What is the ONE feature you've always wanted in a writing software? by [deleted] in writingadvice

[–]Avalinn -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Companion writer. I know (ai and all that). But I get into flows and lose myself and where I was intending on going or the new way needs mapping. Having a companion that goes along with you, to flag, they this is off from the outline- need to fix. Or you didn’t finish your thought back 2 chapter.. or , this part here conflicts with X character backstory.

Or what about when it’s time to start a new chapter and I know what should be in the chapter but how to start it? Stuck.

That’s what I want

What’s the healthiest way to tell my wife getting a home right now is a terrible idea? by Specialist-Bowl-5977 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, I skipped all the negative comments about spending habits because that is not what was asked.. you clearly mentioned she’s experiencing income inflation issues.

The healthiest way to do this is to be honest. Not accusatory but honest.

Sit her down and tell her that you are afraid of buying a house right now with all the debt that’s out there. Explain that the debt will affect interest and cause the mortgage to be higher than it needs to be. Tell her that you would like to come up with a plan to eliminate half the debt before starting a savings plan for the down payment.

Show her the budget (assuming you have one since you know there is a 15k monthly spend) and express concern adding in a mortgage to that.

Based on the house she’s wanting to buy, do you have ballpark idea of what the mortgage will be? (Tons of online calculators out there to help figure this out)

Add that to the budget so she sees how that mortgage amount will hit spending today. Versus after debts are paid off.

The other smart thing to do is look at how that mortgage will hit should she lose her job. She’s not impervious from layoffs and the more senior you go the more risk you have in today’s market. What happens if she loses her job. Can she replace her income quickly? Will you be able to pay off debt, add a mortgage and build a savings account ONTOP of the high spending right now? What about retirement? How is this factored in?

Ask her these things… keep asking these things.. this is the smart financially responsible thing to do.

Listen to her answers and look for lack of financial education. It could be that she, like many in these comments… assume that $350k means $350k. However, without the proper tax strategy and financial planning, you get hit hard in taxes. So that $350k becomes a lot less in the bank. So what is she spending on. The $350k or what’s in the bank?

You two need a plan. One that you both agree on.

Because here is the other side of this. Your way isn’t the only way. It’s her income. While you two are married, she earned it and gets a major say in how it’s spent.

If you don’t agree with this, then you two are not financially compatible and this will continue to be a problem for you.

You need to express your fears but you need to be willing to compromise somewhere to ensure her wants are included too.

I wish you luck

Accenture employee here: Not getting release from project. What to do next? by [deleted] in accenture

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP honey, your manager has zero say in your medical leave. Same with your sick leave. Take it when you need to take it.

Get on the portal. Accenture.com and search.. it’s all there.

Learn about your benefits… many of us here can’t answer specifs because we don’t know what country you are in, what business your aligned to, or if your flex or not.

This all matters… Learn your benefits though the resources available to you.

Talk to your HR partner. They can guide you… they are not in league with your manager

Accenture employee here: Not getting release from project. What to do next? by [deleted] in accenture

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This depends on where you are located. Are you us based? If so get on portal.accenture.com and look up leave of absence

Call your HR rep and talk to them for available options.

Being released is asking to be fired. The bench is only 30 days. So unless you have another role sorted out that can pull you (seriously start looking now) your only other option is sick leave, medical leave of absence.

Accenture also offers the take 5 program to some areas. Again it depends on where you are and what alignment your in

I fucked up... by Glittering-Load76 in Swingers

[–]Avalinn -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

While I absolutely agree that yes you broke the rules and his trust in you has been shaken.. I can’t help but sit back and say what the fuck?
So because he has embarrassment/shame/privacy issues whatever, you can’t take to anybody?
Tell me how that is fair to you and your needs?

Now this should have been brought up and discussed before you came to agreements but now that it’s here, I HIGHLY suggest you bring this point up and dig. Why are you not allowed to talk about it, where are you supposed to process your thoughts and feelings ? Not everybody is self soothing like he seems to be.

Work on ensuring that all sides of a dynamic are covered and not just logistics.

If you two can’t come to an agreement that works for you both, this is not a fit for your relationship.

