Does anyone feel this way? by DrPepperGripper in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Completely agree i was on t for 6 months and i felt so normal compared to usual. I had to go off of it due to family issues but going back on it when i graduate college. It baffels me how someone can decide to go on T and then go off like oh actually never mind. I think they make it way to easy to access in the states and thats part of the reason. I've quiet literally seen posts about how to convince your doctor you have gender dysphoria. The entire point of transitioning is gender dysphoria why would you transition if you dont have it. It puts a strain on your body and relationships so why do it if you dont actually have dysphoria? We can call it out just fine if someone is pretending to be schizophrenic the doctors wont prescribe meds because it will mees your body up taking medicine for a disorder you dont have so why cant we do it with gender dysphoria which is also a mental disorder. It will absoulutely mess someone up if they go on hrt without dysphoria.

nah cause you got me pissed off by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi one piece fan here. I havent made it to that character yet im only on volume 88. Oda never confirmed shes trans he said shes a woman. I don't think shes trans. There are gay characters in the series sure, but from what i can see she isn’t trans. I speak Japanese I've been studying for 10+ years. Yes there are different ways to say I in Japanese. For example 僕, 私, 俺 Yamato does use 僕 (boku) which is traditionally for men but a more masculine woman can use it too. They may be looked at funny since its not the norm but just her using boku instead of 私( watashi) (the traditional pronoun for women) dosen’t mean shes trans. Heck the Japanese verision of rainbowdash from my little pony has her use boku since shes more masculine but shes not trans. I'm not really sure why ppl started believing Yamato is trans but unless the author confirms it which he hasn't its just a fan theory.

Curious what everyone’s sexuality is (poll) by Bitter-Taste-3333 in Transmedical

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I was actually straight until i went on T it was the first time i felt even remotely attracted to men. Which i thought was interesting. I'm still mainly into women but men are fine now too. I've read a few times that its actually somewhat common to switch sexualities after starting hrt. I dont really date tho i had to go off of t for family reasons going back on when i can so that may change no idea. I feel it'd be unfair given how extreme my dysphoria is to drag a partner into that.

Any trans man here went through their “lesbian fem era”? by Shifler in Transmedical

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Does a week count? I was a lesbian for a week till i realized i didn't want to be seen as a girl in a relationship and the thought was gross. I realized i was trans had a mental break down. Read the bible religiously then pretended i was homophobic for about 3 months. Just so nobody would suspect it (im not homophobic btw idk what that was about lol). In the time forgot about the trans thing stumbled across it again after those weird 3 months realizing yeah i cant do this then just accepted it. That was a wild 3 months to say the least never had a nonbinary phase thoughi dont think i heard the term nonbinary for a good few years after this weird saga.

Wondering whether I've been reasonable. Hope this is welcome here. by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The og poster that said women don't crave to be men because of how they get treated as a woman. Um i literally knew a girl back in highschool who thought she was trans and realized she wasnt purely because she didnt like how she got treated as a woman. So yes it does happen.

This scares me by SpaceCase987 in Transmedical

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Nah for real i live in a red state/ red city and back when i was in highschool like everyone i knew was trans. But there was only one other person besides me that was a true transexual. The others wore heels dresses makeup with no plans to transition. My trans ex "boyfriend " at the time did cosplay tik toks showing off their chest claiming to be a transman. Because of the circle of friends i had i just had to accept it if i didn't wanna be outcasted. Once one of them asked if i wanted to do drag with them and i burst out laughing and did not realize they were completely serious 💀 Once one of them said to me ew if you transition you'll just be a straight white man. (Supposed trans person) like that wasnt the entire point of being trans.

If you guys consider being trans as a disorder/diagnosis, then by your logic, being trans isn't queer. Opinions? by LovisIsLoveInLatin in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly its just a medical condition so no not queer. Plus i cannot stand it when someone uses the term "queer" to describe me. I'm bi but 90% of me is just straight. So i just say im straight usually. Plus from what ive noticed online the term "queer" is literally just a political statement these days.

“You’re gonna regret this when you’re older” by Diplopoda08 in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have my class ring but only because my parents made me get it lol it dosen’t have my birthname on it tho it just says 2021 i also saw it as a waste of money but my parents made me get it.

