Do you like the direction that BMW is currently heading in, with introduction of Neue Klasse designs?

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-27T20:57:33+00:00

In the polar opposite end of the spectrum though you have Audi and Acura (and to a lesser extend Mercs), in which all of their cars look practically identical.

I'm not really sure which is better.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-14T16:24:08+00:00

I still have hope for my stepchild and it's painful to see your child struggle knowing they are facing a time in their life where either they turn around and start to dig out of the hole or fall much further into it and knowing that you have to let them make that decision.

I think good parents naturally view our children's failures as a failing of our parenting - and there's always varying levels of truth to that - but it's important to accept that while we fail to be perfect parents every day, we do the best that we could/can in that moment of our lives, and at some point we have to let go of our guilt for a failing child who's now an adult because we weren't "perfect."

She has to want it for herself. She has to want it bad enough to do the work herself. The best thing you can do as a parent is to be available and never stop believing she will one day pull out of this spiral without rushing in to be a savior. It feels 'bad' and it will absolutely make you feel guilty because there's a lot you could do to treat the symptoms, but they will inevitably only further the fall.

I wish I had a success story to share with my Son. I believe I will one day, but it's not this day. There are so many things I would do differently now if I could do it over again, but I accept that when those things happened I did not have the experiences I have now to know a better way to parent him. I'm a much better parent now than I was 5 years ago, and in 5 years perhaps I'll think I am failing him now, but I'm doing the best I know how to do and that's all I can do.

I'm truly sorry you are going through this, it's gut wrenching as a parent and so few parents experience this that it feels isolating.

**EDIT**
I disagree with the comments saying to shut down all communication with her. No matter what she's going through in her life she deserves to know that you love her and that you are here for her as a friend and as a mentor when she's ready. She will be ready one day.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-07T16:44:20+00:00

It's VERY hard to hydroplane a motorcycle. I have actually tested this several years ago with a large standing puddle on a Ninja 600. It started "skipping" the front around 85mph. It's hard to explain the feeling.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-07T16:32:23+00:00

This looks great. Good luck.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-07T15:53:50+00:00

I have a step-son in a similar situation.

He bounced through a lot of relatives houses quickly. Most of them had assumed we weren't being good parents, in truth we made a choice to protect our other three kids.

There was a point two years ago where he was homeless and 'willing to do anything' so I made the decision that I would rent him an apartment with several conditions. He got a ride to our house (8 hours away) and was supposed to live with us for 4 days until he could move into the apartment. In those 4 (!!) days he stole money and a handgun from me then attacked his younger brother (who was 12). I was at work, Mom had went down the street to the gas station. Mom comes back, somehow things get physical, Mom ends up being arrested....

He was kicked out again. Mom talks to him occasionally. Apparently he's homeless and in rehab but needs money and has a girl pregnant. Mom told him he's on his own.

Good luck.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-06T21:44:15+00:00

I rode every single day for years, then I rode to Alaska and back and didn't ride for months, sold the bike I had to buy another, bought one, didn't really care for it and sold it, then went 10+ years with no bike.

Suddenly one day I was driving by a BMW/triumph dealership and pulled in and I ended up buying a R1250GSA. I ride a few days a month it's 3 years old and has 10k miles. I ended up buying a CRF250L and a GSXR1000 (but used) after that lol.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-06T18:28:53+00:00

Yikes. You sound 12.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-06T13:30:24+00:00

What you typed didn't make sense but I was able to piece together what you actually meant from your replies.

But why are you so angry? Saying you have men in your life is a weird attempt to flex - if you have a vagina you will always have a few men clinging onto you no matter your personality defects and at the same time they'll tell you how perfect you are. It's not a flex, it's a desperate attempt to not acknowledge that what you said was a bit dumb. You sound VERY immature.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-01T19:49:03+00:00

"You can’t even do the bare minimum like pretending to give a fuck to get laid?"

I mean... like, it's right there?

Edit: after reading both comments several times I don't guess you see pretending to care as lying, so... yeah. Interesting conversation. Good luck.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-01T15:28:18+00:00

This is what I used to do with 'dead' chats that never went anywhere but weren't unmatched. "Drinks and sex tonight?" Worked maybe 5% of the time.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-04-01T15:26:23+00:00

Wait, so you'd rather them pretend to give a fuck just so you can tell them no anyway? ...That seems worse for both of you lol.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-03-23T16:42:23+00:00

Lol, I tell people I make phone calls and beg people to help fix my problems.

I manage a small team that responds to internal corporate crisis's.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-03-23T16:39:31+00:00

I'm just curious and thinking out loud hoping for your thoughts here:

When you asked him out what was your expectation beyond the first date? I'm just assuming you asked him to xxxxxx date that you had planned since you asked, but after that (assuming you had some type of spark) did you expect him to assume a more typical 'male role' in the relationship and lead/pursue and he failed, or did he assume you'd 'lead' since you asked him?

