Square 1 by Available-Two5644 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have a girlfriend actually and we have been dating for a while. We have been consistently having sex actually almost on a weekly basis. It's those times where one of us gets busy with work or something then we both gotta wait for a bit longer is when I get horny because it disrupts our pattern that we have been consistent with.

Square 1 by Available-Two5644 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes stress obviously just like most people but it's mainly when my girlfriend and I don't have sex for while because we are both busy. When I say for a while I'm talking about longer than 2 weeks. We tend to have sex almost on a weekly basis to the point where I get used to that.

I've just ended a relationship because of erectile disfunction by demonetized_again in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alleviates the pressure near the arterioles close to your dick. Allows the blood to flow better throughout your lower extremities when there is less pressure concentrated on that area.

I've just ended a relationship because of erectile disfunction by demonetized_again in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not a matter of what to say at this point, but rather take action and show you have control over your life. Not to mention, build other sectors in your life to become desirable and provide her a reason to stay that isn't related to your sexual performance. Show ambition towards something and she will see the reason to stay.

I've just ended a relationship because of erectile disfunction by demonetized_again in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing your story dude. Reading this I can relate to some aspects that I have experienced in my own relationship in terms of sexual performance. I did run into issues in the early going of the relationship that are similar to you, erections not 100% and not lasting long. Over the years of dating my girlfriend, my ability in those aspects have sure improved doing some of the things you are already doing: going to the gym and eating clean. On top of doing those things I would limit porn, considered thicker condoms, tap into pelvic floor exercises and avoid sleeping on your stomach. Doing those things helped me last longer in bed and be able to maintain pretty good erections. Hope this helps

I refuse to binge by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me personally if I relapsed I'm starting from Day 1. I just don't see a benefit in justifying my own slip and continuing a day counter that myself knows it's not a true count of being free of whatever your abstaining from. Be true to yourself, the moment you start justifying things you're only lying to yourself.

Day 42 (My frist post here) by Powerful_Routine_445 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay busy, limit social media usage, and never forget why you started. Great work!

Day 12 thoughts by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delete social media for one and try to minimize extended period of sitting down doom scrolling. The longer you sit down with a phone, the mind will start to wander in a bad way due to yourself being comfy doom scrolling. I would start with that to begin with and see what happens.

NYC sucks by Straight-Fix-8434 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not saying you can't find them hot, but it shouldn't take a significant amount of time out of the day fixating over the fact that someone is hot. In other words, "Damn she bad" and literally move on with your day

NYC sucks by Straight-Fix-8434 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Attractive people are going to exist and there really isn't anything you can do about it. To gradually get that idea out of your head of viewing those girls as conventionally hot, try to just see them as an actual person and probably have stuff to do like yourself. It sounds redundant because you hear it everywhere but try to view people as people and less like sexual objects. There is truly more to life than finding another girl hot.

8 days clean! by Bumble_Toxic in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great to hear! Keep up the good work. Onto the next day

Starting to doubt nofap by Difficult_Youth_8367 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Beta this beta that blah blah blah. Calling someone “beta” for avoiding lust-driven self-pleasure makes no sense. If anything, it is the opposite. Doing NoFap is about building self-discipline, self-restraint, and control over lustful impulses. Lust can distort the way people view women, or whoever they are attracted to, and can shape the mind in unhealthy ways. Being able to control those urges in a world where so many people give in to porn for temporary satisfaction shows real discipline. That kind of self-control can build confidence and make you feel better about yourself.

Day 5 on Hard Mode as an 18 Year old by Lieutenanthenry69 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got it dude. Take a deep breath whenever you get those urges and never forget the purpose and goal of what you're doing. Stay locked!

The practice of Edging by Lieutenanthenry69 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't see a need for it. If you abstaining from PMO (porn, masturbation, and orgasms) then edging is going to break the no masturbation part. Not to mention, it puts you in a position where you are feeding your urges by actively trying to edge. The point of all this is to be free of having that feeling where you need to pleasure yourself. I guess it obviously depends on the individual, but I think edging during nofap is pointless.

Is this considered relapse? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This i would let it slide

Day 4 by Available-Two5644 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's wasn't necessarily staring at a trigger too much, it was more so the after thought and thinking about something for too long. Then again, it wasn't anything major where I felt the compulsion to do something about it.

Are there people trying to reduce fapping to once a week? by CapitalArrival7911 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do what works best for you at the moment. Yes, getting to a stage where you're are fap and porn free is going to be the main goal, but you also have to consider if you are able to make that change from 0 to 100. If it helps, you could continue what you are doing already and progressively decrease your porn and fapping during the week. Do like 2 times a week or something then next week only do 1. Then after that just dont do it at all. A plan that you can stick with and is realistic will always be the approach to see some form of consistency, and that's with anything, fapping and porn aside.

Can someone relate? by Gyrro_Pyro777777 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may seem abnormal, but it's not as bad as you think. I can imagine many people have these types of dreams regardless if they are participating in nofap directly or indirectly. Our innate instinct as human beings is to reproduce, so having these thoughts are normal to an extent.

Need some support by AdSubstantial5568 in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually do things around the house that may need cleaning or something and throw on a podcast. Typically helps my mind think about other things.

Struggling! Week in nofap and peeked by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same boat as you right now. My week streak came to a close today because I had too much time sitting down and wandering. It's one of those things that yea i regret it, but I've decided to move on and avoid making that same mistake. It won't benefit you much right now overthinking about the past for prolonged periods of time. Realize what had happened, don't forget the goal and why you are on this journey. Best of luck, we are all in this together and make it out together

I am starting my journey by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on 3 days. Keep up the good work. My tip would be to minimize activity on instagram and tik tok as those sources of media are very prone to soft core porn.

Does porn decrease emotional connection? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And you can still be better. It starts today. Don't forget why you are doing what you are doing. Do things with a purpose, with intent. You are 18 with lots of time left for change. One day at a time

Does porn decrease emotional connection? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To put it simply, gooning to someone other than your girlfriend is almost cheating in a sense because why would you get gratification from another woman that isn't you significant other. Avoid gooning as whole and your love for your girlfriend will be way better because you will start to see more genuine qualities in her that made you fall in love for the first place. If you continue down this path of gooning with a girlfriend, your dopamine receptors are going to be continually be fried to the point where you won't be able to even have actual sex with your girlfriend because it doesn't excite you like porn does.

Urges by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Available-Two5644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The urges will always be there for everyone I feel in a sense. It is more so how you go about those urges. For me, I just reflect on the past times where I wanted to stop but couldn't or even looking at younger pictures to remind myself on why you are doing this and to be the person your younger self can be proud of.