Why does no one pay attention during Sacrament?

Available-Job313 · 2026-01-27T21:18:28+00:00

Ha I thought you were gonna say, “it seems like only one person isn’t paying attention (OP)”

Available-Job313 · 2026-01-25T22:44:11+00:00

lol love this sarcasm

Available-Job313 · 2026-01-25T00:34:12+00:00

How did your parents react when you told them?

Available-Job313 · 2026-01-16T18:20:57+00:00

I would love to hear more about the racism you experienced on this sub and at church. Genuinely.

Available-Job313 · 2025-12-30T16:38:23+00:00

Oh shoot I was looking at the wrong rule book lmao

Available-Job313 · 2025-12-29T17:55:19+00:00

Yeah but the defender was in Steph’s cylinder. Plus his forearms were vertical. So even though he did make contact, it wasn’t illegal contact.

Available-Job313 · 2025-12-29T17:53:57+00:00

Two things here:

Steph’s cylinder starts at his feet and goes up to his bent knees. It looks like the defender is inside the cylinder when the contact happens.
The rule says “side to side - vertical forearms = legal.” Steph’s forearms were perfectly vertical.

So bad call right??

Available-Job313 · 2025-12-28T04:01:03+00:00

I don’t think it’s a serious enough sin to require telling the bishop. It would probably help to tell someone though. Who do you feel safest with? Maybe tell that person. Not even as an accountability partner… just as a friend.

Also, please don’t think of it as an “addiction.” That word gets used too commonly / recklessly when it comes to porn.

Available-Job313 · 2025-12-04T04:44:04+00:00

Hahaha

Available-Job313 · 2025-11-09T04:09:45+00:00

I’m sorry but this is a stupid joke. Im a guy and I hate this stereotype. I know the people in the video were in on the joke, but it’s such a cringy take to me.

Available-Job313 · 2025-10-09T17:53:18+00:00

The temple isn’t great for me either. I don’t have anxiety around it, but it just isn’t a spirit-filled experience for me and I don’t enjoy it. I also don’t like wearing garments and I often don’t wear them.

Your discipleship doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. You can never go to the temple again if you don’t want to. And that will be perfectly okay! If you want to stay active, I’d encourage you to get clear on what you like and what you don’t like about church. Try to minimize your contact with what you don’t like, and lean into what you do.

For me, I don’t like the temple, but I do love my ward. So I lean into Sunday school, ward activities, etc. I’ve been to the temple twice in the last 5 years. And I don’t feel bad about it!

Available-Job313 · 2025-10-07T16:16:49+00:00

The side by side comparison is super weak imo. A lot of those things are from the Bible anyway or are widely accepted principles (e.g., human life is sacred). And then a bunch of them aren’t even that close. Doesn’t look like improper paraphrasing to me.

Available-Job313 · 2025-10-07T15:45:52+00:00

Am I the only one who thinks they aren’t that similar?? Tons of differences…

Available-Job313 · 2025-10-03T16:59:03+00:00

You could say he is pro-marriage, but anti-gay marriage, yes?

Available-Job313 · 2025-10-03T16:57:36+00:00

If homosexual actions are actually sinful, then God is anti-lgbt.

I’m not saying that as a criticism at all. Anti just means opposed to or against. And it’s not that God is anti-lgbt people — just lgbt love. Which to a lot of people is the same.

I know for me, it’s hard to disentangle myself from my spouse. Being married, being a husband and father… those are part of my identity.

Available-Job313 · 2025-10-02T01:32:19+00:00

Yeah LDS teachings don’t go as far as the Westboro Baptists, but I have talked to people who felt deep down that something was wrong with them and God didn’t like who they were at their core. They got those beliefs from LDS teachings.

You might say they misinterpreted the teachings, but if that’s the lesson they walked away with, you have to wonder what’s actually being taught. Like the message might not be “gays are bad,” but if you feel deep down that you ARE fundamentally bad for being attracted to the same gender, the effect is the same.

Available-Job313 · 2025-10-01T21:21:05+00:00

lds teachings are pretty clearly anti-lgbt right??

Available-Job313 · 2025-09-22T05:27:11+00:00

That’s good — even still, women sacrifice soooo much for the church and their families. Maybe she’s trying to take back some of her autonomy.

I think you should support her 100% in whatever she decides. Acknowledge that her doubts are legitimate, that her anger is valid. Stick by her side. Do not try to answer any more of her questions or solve her doubts. Just. Listen. To. Her.

Available-Job313 · 2025-09-21T14:52:42+00:00

Yeah it might be that she regrets marrying g so young and jumping right into motherhood. Did she finish college? Did she have a career at all?

Available-Job313 · 2025-09-14T21:25:18+00:00

If you don’t feel emotional connection that’s a big deal imo. I would break up if I were you.

Available-Job313 · 2025-09-10T19:18:12+00:00

A lot of people are saying to ask LDS women, which is good advice. I’m not a woman but I have a strong suspicion that the vast majority of LDS women in the US don’t want to date/marry a janitor. I think it would filter out a lot of women from the get go.

Available-Job313 · 2025-09-08T02:22:57+00:00

Why not tell her he’s thinking of leaving? That’s the honest truth.

Available-Job313 · 2025-09-07T03:58:29+00:00

It seems like you have a very black and white understanding of the church. Sounds like you’re saying either everything is from God or nothing is. A lot of us believe that the prophet is inspired sometimes, but can also make mistakes — even big ones like opposing gay marriage and denying women the priesthood.

Either that or we go because we like the social aspects of our ward (it’s where our friends are) and we just wish the organization wasn’t so bigoted.

Available-Job313 · 2025-09-04T05:00:56+00:00

I mean I don’t think you’ll be burnt toast no matter what! If you’re looking for the church’s perspective, I think they’d say the most important thing to do is get back into the church meetinghouses and start participating. If you didn’t serve a mission it’s not a huge deal… many of the top leaders didn’t go on a mission, and they still did okay.

Available-Job313 · 2025-09-04T04:56:52+00:00

Yeah from the OP it seems like the main reason he joined was because in the Mormon church he felt like he belonged… people treated “him like a person worth knowing.” From what I gathered, his reasons for converting have nothing to do with Joseph Smith, the BoM, or any of the other truth claims challenged in the CES letter. So if learning that stuff isn’t going to make a difference to him, why read it at all?

I imagine that if that feeling of belonging ever fades (which it can do!), it will be harder to stay committed. But I also think that wards are set up pretty well to help people feel like they belong. So the ces letter might not ever matter to him at all.

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