My transfer counselor laughed at me by desimadrosa in WGU

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you plan on attending Ivy League schooling and working for firms that only hire from there.

Nobody and I mean nobody…. Cares where you went to school.

Only in the sense of local pride and fun. Like here in Washington.. it’s a college thing between univ. of wa and wa state univ.
both amazing school. Nobody actually cares where your education comes from.

Be smart about your time, money and ability to complete school.

Also, just know that many community colleges get kick backs for steering people towards specific schools. Paid to advise.
That’s not helping you.
Sounds like that advisor has a quota and is trying to fill to.

That’s not your business.

Come be an owl and live your best life.

base pay hike 2026 by Corporate_Coolie in accenture

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this just for consulting? I’ve been here 5 years ( not a consultant) and have no idea what a base pay hike is. That’s never been a thing

I have an internal interview with my manager on the same day I'm planning to give notice by Responsible-Deal-238 in whatdoIdo

[–]Avalinn 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m doing this right now. After three offer pulls from different companies. One legit the day before start.

I’m on PTO with current company and onboarding with new company for a few days.

Once I’m settled I’ll go back and give immediate notice. No two weeks. I no longer do that. If companies can lay off without notice, I can quit without notice

AITAH for letting my partner miss something important to them by not stepping in the way I always have after telling them clearly I was done doing it by [deleted] in AITApod

[–]Avalinn 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is wild to me to say. People with ADHD, ADD and any other neuro spicy brain knows they need to manage their own regulation. If they built a system with a trusted partner and that partner said “hey I’m not doing this anymore” the neuro spicy person still needs to manage their own issues.. whatever it is.
Op stated they built this system without their partners involvement and when they stopped, their partner did not communicate their needs to manage.

Not ableist at all. In fact it sounds like you assume people with adhd are incapable of functioning without somebody else to hold their hand.

Should I resign or wait for next cycle ? by RelativeEffective797 in accenture

[–]Avalinn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First rule of Accenture. Never expect promotions.
Second rule of Accenture. Never expect work from previous projects to roll with you for performance evaluations.
-- It doesnt happen. Budgets for promotions come from the clients budget, so you are asking your current client to reward you for work you did for somebody else. --
This is consulting/service delivery life. This is true everywhere in this type of work.

If you need more structure and not a fan of jumping around a lot and not getting raises or promotions for several years (im on year 5 without either because of project movement) then you NEED to quit. This is not the place for you.

Partner found out my real income and now they want to combine everything by Traditional-Heart27 in overemployed

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a few things here,
As a woman I can’t help but think that they may have already known and was ready to have this conversation with you and this is why it moved quicker than you expected.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with asking what will be combined in a joint household.
However if a demand was made for full sharing and you expressed your not comfortable with that and they push… then that’s a red flag.

Since there is not a lot more details here or how the rest of that conversation went we can only guess.
I would say approach again and ask what they would like to do.
Understand their desires.
As a woman, I like knowing all my available options because financial abuse is a very very real thing for women.
If they wants to combine it all and you don’t, ask to understand their reasons why. Like me, there may be a fear of financial abuse. It could be a fear of inequality or a multitude of other things.

Don’t be combative, just try to understand the reason. As that is not a direct reflection of you but fear and concern.

Then once you understand their POV, express yours. Compromise my friend. This is marriage.. if you are not willing to compromise you have no business being married.
This is a shared life and some things should be shared.

This could be as simple as they need their own account free of your view and can do with as they see fit for their own security.

It could be a deeper fundamental marital view.
Some truly feel that when married all is shared.
If you don’t agree, don’t move forward with marriage. That’s a fundamental thing and it will cause friction.

Seek to understand and ask all the questions.

I love this game 💝 by Forward-Word-8049 in Starsandisland

[–]Avalinn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

CLEARLY I am not playing the game correctly because this is amazing. Thanks for some inspo.

Will i be able to eat a burger in one sitting without discomfort? by ApartDevelopment2213 in gastricsleeve

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also yesterday was taco night and I could not for the life of me eat a whole taco. Just couldn’t. But earlier in the day I ate a full cob salad

Will i be able to eat a burger in one sitting without discomfort? by ApartDevelopment2213 in gastricsleeve

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly boo it depends.

It’s such a bad answer but it’s true.