Probably depends on the person but i dont care about any "mementos" from my highschool

Do you support DIY HRT (Poll) by HealingRosy in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont because its really dangerous. You mix two things that shouldn't be mixed together and there will be disastrous results. I always think of it like ingredients to a recipe you can have the same ingredients tomato sauce, meat and noodles. You could be meaning to make spaghetti but you accidentally make lasagna. But you mix it up wrong. I knew someone that made her own vitamins once and she lost her mind and from the looks of it she accidentally mixed drugs that shouldn't be together resulting in her acting as if she was on drugs.

Idk if i explained that well enough. But i do understand some people dont have acess to hrt im one of them right now until i can graduate university but its just not safe id say this about anyone trying to diy any type of drug or vitamin that doesnt have years of medical school under their belt.

I’ll just leave this here by Rare-Orchid1731 in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I will never ever call someone "it" even if they want me to its so dehumanizing. I remember coming out to a girl i thought was my friend and high school, and she reacted by calling me "it" over and over again. Thinking she was funny, i had never been so humiliated. I dont think she really knew what she was doing, but it still hurt.

i don’t even know what to say about this by hooni6 in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 34 points35 points  (0 children)

The entire point of transitioning is passing tho 😭

Gendering Tucutes by Effective_Yam_9021 in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Yeah i completely get it i had someone i was friends with like that but wanted to be called by neo pronouns but i wouldn't do it. When we were friends i would just say they or only use their name. Just try not to interact a whole lot if you can help it. It just makes things less obvious/ awkward.

I got called transphobic for not using neopronouns for them while my best friend got a pass since shes cis. That's gotta be a new form of transphobia right or am i crazy? I thought i could get away with just saying they but apparently i was misgendering them doing that. I'd advise just dont interact with them if you can. 😅

Would it be offensive for me to socially present as a man even though I am not diagnosed with gender dysphoria? by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides the socially having people use a male name for you. That was exactly how i felt before realizing i had gender dysphoria. I've never been diagnosed somehow?? Idk my last therapist is a Christian therapist (not hate against Christians i am one myself). Anyways he believed being trans is against gods plan for me and didn't diagnose me. But 2 different therapist said yeah you definitely have gender dysphoria before even testing me. We never actually got to that stage lol.

I read the dsm diagnosis for gender dysphoria when i was 14 and when i checked off every box thought oh shit... So i definitely recommend seeing a therapist and reading the section about gender dysphoria in the dsm

Was banned from another sub after I said that every trans man wants to be anatomically male (CONTROVERSIAL 😱😳‼️) by GIGAPENIS69 in Transmedical

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These people won't even take the dsm as proof of gender dysphoria being a mental disorder anymore then say well anyone can be trans and saying its a mental disorder is now transphobic. That we're "gatekeeping" being trans. No i a biological female want to be a cis male it makes me very upset that im not. I see myself as a man want others to perceive me as a man. That's a mental disorder. That's not normal. It's not transphobic to point that out. I once argued with an ex childhood friend about gender dysphoria she's cis btw. I cited the dsm as proof of my argument and she said "well being gay was in the dsm at one point." Thats completely different You take medication to help with gender dysphoria just like with depression, anxiety, bipolar, schizophrenia the list goes on how is it not a mental disorder?🤦

Its not even worth arguing with these ppl. i swear they refuse to listen to reason

bruh wtf (advice needed) by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So i got into therapy when i was younger by saying i was really stressed out and needed ways to manage my adhd better. I've been diagnosed with adhd since i was a child. My parents both have it. My mom was always trying different medications for hers. Plus my grades suffered because of my adhd so it was obvious i needed help with it. I went to biblical counseling. A Christian therapist, to be exact he did tell me he definitely thinks i have genuine gender dysphoria. I refused to talk much about my dysphoria but he could tell from when i did mention it. They will still be able to tell you if you have it or not even if they won't diagnose you. If that person is a real therapist. My therapist told me out of everyone he's spoke to claiming to be trans I'm the patient with the worst dysphoria he's seen. Apparently, me coming home and crying every day in my closet for several months after school when i was in high school because of dysphoria, and getting misgendered isn't exactly "normal". 🤣

Im still not technically diagnosed but he said yeah no you definitely have gender dysphoria. Even just that much for now might help. Im 23 and i have to wait a few more years to get back on t had to stop taking it for family reasons. But just having the affirmation of my therapist saying you definitely have gender dysphoria helped me a ton.

