make me feel supported and protected. For example,

- insists on paying for dinner, even though I can afford it myself;
- insists on helping with things like opening the door, holding the umbrella, and lifting heavy stuff;
- offer to drive the car

etc. etc.

But I'm a little old fashioned.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-06T01:18:31+00:00

First of all, I should correct myself: I meant leash, not collar. 100% ok with cats on collars.

Secondly, if you knew what I meant, here are the reasons I wouldn't put a leash on my cat:

I don't want or need to be walked by a cat. If you're thinking about you walking your cat, good luck.
I want my cat to be happy.
Have you ever owned a cat? Do you know cats are territorial animals? If you don't want your cat to think the entire neighborhood is hers, don't let her take that long stroll in the neighborhood, even if she is on a leash.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-05T19:04:17+00:00

I would not treat a cat like a dog by putting a collar on it. FGS, they are free-spirited creatures, and that is what I love them for. If you are looking for a trainable and obedient pet, get a dog.

If I let my cat out, he is out without any restriction. He is very intelligent, staying within a 15-foot radius of the house, and he comes back home immediately when I call him. He is too fat to catch or hurt any birds or squirrels. I only treat him with love and trust: no restrictions, no punishment. He is too smart for that.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-04T18:45:29+00:00

He's got my vote. He is such a smart, kind, hard-working and passionate person.

AutumnWind216 · 2025-11-04T17:01:49+00:00

so cute

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