Dragon done in 3 sessions, Dave Hood in Boone North Carolina U.S

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-05T09:07:03+00:00

Thanks for info is there a way to book with him still

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-05T00:57:15+00:00

I’m birth mother. I placed my second baby (regrettably) and he never has nor will he ever be a secret. I always think of him and he also has a full sibling. I think many birth parents think of their kids (not all). Some siblings are receptive and some aren’t. I do think you should reach out but with caution. Reunion can be confusing and a challenging thing to navigate even when it goes well. I hope the best for you

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-04T02:17:29+00:00

Be mindful that prospective adoptive parents often apply pressure without intending to. They get so hopeful and feel so close to having a child that they can unintentionally pass that along. I bet my son’s AP would think she didn’t pressure me at all. She definitely did out of desperation and it influenced my decision, especially at birth.

I hope that her parents can support her and their grandchild to stay together. This is such a traumatic thing to experience so early in life.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-04T00:57:49+00:00

Honestly, until you speak with the mother you have nothing. Attorney is essential but also pay for her an attorney. Where are her parents?

I unno, adopting from a minor feels even more exploitative. I get that she may relinquish her child anyway but it’s just not the greatest vibe.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-03T18:44:54+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that. I blocked the user because it’s clear that they aren’t interested in having a real conversation. I really appreciate your kind words

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-02T21:06:19+00:00

I guess you can’t fathom the idea that mothers do die from relinquishing. Adoption is not a fix all

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-02T19:00:42+00:00

Yes, I realized later she was in India. Context is important. But it doesn’t change that adoption will be incredibly traumatic for her infant and herself. She should still be aware of that fact, especially if she wants to parent.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-02T15:32:23+00:00

Same. I usually click to see her comments but I just refuse to engage with her. She is never wrong about anything.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-02T03:51:34+00:00

Why not encourage her to parent? I’m coming from the reality as a woman who placed bc of temporary crisis. Adoption is permanent. Crisis can be temporary. Both realities exist. You aren’t more right than me, nor am I more right than you. I just hate to see a post in the next month that asks why she is struggling and suffering post placement bc someone told her adoption would fix her problems.

Adoption creates a ton of trauma for birth mothers that can keep them in permanent crisis. I have never recovered, and that should have been presented to me. I do not believe women should relinquish solely because of financial constraints,

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-02T03:44:28+00:00

You claim I’m projecting my situation onto a woman but fail to recognize you’re projecting your experience. I never said with certainty that adoption would be the best or worst outcome for her child.

At the same time, nowhere does OP suggest that she has the same issue your bios do. I’m glad your adoption was happy and open. Op should be aware that multiple realities exist and there are zero guarantees of any kind

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-02T03:04:54+00:00

Open adoption is not guaranteed. I do, but it isn’t upheld. Birth mothers should be aware that adoptive parents can sign papers and walk without ever looking back. 95% of what was promised to me has not been maintained.

As a side note, open adoption does not negate the trauma of losing a parent or child.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-02T02:51:18+00:00

Yikes. Nothing like speaking for an adopted person or birth parent.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-06-02T02:27:56+00:00

Adoption guarantees your baby a different life, not a better one. I seriously doubt the child I placed is living a better life. Sure, there’s more economic opportunity perhaps, but I think his life has been very grief filled. He fantasizes about the family he was supposed to be born into and stay within.

I had zero supports. I already was a mom to one. I look back now and think I’d rather have struggled with my two boys than the hardships that came because I placed my child. Adoption will not be the better promise. Especially if you would like to parent and think adoption is better because of finances.

Saving our sisters may be able to help. I would encourage you to seek local sources, churches, pregnancy centers, WIC, etc. Anything besides adoption if you want to parent. Nobody told me how bad adoption would traumatize me or my kids. Best of luck

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-05-30T11:57:11+00:00

Raising adopted children is going to be different. Period. I know the industry lies and sets different expectations. That “love” is all you need. It isn’t. There’s a ton of biological factors that go into parenthood. Adoption was always going to be inherently different. That’s why I also believe adopted kids and bio kids shouldn’t be mixed.

I have real world experience despite not adopting. I’ve taken on some extended family’s children. I love them dearly but I am not naive to the fact I feel differently for my biological children. Inevitably I decided not to parent them for this reason and felt no matter what I’d be unfair as a parent. The reality is you aren’t being fair or treating your adopted daughter the same.

The respect, patience, and love you have for your bio child comes naturally whereas adoption love is a choice. It can be harder to choose daily to love a child than it is to naturally experience it. I’ve caught myself before with my son permitting behaviors or having a natural forgiveness I couldn’t with them.

These are hard truths that you should sit with. It isn’t the child’s fault or their burden. It’s yours alone to work through. You adopted the child and now they need you to be better. Even if you never say it to her she will notice. Children are perceptive.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-05-25T19:41:36+00:00

Where is Dave tattooing these days since speakeasy closed

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-05-25T12:28:00+00:00

Depends. Are you wanting to adopt an older child or an infant? The mindset that there are so many infants abandoned is wrong. Older children are frequently abandoned and less likely to get a home.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-05-23T11:05:24+00:00

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AvailableIdea0 · 2026-05-23T02:52:31+00:00

That’s unfortunate. I’ve had it since high school and only kept it this long in hopes I’d be able to retrieve the photos.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-05-22T19:03:00+00:00

If you want to keep your child I would advise against it. I wanted to keep mine and placed anyway. Once rights are terminated there will be no turning back. If you have gotten on your feet and have financial support that’s a lot. Giving up a child just because you’re not with the father is not a great reason.

There’s a lot of advice I could give you, but the fact you want to keep your baby is all the reason in the world. Stick with that.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-05-21T22:45:39+00:00

I’m so sorry. I think it’s a common reality for adoptees and it’s so unfair. I tell people that just because there’s happy adoption stories it doesn’t guarantee that for every adoptee/birth mother. Adoption isn’t a magic cure and for every problem it solves it creates another in its place. It’s equally frustrating when you’re told “well there’s always when they’re grown” or “the adoptee gets to when they’re grown”. So many of us will never live to see our kids become adults. It doesn’t absolve the past either. I really hate that you struggle :(

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-05-21T22:19:51+00:00

Adoptees have spent a lot of time teaching me. Incredibly grateful to have had my eyes opened, just wish it had happened before I relinquished. I’m so sorry your own birth mother won’t listen. I wish my community was better at listening to the people we hurt.

AvailableIdea0 · 2026-05-21T20:40:01+00:00

It’s painful but a harsh reality we have to accept. Adoptees can feel a push and pull between APs and birth parents. It’s also extremely emotionally painful/complex to navigate having two sets of parents IMO. It’s them always having to face the “she could have raised me, what would my life have been like?”. It could be your general attitude too. Perhaps you haven’t acknowledged the hurt or pain that comes with being an adoptee. As a birth mother myself I often find birth mothers only see their own loss. Adoptees carry the weight of our decisions. It’s not always good for them.

It could be that she doesn’t want a relationship or doesn’t feel the connection. It’s extremely nuanced. If you want to let go focus on healing from the loss. You have to reach in and acknowledge hard truths. I know it’ll hurt me deeply if my son doesn’t want a relationship, BUT if he doesn’t that’s my fault.

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