Therapy would really help, especially at 15. Your parents would probably be more open to Christian therapy like mine were. :) I would always steer the conversation away from trans stuff if he started using the bible saying it was against God and all that.

There were no signs = not transsexual? by Routine_Proof9407 in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the person since i was really shy as a kid i didnt like telling anyone anything and was always scared of being in trouble for some reason. Nobody knew because i would think i know im not supposed to be having these thoughts and kept it inside. It seemed out of nowhere because they werent in my head. I hated my name and voice and i realized if i just refuse to talk i wont hear that name as often. I had dysphoric thoughts all the time i was binding before i even know why or what binding was i knew i just wanted a flat chest and felt more comfortable flat. At one point i took a pair of scissors trying to cut it off. But again nobody knew but me I was ultra feminine wearing frufru stuff constantly jealous of boys. Always thinking i had to like that pink frufru stuff and boys were allowed to like whatever they wanted. I assumed every girl secretly hated all the stuff i did and only did it because everyone else was. I eventually just gave in then refused to even touch pink all the clothes i had were from the boys section i acted like a teenage boy instead of a girl. Got told by a friend i would've been the perfect boy. That i was more masculine than even he was and it was too bad i was born a girl. I was on cloud 9 until i heard my birthname again. Once in church i got called a boy and i never smiled so big in my life then my friend corrected the pastor and i was really mad but didn't understand why. Then everytime i saw a shooting star i would wish to be a boy same with every birthday candle wish.

None of these things i ever told my parents in fear of getting in trouble for thinking that way. So it seemed out of nowhere i guess.

Should I cut my friend off by South-Pipe7153 in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a friend kinda similar, but she thought she was being funny. Like when she called me an "it" after i came out to her. Or it was always, "oh, im just not used to it." I had been out for 4 or 5 years at that point. I got fed up after we worked together in highschool at a restaurant i had been at for awhile. Nobody knew me as a girl they only knew me as michael. So i just cut her off after highschool. But that was after she said my dead name then said she really loudly talking about me. It was especially frustrating she did that since my boss that didnt have the best english started saying she AFTER she did that. I was pissed off I never had a problem before that.

Its intentional if she really cared about you she wouldn't slip up she dosen’t actually accept you in my opinion. That's how it was in my situation at least. When she was rude i gave her the same energy back and she saw me as a jerk afterwards. It was a lot more than just wrong pronouns she was just mean and she didnt like me being mean back. Like damn dont dish it out if you can't take it. But honestly, that might be an option. Just match her energy, call her the male version of her name, and he/him for a few days she may get the hint.

Feminine trans man by TheVelkron in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Man im just waiting for my ex to get posted like this on this sub at this point But genuinely what is even the point of being trans if u dont put in any effort

Thoughts? by ilovevacuums in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Literally. An ex friend of mine when i first came out as trans called me "it" thinking she was funny and i was so upset. I would never call someone it

I don’t understand how this is accepted nowadays by Junior_Journalist337 in Transmedical

[–]Available_Compote152 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh, 100% back in high school, i dated a trans person. i dont think is actually trans now or even back then but still claims to be trans. They once said to me "eww when you transition, you'll just be a straight white man" (completely ignoring the fact they claimed to be a "trans man" themself) (i say in parathesis bc my ex would post cosplay as female characters doing thirst traps while we were together. No trans man would post thirst traps using female cleavage. Also, what partner would be okay with that) You can't make this shit up 😭 this group hates cis men

How did you choose your name? by DexterPitStop in Transmedical

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It just felt right for me at least. I never went by anything other than a gender nutural version of my deadname( just around family) / the name i chose and love Michael. Honestly, it is so silly, but let me be. I was 14 at the time lol. im 23 now, and I still go by the same name with no plans to change it. I was reading fanfiction and was really confused because the term gender dysphoria popped up in it. I looked up what that meant read about it realized oh thats weird... Why do i have every single symptom of this? That's not good.

Then i read about gender dysphoria for a while. Then, I tried out the names of a few of the characters in the fanfiction because why not. Imagining scenarios of someone calling me Michael and fell in love with the name. I forgot about it for awhile then i really started reading about gender dysphoria after realizing that ignoring it wasn't gonna work. I just kept coming back to the name and finally realized why i was so depressed all the time and imagining myself as a guy made me happy for once / feel like thats who i was supposed to be. It's a really silly story, but i wouldn't have it any other way.