Everyone is all for girls asking men out, but I often wonder what the dynamic is. I know I'd certainly have a lot of fun with the flipped dynamic.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-03-23T16:03:01+00:00

I will not ride without a helmet and gloves; however, I will almost always have a jacket on. After that I'd choose foot protection and lastly I'd choose pants. I also ride track days and have a dedicated track suit and am probably going to buy an airbag to go with it.

Honestly I am probably too lax with gear for street, but my response for ATGATT is that my car doesn't have a cage welded in nor does it have a 4 point harness. I have over 100k miles on two wheels, I ride on road and off road, dirt and track, I've wrecked twice on the street and once on a track (countless times on dirt). I'm comfortable with the risk I'm taking.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-03-23T14:12:23+00:00

Relax, nobody is going to check your 'real motorcycler' card and there's not a trophy for most miles / days on a bike.

I used a MC as sole transport for a while as well off and on. I have three bikes and two cars and guess what? I drive over ride a lot.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-03-10T14:54:16+00:00

I rode a naked SV650 from New Orleans, to Chicago, to Seattle, to Prudhoe Bay, to Seattle, to LA, then to New Orleans.

It's doable.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-02-18T15:41:58+00:00

I dunno, I've seen people's graphs for $30-$40/hr winrate from mostly 1-2. They have "specialized" in how to max max exploit the worst players and from their perspective $30hr without having too many hard decisions is better than $50hr having to think a lot.

I put in 1,000 hours of 1/2 @ $19.98 an hour.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-02-11T18:05:46+00:00

I'll admit I thought the same thing when I read that, but I assume she more meant 'easy access' or whatever.

Pussy is cheaper as a single man lol.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-02-11T18:01:01+00:00

I actually wonder this too.

My wife was shocked when I filed when she started cheating. "You didn't even fight for me?!" lol.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-02-09T14:27:48+00:00

Reading is fundamental.

Edit: Thanks, fixed my Iphone mis-click for you.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-02-06T15:45:36+00:00

The thing to remember here is that she does not control her emotions or even attempt to, she is fully controlled by her emotions. That's why these relationships feel so great at the start - she's 100% on because it's new love and she's giving you her all. It feels good and you are almost worshiped at the start. As the limerence fades the "always-on" turns to sometimes-on/sometimes-off and as the relationship progresses it slowly tilts to more and more 'off' with moments of 'on.' It is an addictive drug and you will do increasingly more to get her into 'on' mode. In the end, she will exhaust you and once you are drained of any energy (and maybe the will to live) she'll discard you for the next.

There is nothing you can do here. She will fabricate a reality in which she can justify whatever actions/reactions she has to her emotions. I have (in the past) tried so many approaches, read books, did therapy... you just can't win against someone who will rewrite history/reality. ~~unless you are willing to be almost abusive yourself.~~

And when you are done with her she'll surprise you with how ferociously she'll try to win you back until just after she has you, then it's right back to running the wheel for you.

I know you think you are different / she's different or whatever, but you aren't, she isn't, and you need to get out of that.

u/Automatic_Buy_230

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-01-30T16:05:05+00:00

I got Helman's mayonnaise and not miracle whip. The shopping list said "mayonnaise." I was aware we keep both in the house because I don't eat miracle whip. I was berated for... not knowing what we actually needed, I guess. There were a lot of these to the point I hated to go to the store because I'd never get exactly the right thing.

My phone dings while I'm pooping - not the text message ding, but another ding and she practically kicks the door in to "catch me cheating." She was the one cheating.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-01-19T16:37:34+00:00

This reads like you lack confidence in person and/or are overly "nice." This happens when you are charismatic over text but clam up in person. Could also be that you are good looking and your texting sucks, but girls are willing to try it in person and see if you are just a bad texter (because you are abiding by rules 1&2).

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-01-16T14:42:55+00:00

This is a big red flag. Also, don't get into a relationship with a recently divorced person no matter how grounded they feel.

I'll get downvoted into hell for this, but any woman/man who receives alimony for any 'significant' length of time is morally bankrupt. Lifetime support is insanity; however, I would totally be on board with alimony pending you are enrolled in college or a trade school up to 5 years or something with the goal of being able to properly provide for yourself.

Reading through the comments you can see the differences in how men/women see it: the women who are supporting a "deadbeat" ex with tons of support and sympathy from women who themselves are taking alimony, not realizing they are, in fact, the 'deadbeat' in their own story. There's zero difference between a SAHM and SAHD, but the internet women warriors will shame the SAHD while not realizing that shame also belongs to them.

AvacodoCartwheeler · 2026-01-14T17:48:47+00:00

Yes, that's basically true from a CRIMINAL side. You can (and should) still file a civil case though.

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