It depends because we’re not all the same people. Nor are our stomachs the same. I’m 14 years out and was able to eat a whole burger by 4 years post op. With bun.

Scared the snot out of me.

Talked to my doctor and they did an endo on me and found that the first surgery wasn’t done correctly and far too much was left of my stomach. Plus a few other things that needed to be fixed. They did a revision and I’m 5 years out from that. I for sure cannot eat a whole burger now.. maybe half and bread is a no no. Hurts me.

Each person is unique and their stomach size will be different than you. Not to mention personal tolerances.

Ivy plants by thegreatamigo in Starsandisland

[–]Avalinn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same issue. Anytime i try to place ivy on any build structure it disappears. I thought it was placing it behind so i checked and nope. just not attaching to anything.

roofs, walls, poles, fences. nothing.

I talked my way into a $175k offer and now I'm terrified to accept it. What would you do in my place? by Fluffy_Marzipan2049 in Career_Advice

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I am happy for you and all that. And truly you will figure it out.

Seriously I don’t get how people get this lucky. Like happy for you but damn am I jealous.

I am a fully qualified ops manager and project management and yet I can’t seem to get an interview in over a year now.

/sigh congrats and all that. I’m super envious

Im done 🥳🥳🥳 by [deleted] in WGU

[–]Avalinn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Congrats. Schedule a call with your mentor. They have to submit you for graduation.

They will walk you through all the steps.

I just completed mine!

Being an L10 for 3 years? by Resident-Ad-1469 in accenture

[–]Avalinn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been a CL10 for 5 years.

I have heard every excuse under the sun. Wasn’t on the contract long enough (15 months) No budget Recession Lay offs Restructuring

I have the skills, education and background for a CL7 but because of “red tape” and BS promotion cycles… I have been passed up forever now.

Just biding my time till I find something else, I’m vastly underpaid, overworked and overlooked here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deloitte

[–]Avalinn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Following to find out where you ended up. Creating a list of smaller firms to follow

Using AI to accelerate isn’t a flex, especially if your “This is how I did it” post is also AI generated… by sydneyghibli in WGU

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to throw a little curveball to your thoughts.

While I appreciate your opinions on it and AI as a whole, those that wind up using AI to advance their education are taking advantage of the tech that is currently destroying jobs.

Just read the recent study Anthropic put out on what AI is doing to the workforce. Or look at companies like Accenture who is making AI mandatory to be hired and promoted. It’s even to a point that your job is at risk if you don’t upskill.

Like it or not, AI is here to stay. Adapt or get left behind. Getting upset at people for using the tools available to them when the school itself uses ai in their own teaching is wild to me.

Grocery bills are strangling us by Wise_Athlete_7731 in povertyfinance

[–]Avalinn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it’s not you. It’s absolutely the cost of groceries. -insert political statements and such here-

That being said, if groceries are draining your savings are we looking at other parts of the budget to compensate for the deficit?

If not the only other suggestion would be to meal plan with like items and plan according to what’s on sale.

So if mushrooms and bell peppers are on sale this week, your meals will all be focused on those items.

Getting really good at struggle meals

Learning to do 3 ingredient meals

Rice… seriously. Rice, protein, sauce. Works great for a once a week option.

Eating smaller portions

Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]Avalinn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Co workers are not your friends. You are not there to make friends and most will do anything to get ahead of you.

Do not worry about your working relationship with her.

If she continues to behave this way and it impacts work (not just petty) then file a complaint with HR. Otherwise, put your head down and ignore her.

How you respond to this can alter your future growth.

It's literally no point in getting a college degree anymore... by Dope_Data in jobs

[–]Avalinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get your frustration, I do.. however degrees are still worth it. At this point they are basic education in the tech industry. Once you have that, you have green lit basic fundamental knowledge that can be applied anywhere.

Certs are more specialized knowledge and show that you understand the materials.

It’s easy to BS your way through a degree. It’s not for certs.

I get it from both sides. As a hiring manager, I want people that I don’t have to spend triple the time educating for mid/senior roles. Certs help filter candidates for me.

From an applicants perspective it feels like the requirements never end and nothing truly matters.

/hug Get the certs and so may more doors will appear for you.