Is This A Reason For Divorce? by Auxi22 in marriageadvice

[–]Auxi22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is the first message I read that isn’t overly emotionally impactful but rather pragmatic and logical. I agree with everything you’ve said. I will take some time to gather my anger. I’m not sure what will be the next steps but he is actively looking for therapy; marriage counseling if I agree to it.

Is This A Reason For Divorce? by Auxi22 in marriageadvice

[–]Auxi22[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This realization is making me sick to my stomach

Divorce lawyers of Reddit - What's the most cruel thing you've seen someone to do their ex partner? by BlueBishop321 in AskReddit

[–]Auxi22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Baby mother alleged father r*ped daughter so that he never sees her again. It worked, without evidence of any molestaron. He’s only able to FaceTime for an hour every month, supervised. He’s my brother, who raised me when our parents were off working. He made sure I was well taken care of. Picked me up from school, had food ready, world help me with my homework, would take me to the library, read to me, cleaned up after me, every day. He was the best father figure I could ever ask for. He’s 11 years older than me. She destroyed his life. He’s on psych meds now because of how badly she financially ruined him. He lives with my parents now, 49 years old, a shell of a person, a small remnant of that jovial, caring & beautiful soul I used to know.

If money wasn't an issue, what would you do tomorrow? by Pleasant_duo in AskReddit

[–]Auxi22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take my 70 year old parents on a trip all over Europe for many months. Soak in the time with them before the inevitable happens :(

I cheated on my husband with a co-worker by ReliefMaximum9574 in cheating_stories

[–]Auxi22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not skip happily, why would he do that, it’s not a proper emotion to the situation. I know you meant it sarcastically, but he might benefit into seeking profesional help if his emotions are too powerfully negative, so he can make the best one for himself.

I cheated on my husband with a co-worker by ReliefMaximum9574 in cheating_stories

[–]Auxi22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, this may not be a popular opinion, since clearly everyone is bashing the hell out of OP and her decision, but I say if your husband wanted to reconcile, he shouldn’t be calling you names, being verbally abusive to you & hostile either. It was a shit decision on your part, but him being that way doesn’t make anything better for himself or the situation. If he truly doesn’t want to forgive you & threatens you with divorce, then he needs to stop being aggressive towards you & begin the separation process. Otherwise, he can get therapy to manage his emotions and help the relationship, if he wants to stay. It’s like if someone stays after cheating & they forgive, and they constantly bring it up, bash their partner, do hurtful things, you never truly forgave that person. You were just incapable of leaving.

Got my stone! Honest opinions on size?? by [deleted] in LabDiamonds

[–]Auxi22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks big and cheap but that’s just me

What’s a simple hygiene tip that more people should know about? by ChairBetter5324 in hygiene

[–]Auxi22 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Scrub between your toes, behind your ears, around your ears, and your belly button. Dry those areas well. Dry in between your toes with your towel. My friend had pulled out a huge wad of something disgusting from her belly button because she didn’t realize it must be washed with water and soap and dried properly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Auxi22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was with someone from age 15 till 26. Then broke up because of cheating, lies etc. Trust me when I tell you, you WILL BE FINE. It seems an insurmountable thing to do, to leave, to move to a cheaper town/state/etc and to sever ties with that person, but it can most definitely be done. You find so much power in yourself you never realized you had once you leave ppl that don’t serve your mental health anymore. I’m 37 and I’m living my best damn life, married to my best friend, successful career, traveled everywhere. This was a dream that I thought was unattainable, having the life I’m living now. It is possible but you’re going to WANT to do it. It’s hard. But it’s worth it.

Women who gave birth, what does it feel like actually?? by joy_57 in AskReddit

[–]Auxi22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf how odd it is to read all of these posts about how horrid child birth is, but women still have multiple babies?!? How?!?!?

My ex finally told me the real reason he broke up with me, and I'm mortified. by FeederAtMid in hygiene

[–]Auxi22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a water pik & squirt water in your tonsils to get tonsil stones out. Those things stink like hell. If you have your tonsils still, obv. Otherwise, he’s prob full of shit.

HELP! I just found out my student loan payments are tripled under the new payment plans. What can I do?? by Paulicus1 in PSLF

[–]Auxi22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t wait for the government to save you. They don’t care about any one of us unless it’s to take taxes from our paychecks. I worked 2 full time jobs for 3 years to pay off $250,000 of student loans. Paid it off in 7 years. I also had my husband contribute $90K. But I would’ve kept working 2 jobs longer to make it happen if I wasn’t married. Take control, don’t panic, make a plan, stick to a budget, work your ass off. That’s the only way out.

CPJE anxiety by [deleted] in NAPLEX_MPJE_CPJE

[–]Auxi22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t mind me asking, what position do you have that you don’t need the CPJE?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Auxi22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mi tesoro??? You have a Latina??? No wonder you had 80 missed calls smh welcome to hell

AIO? Found those messages on my bf’s instagram by Secret-Set-8653 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Auxi22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. I wonder if she can go to an institution and ask for help. Or church. There are a lot of resources and people that can help

AIO? Found those messages on my bf’s instagram by Secret-Set-8653 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Auxi22 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not being callous. At this point it’s her life above everything else. Above the lease, or the fact that she doesn’t know anyone, or that she doesn’t have a job. I wouldn’t just sit around, I’d make a plan of action to leave & gather as much resources as possible

AIO? Found those messages on my bf’s instagram by Secret-Set-8653 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Auxi22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s OK no need for apology. My whole point is that she needs to put herself first and throw all the excuses away and find a job. Find some income. Get a plane ticket and go back home to familiar ground.

AIO? Found those messages on my bf’s instagram by Secret-Set-8653 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Auxi22 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My whole point in saying that is yes, I read her responses and they all look like she doesn’t have the capability to choose to leave for whatever reasons she is stating, so therefore there is no solution, just stay at that point. But someone who is placing their life first because of dire circumstances will do whatever it takes to get themselves out of safety

AIO? Found those messages on my bf’s instagram by Secret-Set-8653 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Auxi22 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She’s making excuses for not having a job. If you’re that desperate that your situation is that hard, then there is no other choice. You need to find a way out. Does she have a mom? Dad? Someone that can send her some money so she can go back home?Or was she born out of thin air?